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I am finding from mamas that the Moses Basket is a waste, because it will last no time. I am nervous about the nb being *in bed* so I'm getting a sidecar. Now, the adage for naps is nap when the baby's napping and I'll be able to sling him too. But, as they grow what do I do? I haven't gotten the sidecar yet; but, is it a pain to move it? (Arms Reach Sleigh) Mama remembered she had a portacrib with me; but, I really like the arms reach idea better. How do yall handle it? Thanks! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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There are many different ways to handle this issue. This was a big puzzler before I had dd for me too, so I hear where you're coming from. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I was like you, in that I couldn't imagine actually having the baby "in" the bed, so we also have a side-car crib. I honestly thought she would sleep in the crib, I would scootch her over to me, nurse her, put her back, etc. I also thought she would sleep in the crib for naps. Nope! That may work for some people, but it didn't work for us. I found that my baby would only sleep in my arms, right next to me or on my chest. After a few nights of sleeping on the couch or in the recliner, I decided that was actually MORE dangerous than just bringing her into the bed with us. When she was real little, she would sleep with her head on my arm, so that I was completely sure I couldn't roll over onto her (it's impossible in this position imo), or on my chest (she wasn't very wiggly). Now that she's bigger, she sleeps just right next to me. It's really cute- she'll sleep on her side facing me, and I'm on my side or my back, and she'll often through her arm on me like she's "hugging" me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
Oh, and the few times she actually did sleep in the sidecar, I got so lonely for her, I couldn't sleep and just layed there and waited until she stirred so I could bring her over to me. If you can fight that urge, then maybe you could get your baby used to being side-carred... I really never gave her a chance.<br><br>
As for naps, she naps in my lap on the boppy- either on the couch, and I'll read or watch TV, or at the computer and I surf. Sometimes she'll nap in the sling- with my next one, I'll probably encourage that more. For now, this works for us, since she's our only child. Oh, and she also naps well in the car, so we plan outings around nap times, allowing for a long drive so she'll be well-rested when we get to our destination.<br><br>
Sorry for the saga... there is no hard and fast way of approaching this issue I think, it's really finding the solution that works for you and your family. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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thanks for replying, elizabeth! I was wondering if that boppy, or hugster, which mama bought would work for naps too. So, I'll have that and then the pouch as two tools I can try.<br><br>
I look forward to other responses.
 

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I always recommend that parents don't but things *before* they need them because you just never know. I actually had a crib for DC (luckily, it was a loaner) and we never used it because we ended up being perfectly happy co-sleeping. She is still co-sleeping but we did end up getting a single bed mattress also, which we use as an add on to our double mattress -- one giant bed on the floor -- it's wonderful!<br><br>
There are some ways around some co-sleeping issues. What exactly do you think your family sleep needs/worries will be?<br><br>
We did/do have an issue with co-sleeping, which was what I thought your thread was about, in that DC goes to sleep before us and is normally very restless without us in bed. She is much older now and can just call for us but when she was a smaller child I usually just slung her until we were all ready for bed.<br><br>
Also, when some children fall asleep in the sling, you can just lay them down and slip out of the sling wherever you are -- this has always worked well as a solution for keeping our sleeping child close.
 

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You know - it is so hard to know when baby isn't here yet! I have three, and they have all been very different.<br><br>
DD1 would only sleep (for the longest time) in our arms. At night time, she wanted to be on my chest.<br><br>
Luckily, she was our first, so I pretty much just napped with her. We did have a swing with her, and she would sleep in that (when she was tiny), so if I needed to get something done, I'd let her sleep in there.<br><br>
DD2 slept much better out of arms. So when she was tiny, I'd let her nap in her car seat in whatever room I was in (I didnt' know about slings then). That actually lasted forever, as she slept so well in her car seat!<br><br>
DS - he's very easy to get down. I just put him in our bed, with pillows on one side and I nurse him until he falls asleep. Then I pile pillows on the other side of him, and that's where he sleeps - I do this both at nap time and when he goes to bed before we do in the evening.<br><br>
That NEVER would have worked with dd1, but it works just fine for him. He actually sleeps better without you there (if he's snuggled up to me at night, he wakes every 1-1.5 hours and is quite fretful; if he's spread out and not touching me, he wakes every 4 hours or so...).<br><br>
So...I'd agree with ICM that waiting until babe is here and he/she lets you know how what they prefer is a good idea! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Hi, Letia. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
I totally agree with this. Each child is different, and it's just so hard to predict what it will really be like having a baby! I *especially* wouldn't worry about what to do when the co-sleeper gets too small, since that's a ways down the road! FWIW, we used a sidecar that dh built at first, and when dd got too big for that, we switched to a crib mattress--but we sleep on a futon, so we were only about 12 inches off the floor.<br><br>
My main advice would be to remain open to what sleeping arrangement will work for you and your family. I know hardly anyone who stuck to their pre-baby plan of how it was going to work!<br><br>
Best wishes to you!
 

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Chances are pretty good that you will end up with your n/b sleeping on your chest, lol.<br><br>
ITA that you should save your money until you know you need one.<br><br>
Here's a 'recipe' for a home-made "snuggle nest". Take a long towel, like a beach towel, and roll it up along the long side. Then make a circle (or an oval) out of the rolled up towel. Lay a receiving blanket on top of it, and VOILA! an instant "snuggle nest".<br><br>
When baby napped and I didn't want to nap, I lay her on the sofa. I lay a thin blanket over it so that there were no crevasses for her to fall into. Two things that made this possible: DD rarely moved while napping and also, I was always around. I was either on the computer, watching TV, reading, or doing chores that centred around the room with the sofa, so I was always watching her.<br><br>
I'm actually thinking with this next one that it might be nice to have somewhere to put him, since I'll have a toddler running around. I haven't quite decided what to get for that purpose. I figure by the time he is 5 or 6 months, I'll be able to lay him down alone on the bed (keep in mind we live in small apartments, so we don't even need monitors: baby is always within earshot and often within sight, too).<br><br>
I don't want to buy anything b/c you never know what kind of sleeper they will be anyways. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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