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Ok,im here sitting in my computer class at school. Im looking at baby names and wondering what do I name the baby? I once heard that the babies name defineswho it will be as in personality and looks. But how is that possible? I dont even know when to namethe babay, when i go into labour, when I find out what it is, after its born, I just dont know. My mother who doesnt want anything to do with my baby actually said she wants it to be named after her, but I dont think I want to do that. Any ideas on when I should pick a name?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
Some people pick a name early on and stick with it. Some pick a few names then decide when the baby arrives. Others (like myself) don't even bother with it. We wait to met our baby then think of a name when we get to know him/her a bit. It took us 5 days with our dd.<br><br>
Some people pick names that are family names. Some pick names that are full of meaning. Some pick names that just sound good to them.<br><br>
There's no right or wrong way to name a baby. Good luck! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I have a 7 week old who has no name and that's okay with us. Our first was named in the womb. Our second was named after he was born. This one maynever be named <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> MOre to say, baby waking..<br><br>
Namaste, Tara
 

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i say you name a baby when it feels right.for me i had a name that i liked but i just couldn't commit until i met that little person to make sure.well, and i wasn't sure if the baby was a boy or girl.<br><br>
i definately wouldn't name my babe after someone who didn't want anything to do with him or her.i think it would be a horrible feeling to know that the person you're named after doesn't want to be around you.i don't know what the situation is but it doesn't sound like something you want to be reminded of everytime you speak you sweet babe's name.<br><br>
well,i hope you have some other support in your life.and good luck finding the right name.it will come to you.
 

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Don't do it!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
I am jaded about this, because of my mom.<br><br>
For myself and others I know, something told them<br>
before the baby was born what the right name was.<br>
As far a picking the right name for your child to live with<br>
I've heard and made up a few ideas.<br><ol style="list-style-type:decimal;"><li>What does it sound like when you call it out?</li>
<li>How would it seem in a certain profession? i.e. lawyer, teacher ect.</li>
<li>Could it be turned into something, by mean school kids?</li>
<li>What does the name mean?</li>
<li>Would it affect how they are treated in certain groups of people?</li>
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My father In-law doesn't know that I'm pregnant yet....<br>
But I'm excited <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief"> to see what his reaction will be<br>
to us bucking tradition.<br>
(First borns sons <b><span style="text-decoration:underline;">have</span></b> to have --- as their middle name)<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">:<br><br><br>
Name your sweet baby what <i>you</i> want.
 

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Ethan was named b/c of rubber ducky in a store! i wanted Benjamin but dh didnt like that!!!! so one day we were in a store and they didnt have Benjamin duckies but had an Ethan one (that name was already on a short list!!!).<br>
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LOL... we just waited for names that stuck out to us in the baby name books etc. I had to be the proactive one, or else both of our kids would have exact names like family members (his family does this a lot, so someone says Jim or Scott and more than one person looks up <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">). Once we agree on a name, that's it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> I just look for names I like how they sound with a nice meaning and no negative connotations for me.<br><br>
This is our third baby and we actually had names picked out before 20 weeks even though we don't know the gender and we're still loving those names so they must be alright!<br><br>
Have fun!
 

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We both decided on Willow early on in the pregnancy. At about 8 months we realized the crazy child inside me was not behaving very much like a Willow and both came up with the name Eleanor at the same time. I've never regretted the name we picked. It fits her so well.
 

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For me the #1 criteria to picking out names was they had to be unique. So that my child wouldnt have the same name as other class mates. Also the sound of it along with the last name. I also wanted the name of my dd to have my moms sisters name in it (she passed away at 6mo) I used songs, books, movies & relatives to choose the names I did.<br><br>
My dd's second middle name is for my moms sister. Her first middle name is from Star Wars books Luke Skywalkers wife . Her first name is from a country music song by the group BR549 and is very uncommon here. Pronounced a-Lean-na.<br><br>
My ds's second middle name is from my dh's grampa. His first middle name is from my favorite country music singer Dwight Yoakam. His first name is from the movie triple X with Vin Deisel his name in that movie was also spelled with a X and it is also and extremly uncommon name here.<br><br>
The answer to the ? I get the most is how do u put all that on forms? I write small amd if needed make room. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Each name is just as important to me as the first and I insist they be used. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I felt the same with DD. I bought a book with a zillion and one baby names and went through EVERY name in that book with a yay or nay. After days of doing this, I ended up with a list of about 5 girl names that I actually loved and only 3 boy names. The thing is I loved the names, but I had no idea how they would relate to the baby. Then she was born which immediately eliminated the boy's names and none of the girl's names seemed to suit her just yet. So I figured we'd take some time to see which one she was. She didn't end up being any of the names on the list and she had no name for over a week.<br><br>
If you want to take your time, take your time. You just have to learn to ignore the family members saying "doesn't that kid have a name yet?". <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My yonger brother was nameless for over a month after he was born. Kinda sad, but we called him "little hook nose" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> because he had gotten stuck on my mom's pelvic bone and had a swollen nose for a while. Anyway, my older brother Ocean ended up suggesting the name River as a joke, and it just stuck. I get lot's of "why aren't you named lake comments" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: but I am pround of my brothers unique names.
 

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Oh yea-<br>
I picked Whilder because it was part of my favorite line in my favorite song "stay wild-er than the wind..." and I just thought it sounded nice. I let dh pick the middle name as he wanted something to represent his Thai heritage... hence the name Whilder Mali. She's not here yet though, so you never know she might come out looking more like one of the other names we liked, but that's fine too, I wouldn't mind having a little baby Tangerine or Rain <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bouncy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bouncy">
 

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We bought a baby name book, went through it name by name and wrote down names we could both kind of liked. Then we took turns crossing off names from our list. Neither one of us wanted a name that would be so popular that all the kids in school would have it. But we wanted one that wasn't unheard of either. We ended up with about five names that we really liked. Then we took those and combined all of them as first/middle names to see how they sounded. We ended up with Charlotte Isabelle.
 

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First- I am one of MANY Jennifers. This causes me to run away screaming from popular names.<br><br>
I've liked Zeta for a girl since I was in middle school. A name I used for my favorite star. (And dh loves the name too, of course) My dh & I chose Jade because we both liked the name. We both have "J" names so we thought it would be silly to use Jade as a first name, so it's in the middle. Located in the middle, we're comfortable viewing it as a tribute to our "J"-ness.<br><br>
Aurelia Mae: Aurelia is a portugese name we discovered in Love Actually. She was the female half of our favorite couple in the movie. And we just adored the name. Strong and beautiful. Mae: we borrowed letters from the name of our niece, who passed away at one month old, during my pregnancy. Mae is also the name of my grandmother, dh's great-aunt, and my older sister. We recently discovered that her initials are the first letters in dh's & my middle names.<br><br>
If Aurelia had been a boy, he would have been nameless for a time because we just couldn't settle on a boy's name. I think it is a fine practice to get to know a child before naming. We were in love with our name choices, and luckily we felt like they fit when we met our daughters.<br><br>
Happy naming.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Its kinda freaky how I came up with both my kids names...<br><br>
I named them both several months before they were concieved. With my dd I was taking to a friend about my traumatic childhood and how I never, ever wanted to have a girl when I relalized that the only reason I didn't want a girl was because I knew there was no way I could ever protect her from everything I went through. I had had this sort of "spirit guide" my whole life. A girl I would see in spirit at times when I was extremely scared and she would make me feel safe. I called her Anise, though I didn't know at the time it was a real name (or a spice <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ). So I decided then and there that if I had a daughter I would name her Julie (Juelie) Anise, which means "youthful grace" and maybe I could grow up through watching her grow up. I unexpectedly conceived a girl 2 moths later.<br><br>
With this baby I began to strongly sense his presence 7 months before he was concieved. I felt him near me often and could feel his anticipation to come here. I knew he would be concieved in September, and he was, though we tried for 3 months before that. I was trying to figure out what his name would be a few months before he was concieved when DH said that he's always wanted a son named Benjamin. That was it! It just fit his spirit so perfectly. The middle name was harder. Benjamin means "son of the right hand" and I wanted something to go with that. I really liked Shen, which is a Chinese name (DH is half Chinese) and means "spiritual". It really grew on us when we started calling him "Ben Shen" (say it, its fun!). Now Juels calls him Benny Shenny, its so cute!<br><br>
We've decided our next son will be Ryan Elmer. DH insists on using Elmer as our next son's middle name because it is his grandfather's name, though I think its a really silly old famrmer name (which his grandfather was!). And Ryan is DH's middle name. My grandma had this sort of revelation of our son being named Ryan, but we know this one is Ben, so Ryan will be the next. Plus, Juelie, Ben, and Ryan all go well together. I NEVER planned to have such common names! I was always into the really unique ones, but I feel that my children really all chose their own names.
 

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I knew before my dd was conceived that my 1st girl would be Marley. I just had a very strong connection to that name. It fits her so well! No other name would suit her.<br><br>
Picking out names is general, for me, they have to be unique/original. I can't stand trendy/common names. But I also like to consider what they mean. I don't think I would pick a name that didn't have a pleasant meaning.<br><br>
Before I had my dd I always pictured a Marley and Elijah with me and after I had her I just always felt that Marley and Elijah fit. (Plus my dh always said his 1st son would be named Elijah) We have a very strong connection to it. If this baby is a boy his name will, of course, be Elijah. But still if it's a girl then perhaps my Eli will come in the future. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> Picking out a girl name for this child was a little hard. The mn I chose because it's my grammas mn, I totally think it rocks, and a name you never hear. The first name I chose because of it's meaning, it's rather original and not quite expected in this world of trendiness. Hopefully it'll NEVER be trendy/popular!
 

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My sister is an attorney and she has this theory that women with names which are gender ambiguous (could go with either a guy or a gal) have some slight advantage in the professional world. I think there was some study somewhere that showed this.<br><br>
So she named her daughter Halle, and they often refer to her as Hal.
 

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I believe that everybody has their own name. It is the parents job to really listen to the baby and figure out the name. I think that when you find the right name, you will know.<br><br>
We had some girl and boy names picked out. We didn't find the gender out till birth. The night before we had DD, DH and I spent hours agonizing about a girl's name. The ones we had already picked out just didn't feel right. We both reached that conclusion independantly. He said "I think we need to talk about girl names", I responded "I agree".<br><br>
We finally found the name Millicent, which was not a name that either one of us had ever considered before. When he spoke the name, the baby kicked, and then I felt a sense of calm. We both knew that this was our child's name. It was at this moment that I KNEW we were having a girl. It all fell into place.<br><br>
When I first saw Millicent, the name just fit. she could not have been any of our other girl names.<br><br>
I think you name your baby when you find THE NAME. I think you'll know what that name is if you listen to your child.
 

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