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I was with my parents this Thanksgiving and someone had asked my son how school was going, he said he was homeschooled, and said it proudly. They were like really and giving me these looks. My dad who was sitting across from me said "I dont think that is a good idea" I thought he already knew. I had talked to my mom about it alot, she didnt like the idea either so I just figured she had said something to him. He was not happy and we didnt really talk for the rest of the night. It was really weird. Oh and I didnt say anything back to him. I was pretty hot and hurt. Do they think im too stupid or incompetant to homeschool? He makes me feel like an idiot. I want to feel confident that im doing the right thing but its hard when everyone around you is telling you that your not. My son loves being homeschooled. He went to ps for about 2 months, kin. and I asked him if he wanted out(he was already being called names by some kids at school)He said yes so I pulled him and have been homeschooling ever since. So its been about 3 months of me homeschooling. Sorry for ranting im just stressed about it. I want my parents to be proud of me and have trust that as a mother I know what im doing is best for my son.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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i'm about to face the same thing with my ILs, so I feel you.<br><br>
I dont have any answers. All I know is that we are doing whats best for our child and I have to have faith that people know that about me. And if they dont, their opinion is not worth what it costs.
 

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In the end, it doesn't matter what they think about it. It's nice if they're supportive, but you're the parent and you need to be confident in your decisions and let your kids see you feeling good about it.<br><br>
My parents came around with time.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> At least you know that you're doing the right thing for him. It is difficult when others (especially family) are so negative about it, but you are the one who knows your ds, and who knows what he needs.<br>
Give it some time- sometimes the best proof is in how well your child does.
 

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<span><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> It's pretty likely that their concerns don't have to do with you so much as with their misconceptions about homeschooling. There's been quite a bit of conversation here on the topic, and you'll find <i>a lot of great input and tips</i>, including good reading materials, if you follow the links you find in this thread - and even though many people are expressing problems with skeptical husbands, there are others who specifically mention parents, and many of the ideas apply to <i>any</i> family members: <a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=789260" target="_blank">I want to hs but dh doesn't</a><br><br>
They may never come around to agreeing with you on the wisdom of what you're doing, but they'll at least begin to see a lot of positive results in time. Hang in there, and do try to stand firm and confident rather than letting anyone get you on the defensive. - Lillian</span>
 

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Been there, I feel your pain <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">. Try to stay calm and they will soon see what a great job you are doing. I've realized this homeschooling journey can be a bit of a secluded one sometimes. Don't doubt your ability to do this well, you can.<br><br>
Stay strong!
 

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I like the ideas posted above but what about giving them some books about homeschooling to read, telling them that after they read them, then you can discuss the topic? Perhaps they will read them, perhaps they won't bother, but you will have told them that the conversation is over until then.
 

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Everybody knows we're hs'ing. It's the <i>unschooling</i> we haven't shared...tends to open a huge can of worms.<br><br>
As for letting people know, I hear the school questions, too. And, I generally answer them as simply as possible. My DH's grandmother recently said to me, "So, Dillon starts K next year, right?"<br>
I smiled and said, "Well, he would if we were putting him into school, but he's going to be hs'ed."<br>
She smiled and said, "Oh, good. Keep'em home as long as you can."<br>
Most people have a similar response, and so far noone has been pessimistic. It's just important to share it with a confident attitude and feel good about the choice. It's wonderful to accept the responsibility for being the greatest influence in your child's life. If you can do it, it's definitely an amazing journey!!
 

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Ultimately, you are the parent and know what is best for your child. It would be great if your parents supported you, but what really matters is that you are doing what you believe is right.<br>
My daughter homeschools my grandson and I couldn't be happier! He has learned so much! And on those days when he just can't focus, there are other options available....like field trips, nature walks, or just having fun together. If you think about it, why would a teacher who doesn't know your child be better equipped to teach him/her than a parent who understands the child? Hang in there....you can do it.
 

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Thanks so much. Your words have really helped me. I just need to make sure that I stay strong and confident that what im doing is right. My son is doing great being homeschooled and they will see that eventually. Thanks so much you guys.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 
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