[Little Cluck]

I am not a very good pregnant mama. I spend most of my time wishing the pregnancy away. I love babies and hope for a large family but pregnancy is just too long, IMO. Last pregnancy, I struggled with depression and really was "over" the pregnancy when I still had two+ months to go. This time, I have had an easier time battling depression but I am having great difficulty keeping my chin up with the thought of 3 months ahead of me. It has been blasted hot here already and we have no central a/c. We do have a window unit and are getting another so that will help me some. But still I don't feel like doing anything or going anywhere...I get grumpy...don't want to just sit around in front of the a/c all summer wishing the days away.

How can I encourage myself? I try to focus on the positive thoughts...the wonderful miracle inside of me...have tried keeping a journal, etc. but it just makes me yearn for my baby more.

any ideas?

 

[AugustLia23]

I'm sorry that you have been so down mamma...Pregnancy can definitely be very hard.

I feel blessed to have had such an easy time so far with my pregnancy, but I am definitely ready to meet my babe. I am now getting to the point where I can remember anything about anything except labour and delivery. What keeps me going is knowing that these last few weeks that my babe is still in my womb, he is growing chubby and getting more ready for the outside world.

I would set up some space by your air conditioner and stay over there as much as possible with a tall glass of iced anything. You're in it now, there's no way of getting out of the pregnancy at this point except to deliver early, and then you'd be spending time at a hospital watching your baby grow to size outside of your body. I think it is much better to have him/her grow inside of you than outside, right?

 

[ktmama]

I'm having a hard time too. My strategy is to focus on one thing each day BESIDES being pg/the baby. Like yesterday I had a really great conversation with my mom about politics and it got me really going and feeling positive about the world. I also just painted my dining room and I felt so creative and in control and I love the result. I also have another kiddo so it can be pretty easy. But, I totally sympathize with you. It's hard for me not to focus on my physical limitation and respect my body's cues. If I'm really depleted, at least I can sit and knit! I recommend mantras or affirmations if they work for you in general (they don't really work for me). Good luck.

 

[heldt123]

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Sorry things are rough for you right now. I agree, pregnancy is tooooo long. Last night I was thinking that pregnancy is really almost a year long, ick. I can't wait for it to be over as well.

I have been coping by staying insanely busy to keep my mind off things. Working on a a scrapbook or doing some other crafts would keep your mind busy and yet you could still sit by the air conditioner. (That'll probably be me if it ever gets hot up here...the way things are going it is going to be a wet, cool summer for us) The only problem I've had as far as trying not to focus on being pregnant is that I'm not really connected with this baby like I was with the last one.

 

[Little Cluck]

Thanks for sharing with me, ladies. I do need to catch up on the boys' albums but need to develop the pics first! LOL

I decided today to sign the boys up for storytime in a neighboring town. It's on Tuesday a.m. We'll pack a picnic and then go to another town to use the pool. I think this will be great for all of us! I always hate going anywhere since we are rural and I feel bad burning the gas but my mental health needs this!

a wet, cool summer? I'll take that! LOL I'm in WI and we are having a heat wave. Sure could use some rain.

 

[Abylite]

Hello!

I can relate to some of your feelings.

I also agree that pregnancy is long....I've also had 2 other pregnancies that resulted in m/c so I feel as if I've spent the past 2 years pregnant!!!

But...the longer the baby stays in me...the better off she'll be.

I'm trying to accept the fact that I can't walk around outside when it's hot, or don't feel like going out, or just want to sleep the day away. I'm usually on the go!!

One chore a day or errand seems like a lot!!! But I know it's worth it. I also try to think that I won't ever again have all this time to pamper myself.

 

[Kaitnbugsmom]

I struggle too. Conflicting desires, I guess you could say. I want her to bake as long as she needs, and I know almost-thirty-one-weeks is nowhere near long enough. But OTOH- I'm hot and cranky already, and looking at being alone with five kids under the age of ten for about four hours a day six days a week, three of whom have no sense of discipline.

Plus Em, who seems to hide more and more the hotter it gets outsdie....

 

[MamaRBH]

Well I've never been a fan of the phrase "misery loves company" but I gotta tell yout hat I am a bit relieved to know I'm not the only one.

It's incredibly hot and humid here... my girls are dying to go outside all the time... we do go out in the earlier morning, but even if I wasn't preggo - it would be too hot the rest of the day. My house is wayyyy behind on being cleaned in any way, shape, or form.... both my 1 year old and myself aren't sleeping at night. I feel like a failure in most departments of my life right now. But I keep reminding myself that this is temporary... and while that does help ease the frustration.... it sure doesn't make it go away. It's going to be a loooooon summer.

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