[siddie]

My 5 yr old ds pet cat didn't return home last week. We had kept her as an indoor cat for most of her life but in the past two months she was let out inadvertently by construction workers and then there was no keeping her in, she loved being outside and chasing birds and lying in the sun.

Last Weds or so ds started telling people his kitty got smashed by a car. I said no, kitty was coming home and we kept visiting the humane society to look for her and put up posters in the heighborhood.

Saturday a neighbor brought her home in a plastic bag, he said he was afraid he had bad news for us, they had noticed an odor for a few days and he found her in his yard. I was upset and didn't ask any details. Ds was due home soon with his Dad so I put her in the garbage can. I decided that rather than tell him and have a burial it would be easier to just let him think she was up on the mountain chasing birds and living with the wild cats. Earlier in the week we had signed up as volunteers at the humane society to be foster parents for a mother and baby kitties and he is really excited about that.

This morning ds freaked me out. I said we would probably get a call to go pick up our foster kitties today and I would first pick him up from school so he could come. He said, "can we let them play in the yard?" I said no, they are little and we have to keep them safe. He then said (angrily) well, let's let them play in the yard and get hit by a truck and put them in a plastic bag in our garbage can!" I was shocked because no one told him about kitty! Then he asked if we could go look in the neighbor's yard for her. I asked him if he was sad about kitty and he said yes, I said I was sad about kitty too. Flustered, I tried to smooth it over by saying that kitty was probably out hunting birds now and was okay.

How do you deal with it when your kids know bad things like this? I have had this "knowing" periodically over my lifetime and it is usually something bad so I have tried to suppress it mostly. Is there a way to foster knowing good things instead of bad? I believe he "knew" through his 6th sense because it was all exactly what had happened - I don't know if she was hit by a truck but everything else he described was exactly what happened.

 

[FreeThinkinMama]

it's so weird that you posted this. it wasn't a bad thing but yesterday my dd pointed at the door and said "dada." I said "not yet, in a couple hours" it's not unusual for her to say dada but a couple minutes after she did it he walked in, he got off work early. so weird LOL. she's 2 btw and i don't have psychic abilities in the least, hmmm maybe i should let her pick the lotto numbers when she gets older

 

[nikirj]

Why did you lie to him when he already knew what happened?

This kind of "knowing" may be a powerful gift, don't make him repress it by making him believe it isn't true.

As for myself, my kids don't show any of this type of ability. It would freak me out if they did, but I would try to roll with it and keep them open to it. I think that it is just one extreme end of intuition.

 

[JessicaS]

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Originally Posted by nikirj Why did you lie to him when he already knew what happened? This kind of "knowing" may be a powerful gift, don't make him repress it by making him believe it isn't true. As for myself, my kids don't show any of this type of ability. It would freak me out if they did, but I would try to roll with it and keep them open to it. I think that it is just one extreme end of intuition.

I agree. You may as well be honest. "White lies" may often be harmless but it might make him angry if he knows better.

My mom was really uncomfortable with our *weird* dreams at first but now she kind of takes it in stride...my sisters and I are not psychic..we just have weird dreams sometimes.

 

[poppyqwn]

My ds has freaked me and many other people out on multiple occasions. He doesn't do it all the time, but it is "creepy" when it does. He has predicted an accident, one of my pregnancies, and both of my labors. Actually he talked one of his brothers out 10 days early! I finally really started listening to him and heed his warnings when they come. One time a hurricane was coming and I was 36 wks pg. DH was at sea and it was just DS and me. I thought that I would evacuate and go to NC from VA and as I was getting things together, DS looked at me and said "if you leave, the baby will come." He always called his brother by name and so this statement was one of those creepy ones. I tell you I put everything back and stayed right there. Everything went fine. I can't say if I had left if I would have gone into labor, but I wouldn't take the chance!

 

[stafl]

There's a really good book about fostering your child's intuition called "The Wise Child" by Sonia Choquette. You really must read it!

 

[witch's mom]

My younger DD went through a period of time when she was 3 and 4 years old where she was extremely "witchy." It was a little creepy, but we never tried to tell her she was imagining things. We treated it as something special, that we were proud of. She still tells people, "I'm a witch. A good witch." Since she's ventured out of the house to go out in the big world (kindergarten), we've seen less and less of her psychic leanings. Although she remains very intuitive and tends to go through life governed by her feelings and senses, I think the constraints of school have squashed her a little bit in that regard.

 

[flapjack]

My eldest son has flashes of knowing- he is NOT a psychic child, he's a child who happens to be a little bit psychic. At the moment, we aren't allowing him to train or direct it at all, just treating everything matter of factly- though he's hit the point now where he's asking for Tarot cards and obviously feels ready in himself to try to take it further. If he wants to do something as a result of one of his hunches, then we do it- sometimes he's right, occasionally he's wrong. No biggie. It's a learning experience, like everything else in life. What it does mean is that he can spot a lie a mile off.
I think you owe your son an apology. I'd also recommend you read a book called The Indigo Children- I forget the authors names- which I think would apply to him- about how there are more intuitive kids around, who need handling a little differently to the way our parents brought us up.

 

[Sandrine]

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Originally Posted by flapjack I'd also recommend you read a book called The Indigo Children- I forget the authors names- which I think would apply to him- about how there are more intuitive kids around, who need handling a little differently to the way our parents brought us up.

The author's name is Doreen Virtue, Ph.D.

 

[heathenkyttimom]

For someone to be a witch, means that they practice witchcraft. No one can be born a witch. Psi abilities don't make a witch, they make a psychic. There are no abilities that make a person a witch. Witches can be male or female. Being a witch is a choice. Witchcraft is not a religion, and can be practiced by people of any religion. Anyone can be a witch, with dedication, research, study, and practice.

I am a witch and have been for almost a decade. My mate is a shaman. My son will be what he chooses to be.

Kat
)0( Unschooling heathen SAH mum to Aiden (10/17/03)

 

[Changed]

Whoa, the witch thing is so interesting to me. I guess being raised in church it sounds so taboo. I know so little about it that it's mysterious. What's a shaman? What religion typically participates in witchcraft? How did you choose this? You can pm me if you want, I'm just curious and hate to derail a great thread.

 

[matts_mamamama]

Hmmm... I think people can be born with witch-like tendencies that they can either develop or ignore. Of course, that's just an opinion - I have nothing to back that up!! Very interesting though.

In addition, I think all people have some sort of psychic abilities - whether it comes from close relationships or just being finely tuned to the people around and environments. I also have friends who are psychic and I certainly believe in them and their abilities to read and see. I would think one would be born with psychic abilities and would also either nurture or ignore. I'll have to read those books - they sound interesting.

 

[flapjack]

Erm- some witches believe that you can be a witch independent of any other religious beliefs. For others, like myself, following an earth-centred, goddess-worshipping path is an integral part of our path- not that you can't be a witch and a Methodist, say, or a witch and Jewish, but there is a conflict. Not least that a large number of witches were murdered in the Burning Times because of religious persecution.

, but also that Christianity, for instance, built itself on the traditions of paganism. I don't see a way that you can practice magic without a belief in some kind of earth deity-I think it's dangerous and would leave you very ungrounded and exposed. (Think Willow in Buffy The Vampire Slayer...)
For a little light reading, I'd recommend Rae Beth's Hedgewitch and Marian Green's A Witch Alone or Natural Magic for starters, and if you want to go deep into the history, try Margot Adler's Drawing Down the Moon, in addition to any of Kat's suggestions- I don't know many of the US authors, and she probably has some recommendations I haven't even heard of.

 

[heathenkyttimom]

Actually most people killed during the "burning times" weren't witches. They were just people that ticked other people off somehow. If there's a conflict 'tween being part of a Judeo-christain-muslim type path and being a witch, it's due to a lack of proper research, I believe...since in the original languages of the Christian bible, there IS no word for witch. I believe the original word translates either to seer or poisoner- there's some debate on it. I don't watch Buffy, though I'm vaguely familiar with Willow from the few episodes I've seen, so I'm not sure what you're talking about with that one. I usually recommend "The Idiot's Guide to Wicca and Witchcraft" I don't know the authors, but it's one of the few books I've seen that differentiates between the two. I plan on getting it myself after I move, which hopefully will be soon...

I do not consider myself to be a "goddess-worshipper" though I do follow a polytheistic path...I give great respect to a few gods, but I do not consider myself to "worship" them. I only worship my lovers if they're lucky

*weg* lol.

Kat