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we have always enjoyed horsing around on the bed in my family. tickle fights were part of the joys of life for me and my own parents, and my son really gets a kick out of them too (oh, the cute uncontrolled rolls of giggles!) Tickle fights include lots of hanging upside down, rolling around, hiding under the covers, etc, and lots of cuddles as well.<br><br>
Heres the problem....my son has recently (he's 28 months) been starting to bite and grab HARD enough to hurt during our horseplay sessions, and my reactions have been totally confusing him. At first I think "we should just end horseplay since he is too young to understand physical limits" but then we have been horsing with him for so long that it is probably ingrained...he thimks it is affectionate, which it is, really...and I don't want to come off as withholding affection, ya know?!!!<br><br>
Does anybody have any solutions here? Anybody been through this?<br><br>
thanks in advance for any advice,<br><br>
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My DD and I love to play "pretzel girl". I basically hold her on my lap facing away from me, then I bend her arms and legs so that she is hugging herself and I cover her head with kisses and hug her tight. She loves this game!
 

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that's a good one! And that way, their hands are occupied in the act of hugging, so no grabbing can happen! Pretty clever. Thankyou.
 

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The book "Playful Parenting" has a really good chapter on this, and some thought-provoking comments on tickling. It's worth a read, for that, and for the rest of the wisdom in there.<br><br>
Happy horseplaying!
 

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It is one of the joys of motherhood, isn't it?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
When they get too rough, I'll pick up and hug/hold them on my lap, and say, "We need quiet time now." Or something along those lines. Mainly because when they get too rough, it's (IMO) just overexcitement, so if we calm down, we can start up again ... and as soon as it gets rough, pick up again and ...<br><br>
One of the ways I dealt with exhaustion during my last pregnancy was to play with the kids on the bed, which usually meant they're climbing over me, maybe I'm laying on my side and they climb up on my side, sit up there, and I roll over (flinging them on the pillows ... if you get the picture ...) and it was honestly a lifesaver, sometimes, being able to keep them happy and interacting with them while being able to lay down in bed at the same time ...<br><br>
But if they got too wild, same thing: I'd sit up, and say "it's quiet time now," and let them know I was getting hurt, so they could calm down and understand the reason why we had to stop.
 

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I tend to just repeat that it hurts when he gets too rough, and if he continues, I tell him "mommy doesn't want to play if you hit" and then demonstate acceptable ways of horseplay. He's really got it figired out at this point (2.75 yrs). He wants nothing less than for the game to end. Sometimes it does though and then he comes crawling up and apologizes with hus and little puppy eyes.<br><br>
Carla
 
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