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All the threads seem to be about dealing with it but I've got no idea how to check for it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> For better or worse I ended up at the hospy after my unplanned freebirth (got dumped by MW then woke up the next morning in labour so no preparation possible!) so I had someone else to look for me. I can't even see my own vagina when pregnant or just after birth and DP would have no idea if he was seeing it unless it was REALLY obvious. I had a look after I was stitched and with the blood, swelling and giant boobs and undeflated belly it was virtually impossible even with him holding mirrors, boobs or whatever I shouted at him to do <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> So, how did you know? I had no particular pain when tearing or even afterwards, everything was just generally a bit sore and battered after a really long labour then a really fast exiting baby. Give me instructions! Thanks <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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After my UC I was in the same shape as you. I really just couldn't check myself so I had DH check. He just looked for areas that looked torn. He didn't see any. I really wanted to see for myself so he got a mirror. I was so tired that all I remember is seeing one area on the left side of my vagina that had blood coming out. At first I thought it was a tear, but when I checked it a few days later and it was not a tear I figured it must have been an internal stretching wound. Now, 4 weeks later, that same spot is still sore. I don't know if this helps, but it is how it happened for me. BTW, just a couple days ago DH and I were talking about how I was healing up so quickly. We both agreed that it was pretty amazing that everything could heal up so fast after a baby had just came out. DH admitted that after the birth when he first checked for tears he had the thought "how will I ever please her" and then he showed me with his hands how stretched out I was and he said "your lips were like this big" I said "really?!" It was kinda a funny discussion.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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well I have felt around so I knew what parts felt like- I have also squatted over a mirror- and done a kegel -- and let me tell you I was huge- over weight and my baby was 12 lbs-- just get a big enough mirror and use something like clothes to prop it up at an angle you can see-- when looking do a kegel - both before and after if a tear will come together when you do a kegel the tear does not involve a muscle--
 

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Get one of those long mirrors that are usually hung on doors, and prop it up against the wall. Then, if you are not too sore, sit directly in front of it with your legs spread apart, and you should be able to see everything. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
That's my plan, anyway. I'm too shy to have sex with the light on, never mind have my husband check me that closely for tears! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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mwherbs - that's a really neat idea... never heard it explained that way <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">well I have felt around so I knew what parts felt like- I have also squatted over a mirror- and done a kegel -- and let me tell you I was huge- over weight and my baby was 12 lbs-- just get a big enough mirror and use something like clothes to prop it up at an angle you can see-- when looking do a kegel - both before and after if a tear will come together when you do a kegel the tear does not involve a muscle--</div>
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Whoa that's neat. I did end up lying down with a propped mirror but it's still darned hard to see properly! This is an excellent thought though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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