My SIL had a beautiful baby boy two weeks ago. I sent her info on circumcision during the pregnancy and we didn't really discuss it further. Her DH is circumcised as is his whole family (he has four brothers and his one brother has two boys). Also her husband is a very dominating guy and she is very docile. Anyway I have been helping her constantly with my nephew since he was born. I have been with her 7 out of the 15 days since he was born. Her husband works away during the week so she has been staying here on the days he's gone. Basically I am around this baby way more than the average aunt. I change his diapers, bring him to mom to nurse, bathe him, whatever help she needs. So I assumed that since he was already 2 weeks old that they had decided to leave him intact. And I was very happy about that! So yesterday I asked her about it and she said that they are still planning to get him circumcised, maybe when he is around a month old. My jaw literally dropped! She admits she is totally against it but it's what her DH's family believes so she's not going to argue it. I admit I was very blunt and described to her what they are going to do to him and she just replied that that is why she wasn't going to go, her DH was going to take him. I am just soooooo upset about this, I literally feel sick to my stomach. This isn't just an abstract child to me anymore, this is my beautiful nephew who I love with all my heart. This is a child who I will be helping take care of at least 4 days a week for quite awhile. It makes me want to cry that he is going to have this done to him. It is disgusting! It is barbaric! And it's not like she doesn't have a good example of uncircumcised males in her life, my DH's family is Greek and none of them are circumcised. I told DH that I don't think I am going to be able to change his diapers or bathe him anymore. I'm not going to be able to look at that bloody, raw wound and know that he used to be whole and perfect. I just don't think I will be able to stomach it. But at the same time this is family and if I all of a sudden refuse to help they are going to know why and that will probably not go over well. How in the world can I let this go? How can I still continue to be actively involved in my nephew's life when I can't deal with this issue? There is no point try to educate further or stop this from happening as her DH has made up his mind and SIL will never defy what he wants.