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at 14 weeks an ultrasound detected I was having twins. They are diamniotic/dichorionic and so far uncomplicated (today I am 18 weeks). We WERE seeing midwives at the only freestanding birth center in North Carolina until the diagnosis of twins, which sent me directly to OB care since now I'm considered "high risk"<br><br>
my husband and I have watched a couple of videos pertaining to hospital-birthed twins and knowing what I KNOW as well (I interestingly used to be an RN in the same L&D unit I will now deliver) how twins deliveries are handled I just feel so powerless and out of control about my situation<br><br>
my doctor pretty much said up front even IF I <i>can</i> deliver both vaginally it is the rule (and I kind of already knew this) that I have to do it in the OR, in case of a C-section. I just KNOW my body will clamp down and I feel feel too much pressure to "perform" etc. I KNOW this unit I used to work in is all about the bottom line.<br><br>
Where can I find info about homebirthing twins in North Carolina? Is it just illegal? I mean if my midwives went ahead and sent me to perinatologists and maternal fetal med. people I'm screwed, right?
 

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Well *I* birthed both twins vaginally in an OR, and so have other mamas here, so it's possible. However, I had mono/di MZ twins, so I would have been risked out for a homebirth. (My next birth, a singleton, was at a birth center, and this one will be a homebirth.)<br><br>
And, yeah, if you're in a hospital, it might be stressful, loud, full of lots of people just dying to cut you open, etc. Not an ideal situation. I feel BLESSED that I was able to birth both kids vaginally; sometimes I don't know how I did it. (Actually I do know: I had an awesome doula who really helped me.)<br><br>
My advice: find the hb mws in your state and see what they say. Some mws will catch twins, some won't.<br><br>
Another option: <a href="http://www.thefarmmidwives.org/" target="_blank">The Farm</a>. They catch twins.<br><br>
Explore your options. If you really want a hb and you're low risk, you can have one.<br><br>
For some inspiration, let me tell you about finding a hb mw for myself for this pregnancy. I am 10 min from the Cali border, in Ariz. There are no hb mw for 3h any direction. I found a mw willing to come from 3h away in Cali. Then she changed her mind. I found another mw willing to come from the same city in Cali -- as long as she could get licensed in Ariz in time. This would be no problem because she could take the Ariz NARM well before my edd. Then they changed the NARM date, and she decided she could not attend my birth if she wasn't licensed here. By that time, I was about 18w, and all of the Phoenix mw were booked, and none of the So Cal mw were willing to come here without being licensed in AZ. I CRIED. I came on mdc to moan and whine, and still felt determined to have a homebirth. After reading my saga, a mw in Louisiana offered to come all the way out here to Arizona to attend me.<br><br>
So, if *I* can get a homebirth, anyone can. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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If you really want a hb I would call around and just keep looking for someone that will do it. My mw told me no at first too and I ended up finding someone 4hrs away that said she would do a hb but ended up not calling her and having my original mw. I remember having the same feelings as you. Like I could not give birth in that room and like I knew I could do this but felt like no one else thought I could and there would be all this negativity there and SO many people waiting for me to end up with a c-sections (I think there was going to be about 12 people from the hospital in the room and I could only have my dh). I wish you luck and really hope you find someone <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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You may want to try to get in touch with christyc (MDC username). Here is her birth story--HBAC in NC. <a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=671717" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=671717</a> She is not online here often, but perhaps pm her?
 

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PurpleMonkey: I was living in NC (Durham) when I conceived my twins, and was dismissed from the birth center as well. PM me if you want contact info on a HB midwife with twin experience...there is one. I don't have her number anymore, but I have a friend who can get it for me easily. If you are looking to have a hospital birth (or looking for shadow care), I loved Andy Hannapel at UNC Family Practice. He saw me until I moved to MO at 30 weeks.<br><br>
There are definitely options around the Triangle. Congrats on your twins!
 

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The PPs have given good advice. I had a similar experience though we discovered our twins at 22 wks. We'd been planning a homebirth. Ultimately the positions of your twins may decide your options. Do everything you can to help get at least twin A vertex for delivery. Also do everything to prepare for a c/section in case it goes that way. Really investigate and make sure you've got an OB you like, a hospital whose infant/maternity ward policies you're comfortable with, etc. I had a c/section and 38 wks and wish I had done more to prepare. Our son, Twin A, was a full breech from about 28 wks on and turned footling breech at 38 wks. Everyone we consulted said a hospital birth was necessary and ultimately the c/section too. In spite of that it's still hard for me to accept how it went.
 

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I don't have any advice but I wanted to invite you over to the DIJ forum! I'm over there and there is one other DIJ mama expecting twins, too! I am going to the same OB I went to w/ my other 2 kids, and I will (hopefully) deliver at a small community hospital. If these babies come before 34 weeks, though, I may have to go to a larger hospital since mine cannot care for them until 32-34 weeks (depends on their breathing). I have a lot more fear and anxiety over this pregnancy and delivery since it is twins. I know it will be a completely different experience than it was w/ my girls, and that does make me kinda nervous. Before I knew it was twins I just didn't worry at all about the labor/delivery part, since I"ve BTDT, no drugs, happy w/ my OBs care and the hosptial staff. Now I am a LOT more anxious about what it will be like, almost like having my first all over again. I have asked my OB lots of questions and I know I will have to deliver in the OR instead of hte birthing rooms and that there will be a lot more people there. I don't know if Ill have more monitoring or not durring the actual labor part (need to ask that!) but w/ my last one they literally left us alone to do whatever we wanted (with a birth ball on request) until it was time to push, so I know that the hospital and my OB understand and respect my wishes to birth as peacefully as possible. They are also encouraging an epidural, but I don't think it's required, jsut recommended. I am still thinking about it all and it IS a lot to think about. I know that with my second I did a lot of visualizing and relaxation durring labor and even before, but so far I am having trouble this time. I think the news of "It's Twins" is a lot for an expectant mom to really accept at one time, I think ti's going to take quite a while for me to feel more "into" the whole thing this time. I just cannot wrap my head around the idea of having TWO babies... I cannot picture it yet, I cannot make myself buy stuff for htem yet, I just don't feel at all prepared and I don't know how to GET prepared!<br><br>
Anyway, feel free to pop in on the DIJ board, know you're not alone! Good Luck and I hope the mamas here can help you find a good MW to take care of you!
 
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