[FunkSoulMommy]

So yeah this may be an odd question, but my partner & I are discussing trying for a baby in the not so distant future & this really is bugging me. We are currently raising our son, who was conceived while I was actually married to his father, but ex hubby has DS on the weekends. Now what is bothering me the most is how will this affect OUR baby once it is here. When DS's dad brings him home & wants to talk, what will new baby think about this? Will He/she feel left out? Mommy & Momma are super cool, but will new bean feel left out that Bubby also gets a daddy?

Have any of you been through this? If so any tips? I guess I'm just scared I'm setting my kid up to be psychologically scarred or something (I'm a psych major/ DP is a counselor.... we have issues like this frequently lol) although I know there are probably many ways of dealing with this.

 

[Forthwith]

I have no first hand experience with this but... would it really be that different from explaining why big brother has a mom and two dads? Maybe a book for blended families might have some tips.

I'm sure he won't be scarred. Lots of kids have different numbers and types of parents that their brothers and sisters do, and turn out just fine.

 

[FunkSoulMommy]

I think I probably came across all wrong

I really am not worried that what I am doing something "harmfull" for him... I know that being with me & L is much better than me being unhappy with a man... I guess I was mostly just looking for tips from people who may have went through it... but thanks for helping

 

[osker]

Maybe a question to ask in the step-parenting area?
I imagine that both kids would just follow your lead with it and think whatever you think... I guess...

(sorry I'm not more helpful!)