[Bonawich]

I would love to hear how other people handle disagreements while their kids are around. We often don't have time together alone on a daily basis, so we have to discuss some things while DS is with us. Thanks!

 

[Clarinet]

We discuss anything in front of the children except for discipline. I like to show we're in agreement so the kids don't start going to us when they know we'll disagree with each other. If our discussions get heated, we stop until we're alone.

 

[~Quse~]

We discuss everything in front of the kids. However, our disagreements very rarely turn into fights. When they do, dh always remains calm and I usually fly off the handle

. They've probably seen that happen three times. I just figure they're getting to see real emotions and how things can be handled...wrong or right.

If we fought more often I would try much harder to keep it concealed.

 

[mata]

we don't shield them from our disagreements-I think it's healthy for them to see mom and dad disagree, and even argue a bit. And they see that we always kiss and make up. But my husband and I rarely fight. With my first marriage though there was a lot of scary fighting going on that no child should see (Thank God we didn't have children TO see it.)

 

[woobysma]

DP & I usually discuss our disagreements in front of the kids unless:

it's about discipline (in which case one of us will give the other the "look" and we'll exit the room to discuss it)

it's about an ex (we have a blended family, so if we are discussing an issue involving one of the dc's bio parent, we don't do that in front of them)

We don't *fight* though - so our disagreements are civil conversations. I think it's healthy for the kids to see adults handle conflict in a loving and respectful way.