Our oldest had a really hard time getting the hang of going to sleep by himself. We put him in his little bed right next to ours, so we could lie next to him but then when we got up the bed wouldn't move and wake him up, This was at about 4.
At 6, he and his 3 yo brother went into their own room. The 3 yo went right to sleep, but the bigger one still needed an adult with him for about 6 more months. Then we had a folding chair in the open doorway, where one adult could sit and read a grown-up book after bedtime stories, songs and lights-out. That helped a ton, because we were right there, but quiet, reading for ourselves, and he could see we wern't doing anything fun w/o him, or going away.
Over time, the chair moved out into the hall. We also used a homeopathic sleep aid, maybe coffee cruda. I can check if you want, just PM me. Now at age 9, he sometimes lies awake for a while, but has no trouble with us saying good night and leaving the room.
At 6, he and his 3 yo brother went into their own room. The 3 yo went right to sleep, but the bigger one still needed an adult with him for about 6 more months. Then we had a folding chair in the open doorway, where one adult could sit and read a grown-up book after bedtime stories, songs and lights-out. That helped a ton, because we were right there, but quiet, reading for ourselves, and he could see we wern't doing anything fun w/o him, or going away.
Over time, the chair moved out into the hall. We also used a homeopathic sleep aid, maybe coffee cruda. I can check if you want, just PM me. Now at age 9, he sometimes lies awake for a while, but has no trouble with us saying good night and leaving the room.
