My hubby and I have an interesting blend in our families. I have only 1 yngr sis, who is 7 yrs yngr. I always wanted to have lot's of kids, and close together so that they would have plenty of playmates. My hubby has 6 bio sibs, and 6 foster/adopted sibs. He loves the friendship between sibs as children, but also found that in a larger fam, everyone tends to have to fight for what they want. At dinner, for the bathroom, while shopping, during the holidays, etc. So, he would like less kids than how he grew up. We've settled on 4 or 5. We have 2 right now, exactly 2.5 yrs apart. But, one thing I would like to stress, I have learned a very important value from being around my hubby's fam. It's not about the present. It's not about bfing more than one child, or dbl strollers, or even how fun natural pregnancy and birth can be. It's not even about finances. While all of these things do matter, I have seen first hand that it's really about how long you will feel this way. My hubby's parents were very hands-on, and involved in the first half of the kid's lives. They started having kids 27 yrs ago. Their youngest child in the home right now is 14. They also still have 3 others in the home, are putting 2 of their kids through college, one in the Navy, and 2 having kids of their own. For them, they are tired. Tired of working to afford the kid's neccessities. Tired of dealing with homework. Tired of sacrificing everything they want for themselves. Their marraige is in a rut, dad is always at work, and mom just doesn't want to deal with the trouble anymore. So as a result, this once very caring and well put together family, hardly speaks with eachother except to bicker, and the high schoolers do pretty much whatever they want. It's easy to say that won't happen to you now, but after almost 30 yrs of direct parenting, and still more to go, sometimes opinions change. So, you figure 18 years after the first, and then you keep adding years as the babies come, and that's how long your direct parenting will be. Also, factor in how old you will be then, and where you would like to be at that age. If travel and retirement are in your game plan, a large fam is probably not for you. My hubby's dad has gone bankrupt, is on the verge of it again, and they both have to work full time just to scrape by. They don't have any money saved up. And the children are emotionally suffering because they can sense that they are tired of doing it. So the best advice I can give is to think about what kind of parent you want to be in the long term....like 25 years from now long term!