How do you go out?

I have no idea how we make it out half the time, sometimes we dont.
My son is almost 5 (sensory issues so far) does the same thing. Even if he wants to go somewhere he still does the same thing. :

I think a lot of us will post that we're in the same boat.

I picked up a trick form Dora the Explorer. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. She does things in 3's. Over the sand dunes, through the forest, then the big chicken! (Is anyone else hearing it in their head or am I the only one? ) Anyway, I tell the kids the same way whn we do things like go swimming at the gym. Pool, Shower, Child Center. Otherwise ds, in particular, gets REALLY unhappy. He hates the child center, too, so I have to tell him just a few minutes! Mom needs to shower first and then we'll go home. (Easier for me to shower them before I shower myself.) Once he's in there he's fine. So it seems to be the process of checking in.

It definitely took some time to put it into practice and I had to do it EVERY TIME we went somewhere. It helps, but there are some days that he just CAN'T HANDLE CHANGE. Like when we go to church. We go 3 times a week and he just fights it. I have to get in there and help him get dressed before anyone else and then I reward him by letting him play a video game or watch a show. Something HE likes to do. He's 7 but can't focus on getting himself dressed, so I hand him his pants, remind him to put on clean underwear, get his socks, etc. (I hope I'm not doing this when the kid is 17. )

Some things will just be a struggle for him, even if it's EVERY SUNDAY or EVERY TUESDAY or whatever.

Be prepared and expect that it's going to be difficult for your dd to get out of the house. You KNOW that about her. The key is to figure out how to make it as easy on yourself as possible.

If she's going to cry every time you go somewhere, get her dressed to the shoes first and reward her. Or, if she has trouble waiting once she's dressed, then do her last. Have everything ready and in the car, maybe even have the car running! Then attack!

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That sounds like us... We are NEVER on time anymore.
Dorian always seems to get upset about something.
Even when he wants to go to places he likes, something always happens. I expect it now and get really excited when it doesnt. I have tried to tell him whats coming up next like the 3 Dora thing (which was funny as I could hear her in my head! ) But then he usually becomes overwhelmed at the upcoming things and talks about it excessively. The only thing that works so far that I have figured out is getting myself ready WAY ahead of time to have plenty of time to deal with him and staying calm myself.