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Hi all,<br><br>
I have a quandry here, some friends of mine asked me to teach their 10.5 year old to embroider as part of his ( yes, his) homeschooling. They want me to dedicate two _ two hour sessions a week, after I work to his education.<br>
First, I have doubts that the boy in question wants to learn embroidery and two they are expecting me to donate 4 hours a week for free...no talk of swapping talents or time or anything else, just I give them 4 hours over teh course of two evenings a week for the school year.<br>
My question to you is how do you handle having people other than yourself and your spouses ( or SO) teach your children. What kind of time constraints and do you swap time, talents or do you pay them or ........?<br>
thanks,<br>
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Hi Andi <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
I have a good friend who is teaching my dd to sew. When I first asked her to teach dd, I assured friend that lessons would take place whenever friend would want them to. She has a full time job and I do not want to wear her out in any way.<br>
I also offered money for lessons and she wouldn't take it. I think the people asking you to teach their ds should offer money for your "services". Would you believe... my friend prefers me to pay her back with home-cooked dinners. On the days that we start a new project, we go buy the things we need for it and then I take her and dd out to lunch. This has worked out so well for us-it's been really fun, in fact.<br>
I've also done some calligraphy for my friend in the past and she knows I will do more for her if she ever needs the service again in the future.<br><br>
So I am thinkin....you should be getting something back in return for teaching your skill. It's only fair, really.
 

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Are you also schooling your children??<br><br>
ITA that you should get something in return for your time!! I'd just tell them up front that you'll do it for $ or service in return.
 

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teachinmaof3,<br><br>
I don't have kids, I help raise a nephew who is in Public school, so this would be in addition to everything else in my life.<br>
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I'm in a co-op situation with other homeschooling moms. I''m teaching recorder, another mom is teaching science, another provides the place, etc. I can't imagine not offering you something in return for your services. I'd just matter-of-factly start discussing with them what form payment will take, whether trade or $$$.<br><br>
I also can't imagine 2 2hour sessions of embroidery per week, although I enjoy needlework. What the heck are you supposed to do with all that time -- sit and watch each other stitch? When I teach dd something like knitting or sewing I show her the technique in question, then she wanders off to try it on her own. She checks back with me every so often if she has a problem or to show me her progress. Adult art or craft classes generally aren't that intense, are they?
 

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Wow, his mom sounds kinda pushy.<br><br>
I would offer one one hour lesson once a week for $50 for 6 weeks. That is a little less than $10 an hour and limits your time commitment. Or offer to do it her way if during the lessons she will come over and do the yucky cleaning for two hours. You know, the stuff under the fridge, the inside of the oven, scrubbing the dishwasher, bathrooms, base boards, or perhaps there is some other servies she could have done for you that would free up four hours a week? Perhaps she could run al your erronds, wash your clothes, do your dishes and put up some meals in the freezer for you. Just something that would provide for you the free time it would require for you to sit around sewing.<br><br>
Who is so rude to ask for so much without at least offerning compensation. And two hours of sewing is a lot for a young kid. it is a lot for me.
 
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