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Seriously! I have given up fighting with DD about getting dressed, unless we absolutely have to get out of the house. Some days, it goes smoothly, but most days, it's an hour-long battle. All her clothes are unsatisfactory for some reason, socks are out of the question, the need to dress warmly is laughed at ("But I LOVE being cold") I am finding it very difficult to remain calm, and DH usually gives up and they just don't leave the house on days he's responsible.<br><br>
We've tried giving her choices, but left to her own devices, she'd wear a sundress and crocs every day, which doesn't cut it in November. The same sundress, too, I should add.
 

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I feel your pain. my almost 3 year old doesn't seem as difficult as you have explained, but it is frustrating. She likes to hop around and will not sit still. She will only wear tights, so I have convinced her that a few of her pants are actually tights so we have more options. I just always let her pick it out and I tell her if she wants to wear a sundress she must wear a long sleeve shirt underneath it when it is cold out (this works!). She won't wear socks, so I have gotton to the point of sayiing, they won't let you in the store or where ever we are going without socks.<br><br>
It is hard, but it will get easier...I promise!
 

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Some children have sensory issues and wearing some clothes is painful for them. My 2nd daughter would scream bloody murder when I put certain clothes on her. When she started talking I learned that it was buttons.. she wont wear buttons. She is 11 and still will not wear buttons.. or certain collars. She wont wear a jacket.. and I had to tell her K teacher than unless it was snowing, then she is OK without her jacket. I sent it to school every day in case she wanted it though.<br><br>
My husband likes it cold too. He wears shorts all the time. His threshold is freezing. If it is below freezing then he will wear pants.. and "maybe" a sweat shirt. When we first got married he thought I was going to force him to wear pants.. (<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"> why?) He was so happy when I told him.. umm what do I care what you wear as long as it is appropriate for where we are going?? I guess his mother used to force him to wear warmer clothes and he hated it.. (her for her controlling nature.)<br><br>
Honestly.. I say just go with it. If your daughter wants to wear a sun dress.. let her.. see if you can get her to wear some knee socks or cable tights with it. Maybe a sweater over it or a long sleeved shirt under it. In the long run.. it's really not worth the battle.
 

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I put away out of season clothes so if DS gets to pick he'll get something appropriate. If I say go get dressed and it's there he'll come back in shorts and a t-shirt (and a collection of colors). His tube socks bunch up terribly, they look uncomfortable, we'll get better ones ASAP. He runs pretty hot, I did as a kid and DH still does, so I believe him if it's 55 and not windy out and he doesn't want a jacket but that's about the limit.<br><br>
I remember putting up a huge crying fight about some striped shirt as a child once because I was truly convinced people would think I was an escaped convict and put me in jail. Oh and I had to wear my socks inside out as a kid too, the seam bothered my toes. So to some extent, complaints of either discomfort or something wrong with the style, I try and hear DS out.
 

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Huh. I just always pick out DD1's clothes for her, sometimes offering a choice between 2 shirts, and she wears them. For her, the clothes are fine once they're ON, it's the chore of actually getting them she can't seem to stand. She'd rather run around the house nakey yelling "LOOK AT MY HEINEY!" and doing this weird butt-sticking-out-while-looking-over-her-shoulder pose.<br><br>
I found that closing the bathroom door immediately stopped that running around and posing nonsense. Not sure why, since she can easily open the door herself. I think with it closed, it's easier to control that impulse, or the thought doesn't even seem to occur to her.<br><br>
I've found that talking to her about something else entirely really helps get clothes on her more easily. That, or being totally silly and asking where her hand went when it went into a long sleeved shirt sleeve, and acting totally surprised when it pops out on the end closest to me, as if by magic. Keeping it silly and playful is usually the way to go, but it's draining, and sometimes if things are already going badly, that's just going to make it worse.
 

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Honestly DS3 spends most of his day Naked. He now gets dressed without to much fuss when we are leaving the house or have company. it wasnt till this year he would wear jeans at all and now he has a favorite pair and he has picked out a few favorite shirts. Like his guitar clothes
 

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My 3 year old spends a lot of time semi-dressed, unless we are going out, too. He chooses shorts 90% of the time (so does my dad!) and I let him wear them out *under* pants.
 

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my ds has lately gotten better (he's 3.5) but he has a need to "win" everything. so we set it up as acontest to see who dresses up first, one item at a time. that usually solves things. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

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Thanks for the ideas, everyone. I wanted to clarify that I would be FINE with a sundress and crocs, if she'd wear a sweater or long sleeved shirt underneath, and if I could get her to wear long socks or tights. She will pull them off, screaming, crying. I know something about socks bothers her, and I know she runs warm, but I feel her feet sometimes and she's freezing.<br><br>
Oh well ... today she woke up at 3:30 so I guess we have plenty of time to work on getting dressed.
 

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We had a similar difficulty with our 2 year old. I made up a "dance", one for shirts and one for pants. We do a "pants dance" and then we put on our pants and then a shirt dance and put on the shirt. Sometimes we do the HOkey Pokey, left foot in, etc. I don't say out, I just say left foot in 3 times! Our little guy responds well to the singing and the "games".
 

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This doesn't address the issue of cold feet - but would she wear long underwear under a dress? My kids used to wear them all the time - under pants when it was really cold out, or under shorts if it was only a bit cold. They are looser and more comfortable than tights, and we found some really nice, stripy, cotton ones in cool colors.
 

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DS is 3.5 and will only wear long sleeves and pants--no shorts or short sleeves (needless to say, here in the South, we're happy for winter's arrival. He just sweat it out during the summer some days). We still don't agree over which clothes to wear most days. Over the summer, I was working part-time and my mom was taking DD to the dentist (so of course DS was going along). When they returned, DS was wearing only sweatpants and crocs--no shirt. They had been to the dentist and out for ice cream like that. I could only laugh. It will pass. Most days, he spends as much time as possible around the house naked or only in undies. If we must go somewhere, I try to make a game out of it or let him watch a cartoon while I dress him.
 
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