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I am really getting bogged down with housework.<br>
Seems like I am always cleaning someone or something <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
I *try* to keep the laundry to twice a week with the occasional exception. I also keep up with the kitchen throughout the day so it is easier at the end of the day. I just feel like I spend more time keeping things clean than with my kids. I am probably wrong, but I find myself putting them off at times since these are things that need to get done, kwim?<br>
I was thinking of making a really organized list of times that I would like to spend doing house related things and trying to keep to it.<br><br>
The boys are old enough where I am getting them more involved in keeping the house tidy. Oh and I am not anywhere near being a neat freak <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Any ideas??????
 

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I do laundry every day. It's one of the first things I get started in the morning.<br><br>
I get the most done when I follow a pretty tight schedule. <i>But</i> my schedule constantly evolves. I started out typing it all up and that helped in the beginning but I haven't kept typing out the new ones.<br><br>
I generally keep up with the kitchen but save the rest of the daily clutter for the late afternoon.<br><br>
I try to stay home a lot. Things are so much more relaxing that way!
 

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i do housework throughout the day, but most of it is accomplished in the morning time. i wake up at 7:00 every day (courtesy of my 4 year old) ...and during the school year, we don't begin anything until 10. i wake up and have coffee and then once it kicks in, i make the beds and pick up the rooms. i have a dishwasher, so i just load and unload as needed. i vacuum once or twice a week & i sweep daily & mop once a week. i do bathrooms as needed, but probably once a week (i love 2,000 flushes for toilets!). i have to do laundry daily or i would be overloaded for sure.<br><br><br>
oh i wanted to come back and add - mealplanning has been my greatest dicovery ever!!! it saves me so much time and actually eliminates some of my daily mess (as many things are prepped beforehand).
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">i do housework throughout the day, but most of it is accomplished in the morning time. i wake up at 7:00 every day (courtesy of my 4 year old) ...and during the school year, we don't begin anything until 10. i wake up and have coffee and then once it kicks in, i make the beds and pick up the rooms. i have a dishwasher, so i just load and unload as needed. i vacuum once or twice a week & i sweep daily & mop once a week. i do bathrooms as needed, but probably once a week (i love 2,000 flushes for toilets!). i have to do laundry daily or i would be overloaded for sure.<br><br><br>
oh i wanted to come back and add - mealplanning has been my greatest dicovery ever!!! it saves me so much time and actually eliminates some of my daily mess (as many things are prepped beforehand).</div>
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yep, same here. do what I can during the day between lessons. The book "Saving Dinner" is the best!
 

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Well to start with I highly recommend the Mindful home management & decluttering board for help here <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">: My oldest kiddo @ home is 6 so we only do about 1.5hours of sit down school work and he has a seriously short attention span, so that is spread out in 15-20min spurts through out the day.<br><br>
I'm the same as a pp who doesn't start anything with them as far as school till at least 10am (not a morning person doesn't even BEGIN to cover it lol) so I wake up, have coffee... have more coffee <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> (browsing mdc while I do this, hooray for multi tasking!) Before we do our first session (if you can call it that.. he chooses what he feels like doing first and we go with it) I get the kids to help me gather up laundry and put a load on. We do some 'work' then they go play & I do dishes from breakfast or whatever and hang out that laundry. Then we'll usually do a bit of reading together... and sometimes do a bit of online researching. Then they play rainforest maths or whatever while I run a vacc etc etc.. Our whole day goes like that on a typical day at home. If I feel like I'm putting him off I will ask him if he'd like to sit on the couch & read a story aloud to his 4yo brother while I fold the laundry or do whatever it is I need to do, nearby <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> He likes reading to the brothers so this works well for him.<br><br>
While I'm having that morning cuppa(s) & browsing mdc, I usually make a notepad list of things around the house I really want to get done that day...usually it's mostly the daily stuff (dishes, wash/hang/fold/put away laundry, swiffy) and maybe one or two deep clean/declutter projects <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> If vacuuming is on my list.. then the boys get the task of cleaning up the toys & misc that they scatter through the house (I give them a shopping bag & tell them to shop the toys up and back to the playroom <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">)
 

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Well, I wohm and dh sah/ goes to school. We do what we can and focus on things that should be done weekly-- clean kitchen, clean bathroom, and folded laundry. We both do diapers as are needed, we both cook dinner.<br><br>
Outside of that, I try to make sure dh gets some time away from dc by taking them to my parents (local) and insuring I can watch the kids when he needs a night out.<br><br>
Otherwise, we both try to teach the kids that keeping the home is a family affair, and apart of their daily living.
 

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Thanks for the great ideas ladies <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
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What a great idea!!!<br><br>
I think the part that is bogging me down is the meal planning. I love to cook and was able to plan all of our meals ahead until last January when I found out that my baby has some pretty severe allergies and we (he and I) are gluten,peanut,dairy and egg free. It has really limited what I can do for the most part. I try to keep ahead of the meals, but there are days where I am standing there like hmmm....what to make <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
I think I am going to start doing laundry each day when I wake. That is when I do it the two days that I had set aside for it, but it really does eat up the day.<br>
We wake early here. The baby does not sleep well due to his eczema so some days we are up before 5am.
 

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I do most cleaning early morning, but I'm a morning person. Not all people are morning people. I start the kitchen early, by 6:30 am most mornings. I have to have a clean kitchen or my day will not go right. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I have to have clean floors but I've actuall cut back from vacuuming 3-4 times per week and I'm now down to 1-2 times per week. I do laundry 3-4 times per week as well but try harder to spread that out now. I do have a tendency to leave clean clothes sitting in the laundry basket and don't put them away for several days. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blush"><br><br>
Sometimes when I clean the bathrooms I will spread it out. For instance I will scrub the toilet when I go in to potty. Then a couple hours later clean the bathroom sink after I potty again. Then the shower/tub. You get the picture. I never seem to do the "whole" bathroom at once, lol.<br><br>
I also work at home so I'm pretty busy most days. Stuff just gets done when it gets done. But starting early in the a.m. does help me a lot. I figure women did it hundreds of years ago so why can't I. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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well, you pretty much described my day! One of the things that helps is making sure kids pick up when they are done with an activity. Also the "everything has a place, and it goes back there". I have the kids sort laundry, and after I fold it, they carry it to their rooms to put away. Having a few meals in the freezer (or simple things frozen away to assemble) for days that get away with me helps.<br><br>
I keep meaning to make weekly menu list, with shopping list, and have about 4 or 5 different weeks. Then I could just grab that list for shopping. Did that make sense?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I just feel like I spend more time keeping things clean than with my kids. I am probably wrong, but I find myself putting them off at times since these are things that need to get done, kwim?</div>
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I've constantly redefined what falls under the "things that have to get done" heading. At this point, my standards are pretty low. Seriously, these kids have grown up so freakin fast that I can't, in good conscious, tell my son, "No I can't play with you now, I have to scrub the toilet."<br><br>
Not that we never clean---I throw a load of laundry in every morning. At some point, someone puts it in the dryer and when it comes out it gets sorted into the owner's baskets--what they do with it from there is up to them. When the sink is full of dishes, I'll ask someone to empty the dishwasher and I'll reload it while I'm waiting for something on the stove. When the pet hair crosses my comfort level, I'll ask the kids to pick up so I can vacumm. I sometimes scrub the tub when I step into it for a shower--take two minutes to swish the toilet and wipe the sink while I'm there. Someone on their way out the door will take the trash out or dump the compost.<br><br>
We do really minimal stuff while waiting for something else, or while on our way to other things.<br><br>
When my kids were very little, it did feel like I was always cleaning-but I was cleaning faces and hands and mopping up spills and changing dirty clothes. Those things end, of course, so as your kids get older it'll get easier. But housework is pretty low on my list of priorities.
 

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I've gone through phases where I'm good with keeping up with the housework, usually when I'm on a <a href="http://www.flylady.net" target="_blank">www.flylady.net</a> or <a href="http://www.motivatedmoms.com" target="_blank">www.motivatedmoms.com</a> spurt.<br><br>
Currently, I handle dishes, laundry and decluttering and I pay a friend's ten year old ds to come to the actual cleaning. He sweeps, vacuums, mops, scrubs, anything that needs cleaning. And honestly, he does it at least as well as me, if not better.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Sometimes when I clean the bathrooms I will spread it out. For instance I will scrub the toilet when I go in to potty. Then a couple hours later clean the bathroom sink after I potty again. Then the shower/tub. You get the picture. I never seem to do the "whole" bathroom at once, lol.</div>
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Haha that is exactly how I clean my bathroom 3 times out of 4!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I find housework overwhelming too, while trying to homeschool. Since my ds was born, and has been waking me up 6:30 every morning, I'm getting some work done, but it still feels like I have to choose between schooling my kids and having a house decently clean enough to live in.
 

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Pam and Abigail- never got to wish you Congratulations on your new addition. Welcome Oliver!<br><br>
I don't get everything done, except maybe every three months and my house is trashed.<br>
One thing that keeps us going is Dh does dishes every evening and I do a load during the day. Beyond that, anything is a bonus. *laughs*<br><br>
This summer I am implementing a semiweekly schedule, so that I don't spend hours of the day cleaning.<br>
Daily- one load dishes, sweep floor and vacuum<br>
Mondays- Mop<br>
Tuesdays- Laundry 3loads<br>
Weds- nothing other than daily list<br>
Thursday- bathroom<br>
Friday- wash towels<br>
Sat-Sun- ?<br>
This should keep me on top of things without feeling like I am working all day.<br>
I am also going to chat with the kids about what they want to help with.
 

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Taking notes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I've tried flylady, worked great with one tiny DS. Now that I have 2 crazy boys and one tiny wild woman, well not so well. Add h/s to that, and I'm sunk.<br><br>
I'm not a morning person, and have low energy. I've been tested for thyroid and other issues but no luck yet. That doesn't help. I hate mess, but this place looks insane right now and it makes me depressed. The worst part is we're moving to a place 5 times bigger than this once we're finished building in Nov! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I'm very nervous.<br><br>
I do laundry every day, what gets me is putting it all away. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Lack of space sucks.
 

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We do cleaning at every meal, and everyone helps. Meal times seem to work best for us because I have everyone rounded up then. It takes us about 20-30 min. 3x a day to keep the house pretty clean.<br><br>
I am a morning person, by about 5 or 6 in the evening, if it isn't done, it isn't going to be done.<br><br><br>
After breakfast we do a pick up of the "public" areas of the house. The Kitchen, the two bathrooms, and the living room (which includes our school area, that has to be done to have a productive school day). This is just a pick up, counters and tables cleared, dishwasher loaded, laundry started, and kitchen swept. Sometimes we all go from room to room together, but usually we all go get started in pairs.<br><br>
After lunch we do the private areas- bedrooms. Everyone goes and cleans thier rooms, and I sort today's laundry, then we all put up our laundry, we may also have a deeper clean to do now. Reoganizing the linen closet, or going through the boys clothes, or straigtening a shelf.<br><br>
At dinner time, chores are usually before eating. All day long as we have picked up, I keep a list on a white board in the kitchen of things that need more attention then we can give them on our daily pick ups. Fish tank needs filled; microwave needs cleaned; oatmeal needs vacuumed out from beside stove; wall by back door needs washed, ect. Then as they start with the "What's for dinner"s and "I'm hungry"s, I start handing out the chores.<br><br>
It helps to make sure your cleaning supplies are kid friendly. A dustbuster is good, a sqirt bottle and rag are eaiser to use then a mop, kid friendly cleaners (I mean even if they eat the vinegar solution or squirt it on their brother it isn't a big deal), a plan for putting up dishes (can they climb on the counter or do you just want a pile of plates under the plate cupboard, and a pile of cups under the cups, ect.).
 

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Some great ideas here - thanks from me, too!<br><br>
I'll add:<br><br>
I clean the bathroom sink and toilet while ds (age 2) is in the bath playing. (If he's really busy playing I can do baseboards, clean out under the sink...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">)<br><br>
We use cleaning zones (a wee bit like Flylady). Each week I focus on a different part of the house. I spend @10 minutes a day doing some cleaning/organizing in that zone and dds are requested to do something once a week in the "zone." It helps me feel like I'm doing more than just keeping my head about water housework-wise.<br><br>
I feel for you with the food allergies/sensitivies. It must make meal times even more difficult. Like others here I've found meal planning to be an immense help.<br><br>
Laundry: DH is really in charge here, but one thing that has helped us is washing/drying each child's laundry in a separate load and then putting it in a separate laundry basket for each to fold and put away. For those picky about separating colors this won't work, but we've had no problems as long as we take out the occassional new pink/red t-shirt to go with the rags or diapers (their brother doesn't mind pink diapers!)
 
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