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My husband (surprisingly!) is intrigued with UC, as am I. I think our only hesitancy would be the same as most others - dealing with the What Ifs. Obviously I know the chances are slim, but of course stuff happens.<br><br>
Do you prepare in any way or study or keep an emergency book on hand? Or do you just try to transfer quickly or call 911?<br><br>
As it stands now our goal is to have a midwife who is comfortable staying outta our way unless we need her. But I'd love to get more info on UC too before we make our decision.<br><br>
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My husband and I are doing some really indepth research on what complications are possible and what their actual rates of occurence are (we have a doula helping us compile that information). Then we will make plans that correspond to the what if that complication really occurs. We also are confident that we will be comforted in knowing that the actual rates of risk are very low. I'm not likely to transfer unless it is a dire emergency. If I can make it through a hospital birth where I was bullied, manipulated and pressured into medication without taking medication, I know I'm not going to transfer for that reason. However we do have a midwife enlisted who is open to taking phone calls from us asking advice/guidance and who would show up if we asked her, and not be upset if we didn't.<br><br>
That's how we're handling the what-ifs. We're learning about them before hand and making contigent plans which probably won't be needed but we'll have "in case."
 

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I don't have any better answers for you than the pp but I just wanted to say that in childbirth regardless of place or attendent there are always "what ifs". Birth is as safe as life gets.<br><br>
but not to oversimplify either, Im all about research and gaining that knowing for yourself. Hope you find all the info and support you need on this journey to empowered ecstatic birth.
 

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The list of "what ifs" tends to get a lot shorter and more managable when you actually name what they are and move away from just a generalized "so much can go wrong!" mindset.<br><br>
So what are your what ifs? Maybe list them something like:<br><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">During pregnancy</span><br>
multiple babies<br>
GD<br>
Pre-E<br>
premature labor<br><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">Labor Starts</span><br>
early ROM<br>
cord prolapse<br>
long labor with fatigue<br>
blood<br><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">Birth</span><br>
breech<br>
face<br>
funky heart tones<br>
SD<br>
baby not breathing/needing resus<br><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">PP</span><br>
tears<br>
excessive bleeding<br>
retained placenta<br><br>
Maybe decide what your first action would be, what to try if that doesn't work, and decide what your absolutes for help/transfer are.
 

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I agree with the above post. Personally, I wanted to know as much as possible, so I did a lot of studying and learned how to handle problems on my own. If it was something I couldn't handle, I learned how to read the warning signs so I could get myself to a hospital if necessary.
 

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for us the "what ifs" are a lot less at home by ourselves. this is a BIG part of why we want to UC (though it's also religious reasons)<br>
It does help that I know CPR, and i have a decent amount of labour and birthing and newborn experience. however I don't think that qualifies me any more than any other mother, to birth her own baby.<br><br>
we have an "emergency" childbirth handbook on hand if needed. and I'm preparing for the more common "what ifs" like FTP and cord prolapse and baby who isn't breathing well etc. but really all in all there are NEVER guarantees with childbirth. how hospital or doctor or MW can make such promimses.<br><br>
when it comes down to it, I think if one isn't ready or able ot handle the "what ifs" of US then it's not a good idea for them. that doesn't mean I don't get my moments of fright or fear though! we all do! but if we let fear guide us in life, our lives would be pretty miserable!
 

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This is pretty much what we did. I am 5 weeks and been studying for over a year for this.<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I agree with the above post. Personally, I wanted to know as much as possible, so I did a lot of studying and learned how to handle problems on my own. If it was something I couldn't handle, I learned how to read the warning signs so I could get myself to a hospital if necessary.</div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">The list of "what ifs" tends to get a lot shorter and more managable when you actually name what they are and move away from just a generalized "so much can go wrong!" mindset.<br><br>
So what are your what ifs? Maybe list them something like:<br><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">During pregnancy</span><br>
multiple babies<br>
GD<br>
Pre-E<br>
premature labor<br><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">Labor Starts</span><br>
early ROM<br>
cord prolapse<br>
long labor with fatigue<br>
blood<br><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">Birth</span><br>
breech<br>
face<br>
funky heart tones<br>
SD<br>
baby not breathing/needing resus<br><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">PP</span><br>
tears<br>
excessive bleeding<br>
retained placenta<br><br>
Maybe decide what your first action would be, what to try if that doesn't work, and decide what your absolutes for help/transfer are.</div>
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Thanks for this list. Its a good place to start. BTW, I don't recommend looking at William's Obstetrics to find your list of "what-ifs." Talk about paranoid....
 
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