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In my case the answer so far is - "not well." I am not doing well with the nausea and the shakes and the need to eat all the time with nothing sounding good. I feel like all I do is complain but I am really really miserable. I feel unable to function and like I am getting depressed from feeling this way. I really really hate it and can't seem to find any sort of positive attitude. So how do you all cope? I am so unhappy.
 

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I'm am so sorry you feel like this.<br>
I feel sick 98% of the time and I am so tired I could fall asleep standing up!<br><br>
At the moment my coping method is just letting things slide a little, or a lot, depending on how I am feeling.<br><br>
I usually like to make all our meals from stratch but now just walking in the kitchen makes me retch so I have got some easier meals in the freezer for DH to heat or if he's not home I can manage to heat them.<br><br>
DD has been watching a little more TV than usual <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: and I have been helping her to find quieter games like drawing or reading stories that I can do sitting or lying down.<br><br>
I am finding washing DD's diapers the hardest of all but I don't think our budget will stretch to disposables for a few weeks but this might be an idea for you.<br><br>
Do you have anyone who could look after your DC for a little while so you can get some extra rest? My MIL has taken DD to the park for 30 mins and it was wonderful to sit with my feet up for a few minutes without wondering what she was up to.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I hope things get better for you soon.
 

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Sunnylady,<br><br>
I am so sorry. Your situation sounds awful. I can identify with the way you are feeling, but it sounds like you are having an especially hard time. Did this happen to you with your last pregnancy and if so, can you draw on how you coped last time? I am sure that was so different because you didn't have a child to care for last time.<br><br>
My first reaction to reading your post is that you need to reach out for help. Do you have friends or family nearby? If there was ever a time to ask, this is it. Is your DP supportive and understanding of your situation?<br><br>
This should be short term. What you can you let go for the next while....clean house? commitments outside the home?<br><br>
Please don't feel bad about your complaining or what a hard time you are having. First trimester, especially when you have a young child is, is really hard. You aren't imaging it and there is nothing wrong with you because you are having a really hard time.<br><br>
I hope you get some help and that things feel better soon. Be kind with yourself.<br><br>
Emily
 

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I too, have let things slide. My house is not as clean, and we are in disposables (YUCK), but it sounds like you need more help than just that....<br><br>
This may sound really weird to you, but there are some days that I'm like, "OKAY, GET UP, STOP WHINING, AND LET'S GO!!!!"<br><br>
Telling myself to just stop thinking about it for one second, and just concentrate on something else. I just start moving around the house, doing light housework, and telling myself the whole time things like, "okay, see, we're moving, we're feeling good, we're cleaning the kitchen, etc" Talking myself into a better place.<br><br>
Please don't think I'm getting on you, because I'm not. This is my third pregnancy, and I think the bottom line is that this is really hard, and it's just terrible for a little while, and then it gets better. I'm just trying this because I didn't want my two kids to suffer too much, although they are watching way too much tv. It makes me feel better to act like I feel okay even when I don't!<br><br>
That said, I feel better when I take my prenatal that has tons of B vitamins in it, eat well-meaning no sugar and not high fat food, and I take an hour nap with my youngest at some point during the day. I also lay down at 7 when I'm getting the kids down, and I don't get back up until the morning. I read, watch tv, pray, whatever you can do laying down. That helps my body just concentrate on the little baby inside.<br><br>
HANG IN THERE, MAMA!!! We'll be talking swollen ankles and heart burn in a couple on months and this first hellish trimester will be but a distant memory!!! *hugs*
 

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Thanks so much for all the support. I really need it right now. My sister is visiting for two weeks and that is helping some. My DH is supportive but really busy. This does seem different from my first pregnancy. There were things that sounded good to me to eat in the first trimester, and this time NOTHING sounds good. There are some things that sound barely tolerable and that's as good as it gets. I do just try to get up and go and that helps once in a while. I have been letting my prenatals slide so maybe those will help...Thanks so much. I wish it wasn't so hard and I wasn't feeling so depressed and complain-y.
 

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I can so relate<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I am nearly 11 weeks and miserable. My morning sickness lasts ALL day. Worse in the morning....extremely bad at night. Its awful. Much worse than my last 2......<br>
Unfortunately I don't cope very well. It takes every effort for me to get up and moving. My boys love playing outdoors, so they spend a lot of time outside. When DH gets home he is a Godsend. He completely takes over. Plays with the boys, cooks, cleans, shops, etc....<br>
I drink a lot of peppermint tea, which relieves the everlasting bad taste in my mouth. It also helps w/the upset stomach a bit.<br>
I just figure its going to be a long pregnancy......
 
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