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If she is trying to wean herself? DD is only 13.5 mos, and I am in no way encouraging her to wean. Nursing her is the easiest, most relaxing part of mothering this intense, energetic little girl <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> . However, she seems to have dropped off quite a bit lately. For example, if she was tired,cranky, etc. she would be comforted by the breast; I have also tried it as a redirective if she was working up to a tantrum over something I wouldn't give her. Let me just say she is NOT easily redirected <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: . But the past few days, she pushes me away. She is probably down to about 5 nursings a day, give or take, depending on the teething/illness situation. I am not concerned about her nutrition, as she eats well most days, though a little about hydration, as it has recently become a struggle to get her to drink extra at home. She does pretty well with drinking at MDO and nursery at church. Does this mean anything? I would be most happy if she weaned by 2 years, so I could get pg again and not struggle with nursing her (please don't flame me for not wanting to tandem nurse, btw). But I'm not ready for it yet, though dh would be thrilled <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> . I wanted to ask about this at LLL today, but the leader was focussed on the mothers of young babies and I didn't get a word in <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: . Oh well, that's what this board is for <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> . Thanks!
 

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If she's been nursing on demand for this long, I think it's probably unlikely that she's indicating that she wants to wean completely yet. Weaning is a gradual process that technically begins the day a baby eats his/her first solid food. And perhaps the pattern of weaning is different for each child, but I think it's fair to say that some quickly changing times probably alternate with some plateaus. My dd is 17 months old, and she ate very little in the way of solids until about 11 or 12 months. As her interest in solids picked up, there was a somewhat quick reduction in nursing. But then if she was sick or teething she'd go back to more frequent nursing. And I would guess that even if she is down to about 5 nursings a day, it might be a long time before she cuts those out completely. Just because she's pushing you away sometimes doesn't necessarialy mean anything. Babies get in moods just like all of us. I could be wrong, but I think you can still look forward to nursing for quite a while.
 

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It is amazing how different babies and toddlers can be! Mine were all nursing lots more, like every 1 1/2 hrs at that age.<br><br>
Does she suck her thumb or a pacifier? has she become attached to a "lovey" of some kind? Is she very energetic? these kind of babies are called self-soothers.<br><br>
If you want her to nurse more, for her health, do you co-sleep? babies how co-sleep nurse more at night, if they are too busy to nurse during the day, or if you are separated b/c of your work schedule.
 

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You know, she HAS recently become attached to this baldheaded baby doll she has. She goes to work with me and nurses pretty much as usual there; and when she sees a similar doll that we have at the childcare facility I work at, she snatches it up and totes it around. "Baby" now goes everywhere with her. I would have never correlated those two things; she has NEVER been a paci/thumb baby at all. And yes, a thousand times yes, she is energetic!! We have tried cosleeping in a wide variety of forms throughout her life, adn i am disappointed to say that it has never worked for us. However, I feel that for her age, she nurses plenty for nutrition. today she did a lot of "lying around on the couch on mommy" nursing. It was nice <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">. Thanks for the suggestions! I would hate it if one day she upped and stopped nursing abruptly; I have heard of that happening.
 

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There was a time when I thought my DS might be starting to wean... maybe around 12 mo? He seemed to be really uninterested in nursing - especially for comfort - but now he's 17 mo and he nurses twice as much as he did when he was a newborn!<br><br>
I do encourage him to nurse if 2-3 hours have gone by, or if he needs comfort, but even if I didn't he would be happy to help himself every 30 minutes probably! So you never know! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:
 

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I have an almost 15 month old who nurses about 5 times a day and has for a couple of months now. He sleeps through the night, and has no paci, thumb habit, or "lovey". (Not that I'm against loveys! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fairy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fairy"> My 3 y.o. dd has a lovey teddy bear and it is a great help for her when she faces any kind of stress. It doesn't replace me or dh, but gives her a little "extra" soothing.) I know other older babies/toddlers who have nursed only twice a day (morning and bedtime) for a long time. My ds will seldom nurse at *my* suggestion at a time of day he wouldn't normally nurse; he knows what he needs and when he needs it. (Bummer when I am planning to go out alone and want to satisfy his nursing needs before I leave. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: )<br><br>
Anyway, I wouldn't be worried. She's just doing what's right for her! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 
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