how do i get divorced in maine?

Gretasmommy oh my WORD!!! You must have access to the internet at work- I left you a message at home on your machine, saying blah blah blah, Last night was crazy, Quinny was nursing and had just stopped crying, I was crying and hadn't had dinner, Jacob was wanting a story read to him NOW, etc etc etc...Anywho, I am going to a NAtive American Pow Wow in Litchfield w/ NanaBanana- (DH's Mom, who said to my Mom "I cant beleive Sally is doing this", to which my Mom said "Sally cried and cried until John called and said it was a good idea since they'd both been so miserable for so long..." Then her eyes got big and she said 'Oh..."

Good Idea re: notorizing wants now. Pint Tree (oops) Pine Tree was useless. They basically took the form, said "this is the part where you puit the basic info, and this is the part where you....: ie, she read us the directions. She was a very nice woman but I didnt get too much new info.

Quinny needs Mommy, more later all.

Ladies- The ring is off his finger already?!!??!?! IOts been like, 3-4 days!!! : Jeesh!

Oh yes- I can finish my thought now- I am going to be in Litchfield tomorrow and I may stop by to see you guys after, depending on the status of a) Quinn and his nap/diaper/mood b) jacob and his nap/asleep in the car status c) the status of you and yo' sis when I call from the road and d) the actual time of day... etc...

I am having a moment where I am feeling free, and less sad. I know this is a very good thing, for me and DH and in the long run, for the boys. One thing very hard so far has been managing to care for Quinny and be an extra super loving mom to Jacob, especially at bedtime. All while crying.

So, I am going to build my support network- calling all big couch owners, and playset owners...build my self up, my bank account up (if possible).... and try to deal with each hurdle as it comes. First up, dealing with a job and daycare... :

I'm off to the store to buy more scratch off lottery tickets - did the other ones dry enough to use? If I win, I'm sharing with you, my dear friend. And as I have said before, we'll always have Bridezilla reruns and the intensive care unit.

I just wish I could offer you more. But you can be sure I will stalk you whereever you are! :

we love you, Sal. Molly only has eyes for your boys.

M2M- Mike called. he wants his lemonade back.
Me- Mexico called. They want their corona back.

NAK

I was divorced in Maine. Because of a free attorney vs my ex with an expensive one.. he won residential custody of our daughter, even though I was the primamry caregiver for her 4 years of life. It crushed her (and me)

We agreed he would never seek to go for full custody and blah blah... all words down the drain unless you get it in writing now.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this, but I hope it goes smoothly and quickly for you.

I don't live in Maine now, but grew up in Portland and went to Law School there (don't practice law now though!). I volunteered with the volunteer lawyer project helpline, and we got a lot of calls from people who were doing their own divorce and just had a question. It is not hard to do your own divorce in Maine (at least it wasn't 15 years ago - that may have changed) and in fact there was a book by that name that all volunteers were required to read. Something like "Do your own divorce in Maine' or something to that effect. Anyway, I did find this link on PTL's website on how to do it yourself:

http://www.ptla.org/Divorce.htm

and they have the phone number there as well for the VLP if you need help.

However, as pp's have said this is harder to do when there is a child involved. And it needs to be completely amiable on BOTH sides. If he even hints that he is hiring a lawyer, you will need to find one immediately -and the best darn one you can.

Good luck and I hope you have the amiable divorce you desire.