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How do you keep youself on track?<br><br>
I have realized it is going to take great organization for me to keep a clean and together house. Now, I could just accept it and go on with life but I can't. I NEED it to be clean and ready to go, kwim?<br><br>
So, I'm thinking of just having a schedule for every day and not going to bed till the items on the list are stisfactory. I am even talking about as detailed as "give boys a bat" not that I forget but I want to be sure things like that are on the list so that I remember that I still have to plan around them.<br><br>
(I feel like such a loser)<br><br>
For instance; my mom always did laundry on thursday. We all knew that when we came home from school that our piles would be ready to put away before bed.<br><br>
I work full time. I have too much laundry to do on a weekly basis to get it all done in one day. So, I know I have to spread it all out etc.<br><br>
So, what do you do?
 

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Lately, I have had company almost every day...so that's pressure that keeps me motivated to keep things clean.<br>
Honestly, I have started deep cleaning one room per day, tidying up everywhere as I go throughout each day, and doing (and putting away) at least one load of laundry per day.<br><br>
The daily guests, however, are the biggest motivator!
 

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I need help with this, too. I've got 20-month-old twins who are getting into everything. If the house is a mess, I'm a mess.<br><br>
Bobbie
 

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I need help with this, too. I've got 20-month-old twins who are getting into everything. If the house is a mess, I'm a mess.<br><br>
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My boys are always cranky and into everything if the house is a mess. They seem much more centered with a clean house.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My boys are always cranky and into everything if the house is a mess. They seem much more centered with a clean house.</div>
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I am finding too that we are much more at peace when the house is at peace. We did a *huge* decluttering this month, which has helped tremendously. For us, biggies in keeping the house clean now (which it never really was before) are:<br><br>
1. Only having a limited number of things (books, toys, etc) in each bedroom, and making sure everything in there has a home. It is very easy now for the two older boys (6 and 3 1/2) to clean their rooms as they know exactly where their toys go, how to pull up their covers on their beds, and where to put dirty laundry. I find myself spending much more time enjoying their rooms by playing toys with them rather than stressing about the mess. Our bedroom has also been stripped down to the bare minimums which actually makes it that much nicer in there.<br><br>
2. Making sure we did the same in each living space. The kitchen is no longer the "halfway house" for lost items. The bookcases were culled this month so the books we have fit on them; also different bookcases are now designated for different things. The boys, again, know where their books go so it's a lot easier and less stressful for them to help tidy up things.<br><br>
3. Start a new load of laundry every morning. I can't do the laundry once a week thing - between 5 people, three of whom are little boys that love getting dirty, plus diapers, it was overwhelming. My goal is one load of clothes a day, one load of diapers a day (or every other day), and then towels/sheets once a week. Another laundry "rule" I've made for myself is that I can't get a new load out of the dryer to fold until the previous one is folded *and* put away. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> I was having piles of laundry all over our living room furniture; poor dh would have to get dressed for work out there. So, the fininshed load gets put away (and it's super fast to just put away one load of clothes I have found) and then the next load can come out.<br><br>
4. Borrowing from FlyLady, we are doing a 10 minute "tidy up time" where we focus on different areas each day - the shoes by the front door, the collections of books that end up on bedside tables, the cubbies in the closets, etc, and make sure those things are tidy and organized.<br><br>
5. Finally I borrowed a bit from FlyLady ... I wrote out a list of what I would do in each room to really clean it - wipe down switch plates, sweep, mop, vacuum, reorganize bookshelves, etc. I typed it out and plan on just taking one room each day or every other day so the big things are done on a semi-weekly basis. Basically each month I should be able to spend only about 30 minutes "deep" cleaning each room at least one time.<br><br>
6. Oh, one more thing from FlyLady (I hate the emails, but she had some gems in my opinion that helped me figure out how I am going to keep a handle on things here) was that I want to make sure my kitchen is tidy each night before bed. I hate getting up in the morning to dirty dishes, a messy table, etc. So, if the dishwasher can be loaded, any extra dishes rinsed and neatly stacked on one side of the sink, the counters & table cleared and wiped down, I'll be a happy gal in the morning when it is time to make breakfast.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am finding too that we are much more at peace when the house is at peace.<br>
5. Finally I borrowed a bit from FlyLady ... I wrote out a list of what I would do in each room to really clean it - wipe down switch plates, sweep, mop, vacuum, reorganize bookshelves, etc. I typed it out and plan on just taking one room each day or every other day so the big things are done on a semi-weekly basis. Basically each month I should be able to spend only about 30 minutes "deep" cleaning each room at least one time.<br><br>
6. Oh, one more thing from FlyLady (I hate the emails, but she had some gems in my opinion that helped me figure out how I am going to keep a handle on things here) was that I want to make sure my kitchen is tidy each night before bed. I hate getting up in the morning to dirty dishes, a messy table, etc. So, if the dishwasher can be loaded, any extra dishes rinsed and neatly stacked on one side of the sink, the counters & table cleared and wiped down, I'll be a happy gal in the morning when it is time to make breakfast.</div>
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We do both of these. I just started this past week. I divided the house into ten rooms/zones so I can get through the house in two weeks of Monday through Friday. I'm doing a quick clean of the main bathroom (mirror, sink, toilet) on Friday and Monday. I'm vacuuming and mopping once a week.<br><br>
For laundry, I don't have a sorter or hampers. Dh has a walk in closet though, and in it are three laundry baskets. One is for clothes, one is for whites/towels (only because we're one laundry basket short, and our whites load is never big anyway) and one for cleaning cloths and kitchen laundry. I wash diapers every other day. The regular clothes, when the basket fills up (usually every other day), I wash them. I wash the cleaning cloths, towels and whites one day a week, usually Saturday.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I was having piles of laundry all over our living room furniture; poor dh would have to get dressed for work out there. So, the fininshed load gets put away (and it's super fast to just put away one load of clothes I have found) and then the next load can come out.</div>
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Oh this is ssoooooo me. I find it hard to do the last step of "putting away" because I have to get everything past the baby gates up the stairs and it takes a lot of trips. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: So I've started a rule to take something up with me every time I go upstairs throughout the day to use the bathroom or whatever. Not perfect, but better than it was!
 

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We're planning something similar, but we haven't yet made up our daily or weekly chores lists. We had one for the beginning of the summer when DD1 was at camp, and in 2 weeks it's all going to change when DD1 and DS are in school.<br><br>
Things do go much more smoothly when we have a list of chores that we can simply check off when we finish something, and nobody has to nag me "what do I do next?" or "but I already did my work and I'm taking a break now! What do you mean there's a chore I forgot to do?"
 

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I SAH but I had to get organized when I worked or things just wouldn't get done. I went to college for undergrad and graduate school so I was just used to having certain classes on certain days and I just transferred that to my home life. I have things I do weekly and some I do daily. When I worked I always vacuumed and cleaned all the floors on Saturdays. I moved the furniture and everything. I always cleaned the bathrooms on Fridays and I always wash our bedding on Sunday so we start the week with fresh sheets. I did the rest as needed since it was just DH and myself. Now that I SAH w our 2 yr old I find if I don't have those days designated for certain things, I procrastinate and my house gets all gross.<br><br>
You sound very busy so I would recommend that you only worry about the big things like vacuuming, laundry, dishes, bathroom, etc. Once you get the hang of that stuff you can move on to smaller things. Like maybe every Tuesday you go through all your junk mail and toss it, etc.<br><br>
Another thing, our trash only gets picked up on Wednesdays so I try to get some of my cleaning on Tuesdays so I can get as much trash out as possible.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">(I feel like such a loser)</div>
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No offense to you, but I'm glad I'm not the only one! I've said so many times, "I swear we were better organized before kids" that it's not even comforting anymore.
 

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Until recently, I used a very detailed schedule that worked great for us. Now I've hired a housekeeper so that I can play with my kids more, but here's my old schedule in hopes that it can help others.<br><br>
Daily:<br>
Clean kitchen counters.<br>
Wipe down high chair & dining table.<br>
Sweep kitchen, laundry room, & entryway.<br>
Wash & fold/put away one load of laundry.<br><br>
Mondays:<br>
Vacuum & dust<br><br>
Tuesdays:<br>
Clean master bath mirrors, vanity, sinks & toilet.<br><br>
Wednesdays:<br>
Clean kids' bath mirror, vanity, sink & toilet.<br><br>
Thursdays:<br>
Balance checkbook & write bills.<br><br>
Fridays:<br>
Clean toilets again.<br><br>
First Saturday of Month:<br>
Clean out DS's toys.<br>
Straighten/organize DS's dresser, DVDs, books, under-bed cabinets & closet.<br>
Wash DS's sheets.<br><br>
First Sunday:<br>
Clean out DD's toys.<br>
Straighten/organize DD's dresser & closet.<br>
Wash DD's sheets.<br>
Mop all floors.<br><br>
Second Saturday:<br>
Clean kitchen trash can, drawers & cabinets.<br>
Clean out & wipe down fridge, inside & out.<br>
Clean fish bowl.<br>
Clean dish drainer.<br><br>
Second Sunday:<br>
Clean microwave, dishwasher, & toaster.<br>
Wash my sheets.<br><br>
Third Saturday:<br>
Straighten/organize entertainment center.<br>
Clean out living room end table.<br>
Clean washer & dryer.<br>
Straighten/organize laundry room cabinets.<br><br>
Third Sunday:<br>
Straighten/organize master closet, my dresser & nighttable.<br>
Wash both kids' sheets.<br>
Mop all floors.<br><br>
Fourth Saturday:<br>
Clean master tub & shower.<br>
Straighten/organize linen closet, drawers & cabinets in master bath.<br><br>
Fourth Sunday:<br>
Clean windows & doors/doorframes.<br>
Wash my sheets.<br><br>
Fifth Saturday (when applicable):<br>
Clean out DS's clothes.<br><br>
Fifth Sunday (when applicable):<br>
Clean out DD's clothes.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">No offense to you, but I'm glad I'm not the only one! I've said so many times, "I swear we were better organized before kids" that it's not even comforting anymore.</div>
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We've never been organized <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
We would jsut rather go and do and now that we need to sometimes stay and sit we jsut can't handle it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Oooh, home management! I could talk about this all day! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I have my own system that's based loosely on the Large Family Logistics weekly schedule -- it's a yahoo group much like Flylady but geared for homeschooling moms of many. When I was revamping my homekeeping routine about a year ago, I found it helpful to subscribe and just read through the emails for a couple of weeks until I got the hang of how her ideal large family moved through their day. I don't subscribe anymore because I'm not at my computer during the day, but it really helped give me a template that I could adapt to my own needs and tastes.<br><br>
I'm not a strict Caroline-Ingalls chore chart slave, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> but I do find that grouping certain types of tasks together and setting aside a specific block of time for them seems to free up our time in other areas, and keeps the household running smoothly. For example (okay, this is a bit Little House, I admit), Monday is laundry day. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> There are some things we do every day (vacuum after pick-up time, make the kitchen sparkle, etc.) and that also really helps keep things presentable.<br><br>
I do a ton of hidden decluttering and cleaning as we go about our day -- my MIL has a great expression, "Never waste a trip!", and the kids and I are always carrying a little something here and there whenever we're moving about, to put things back in their places. Also, I love the Flylady rule that if you pass something that needs to be done/organized/cleaned, and it will take 30 seconds or less to take care of it, never pass it by: stop and do it. I know this sounds too Pollyanna to be true, but it really does feel like the house cleans itself when you do little things like that, without even noticing them, throughout the day as you go about your life.<br><br>
One large-scale organizational trick that really helped me was to adapt the Large Family Logistics practice of having a "town day" on Thursday for running errands (though ours just take a couple of hours, not all day). Then to prepare for that, Wednesday is Paperwork Day, where I open up my little antique desk and fire up my computer. I sit at my desk for a block of time, usually in the morning, and plan our week's meals, make town day lists, pay bills and organize the household paperwork, update the family scrapbooks and our homeschooling portfolio, do what I call "momly research" (you know, googling this and that, searching bulletin boards for recommendations, asking questions of my little circle of online friends), any online shopping, responding to email, etc. etc.<br><br>
We keep things very flexible, and the rhythm of our lives varies with the seasons of the year and the seasons of our family life. Everything takes a backseat to the Christmas holidays, my favorite time of the year. This winter the schedule will fall away a lot as we settle into life with a new baby <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat"> and then in the spring we'll re-emerge. I have plans to explore a few fun community activities with my little ones, and I'm sure the home organization will spin up again as we find our rhythm as a family of five.<br><br>
That's what works for me! I wouldn't like to stick to a defined chore schedule (I'm just not a sticker chart kind of person), but choosing a few large areas of homekeeping and setting aside chunks of time for them has freed me up immensely. It's second nature to me at this point, and we fall comfortingly back into the basic rhythms even after vacations, travelling, moving, etc.
 

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I highly recommend motivatedmoms.com<br>
She gives you a check off list of what to do every day. No stalling while I try to come up with the perfect plan <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I did something today that made a huge difference. When the boys got down for their nap I spent 10 minutes and ONLY 10 minutes straightening the house (I could easily get into a 1 1/2 hour cleaning project). Likewise, when they got to bed, I spent just 10 minutes going through the house and straightening.<br><br>
I feel cheated if I spend a lot of their down time on housework, but 10 minutes of naptime and 10 minutes of bedtime was doable plus was enough to get all the clutter picked up and make a difference in how I feel about the house.<br><br>
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I was a FlyLady dropout a few years ago, but now I'm back. Her big message is that "are not behind" and that you just do what you can! The e-mails used to annoy me (I could never do things when she said to) but now I just read/do what I can and move on. I adapt things to how I need them to be. She inspires me to keep going.<br><br>
I think 2 major things are (1) decluttering and (2) routines. When these 2 things are in place, everything gets easier. FL helps with both!
 

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invite peole over <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
i find my house stays really nice, and i get off my butt more, if i know we have someone coming over ---- about every other week works well.<br><br>
ofer to host play dates, have another mom and kid over for lunch ... doesn't have to be a dinner party... jsut someone.<br><br>
THANKS for the Large Family Logistics heads up -- i am going to spend some time reading.<br><br>
I do a farily good job now -- but i feel i am always flying by the seat of my pants <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I want a better routine and approach -- so i feel better, not that more will really get done, maybe, but maybe not -- but even if it jsut runs more smoothily<br><br>
YK?<br><br>
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I don't know about not letting yourself go to bed until your list is done! Oof, that sounds like it could be a lot of punishment that you don't really deserve.<br><br>
I have found that a lot of tasks don't really take as much time as it does to think about them, so I just do them when I notice them. Instead of noticing that the toilet needs to be cleaned and thinking, oh great, one more thing to do, I just throw in some cleaner and give it a quick scrub. I would never design or plan to change the sheets three minutes before bed, but if that's when I notice that it needs to be done, I go ahead and do it. It takes five minutes and then it's done.<br><br>
Other small things, like throwing in a load of laundry, taking out the compost, picking up one pile of toys, can take just a few minutes and be fit in almost any time of the day. For example, dump in a load of laundry on your way out to work. Put it in the dryer when you get home. Put it away before you go to bed.<br><br>
So in a nutshell, instead of telling yourself, "It is Wednesday, I must vacuum the house, mop the floor and dust!" look around and think, "Okay, I have 5 or 10 or 15 minutes... what is driving me the craziest that I can accomplish in that time?"
 

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okay...so now I am gonna have a pity party....but have your ex haul you into family court...and that will do wonders for your viewpoint and for getting you into the habit of a better cleaning schedule.<br><br>
i really need something that works though....I have a bit of adhd, and find I get sidetracked really easy as do my kids. .....now with all the court dates and doctor visits(we're behind and with the court thing , I have to get my butt in gear) and my ex breathing down my neck.....i need something that really works.....
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">..I have a bit of adhd, and find I get sidetracked really easy as do my kids. .....now with all the court dates and doctor visits(we're behind and with the court thing , I have to get my butt in gear) and my ex breathing down my neck.....i need something that really works.....</div>
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FlyLady-- seriously. Just for today, set a timer, and do some cleaning for 15 minutes-- period.
 
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