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DS is 11 weeks and has been sleeping in bed with me and DH. We have a co-sleeper set up, which we haven't used yet. So far, DS gets into bed at the same time that DH and I do - usually between 10:30pm-12:00am (depending on the night). He sleeps on and off throughout the day and evening, of course, wherever we happen to be (usually in our arms, occasionally in his bouncy seat or stroller). I'm thinking that we may soon get to the point where it makes sense for DS to "go to bed" a few hours before DH and I do.<br><br>
Well, I guess the first hurdle will be whether DS can even sleep without being on or next to one of us. Assuming we are able to manage that aspect, how do you put a baby to bed when he does not spend the night in a crib? At this point he's not mobile enough to make his way out of the co-sleeper (I don't think), but I know you're not supposed to leave a baby in a co-sleeper unattended. And leaving him in the middle of our bed (which is only a full-size) also seems rather unsafe (falls, pillows and blankets to suffocate on, etc.).<br><br>
We do have his crib set up in his room...he's never been in it for more than a minute, and only with me standing right there (I only put him in when I needed both hands to put things away in his room)...<br><br>
So, when does your baby go to bed and where does your co-sleeping/bed-sharing baby sleep before you're ready to hit the hay?
 

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My lo is 19 months now, but when he was tiny and I guess even now, we have always just laid him in our bed. It was at random time when he was little, but around 10 months or so I think it was about 9-10 pm when he would nurse last, which was on the couch and I carried him into out bed. I just put pillows around him and he was fine. I should add though our house is VERY small, I can sit in my living room on the couch and see into our bedroom. He has also never had a problem with us leaving him alone in there, as long as he was asleep when we laid him down.
 

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I just nurse baby down in my bed and sneak away after s/he's asleep. Just clear away pillows/blankets etc that might be a problem (though to be honest I don't fuss too much about that either...). At that age I wouldn't worry too much (personally) about falling off the bed, but you could put the pillows on the floor next to the bed in case he did.<br><br>
If you're able to put him down without waking him up, then it's totally fine to leave him in the cosleeper. The risk I think is if they can crawl and manage to climb out.
 

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Like others, I nurse babe (13 mos) to sleep in bed and then slip away. I hear him when he rustles/wakes, and I can just run in and check on him. Around 11 wks, I think he still needed me there with him to sleep, so I would just lay there and read or watch movies on the computer for a little while.<br><br>
You may want to invest in a baby monitor--I have found it useful for putting the little one to sleep earlier in the night. I can move about the house and know I will be aware if he starts to wake up.
 

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I always let them unattended in the co-sleeper until we stopped co-sleeping.<br><br>
My twins were swaddled for a looooong time, though. Like 7 months for one and 6 months for the other. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:<br><br>
I just layed them down, turned on the mobile, and they went to sleep. As they got a bit older they would like me to stay with them until they went to sleep, so I did that until around 10 months, when we stopped co-sleeping (because they were mobile and needing to sleep by 7:00 PM and I didn't want to go to bed at 7:00)<br><br>
Once they were in their cribs, they would just go to sleep on their own without crying or anything. Had they cried then my DH and I would have been there to soothe them in their cribs, but it hasn't ever really been a problem thank goodness!
 

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We start bed time around 8pm. We change diaper and clothes and read a book in the rocking chair. Then DS suck on his pacifier and I rock him until he falls asleep. He nurses for an hour or so and when he is finished he pops off. I rock him for another 10 minutes or so and then I take him in our room. I swaddle him and put him in the middle of our bed with pillows all around him (he can't go anywhere yet, so this works for now) and he sleeps like this until I come to bed (1/2 hour to 2 hours later) and move him to his cosleeper where he sleeps the rest of the time until 7 am when he wont sleep unless he is touching both of us. I think when he becomes mobile I will put him in his crib in his room until I go to bed or until he wakes up for his nursing (currently around 2am). Or we might side car his crib and then I would put him in the cosleeper (as a playard) until I go to bed to keep him from rolling off of anything. We also might just put our mattress on the floor. Good luck mama!
 

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I used to just lay him in our bed, nurse to sleep and then listen for him to wake up when he wanted to nurse again. Lately though, he falls asleep better curled up in the recliner, nursing, then I lay him in our bed.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I just nurse baby down in my bed and sneak away after s/he's asleep. Just clear away pillows/blankets etc that might be a problem (though to be honest I don't fuss too much about that either...). At that age I wouldn't worry too much (personally) about falling off the bed, but you could put the pillows on the floor next to the bed in case he did.<br><br>
If you're able to put him down without waking him up, then it's totally fine to leave him in the cosleeper. The risk I think is if they can crawl and manage to climb out.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: get her to sleep and sneak away very very quietly <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Nurse to sleep in bed, sneak away. Always. Still (though not nursing to sleep so often anymore since he's 4 and falls asleep in other ways now).
 

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Nurse to sleep, in bed now but whereever when he was younger, than lie him in middle of bed (queen size) and sneak out. When he was younger we pushed one side of the bed against the wall and bought a bedrail for the otherside. That way I could nurse on both sides at night also. But we stopped using the rail at about 20 months, he's hasn't rolled off.<br>
ds didn't really sleep well alone before he was a year. Often I would nurse him down and then he'd sleep on a blanket on the floor in the living room while we hung out... he was bothered less by the noise than the silence<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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At some point (about where you are) I start to require some "off" time at night. What has worked for us is to nurse baby to sleep in the rocker and transfer to our bed or nurse in bed (depends on the kid) and sneak away. This would occur around 7pm or so. Both boys would wake up after about 45 minutes and I'd have to sprint up stairs to settle them. This got old as they would continue to wake up about every 45 minutes...sometimes every 10 minutes. We just wanted to watch some TV or a movie! So with both boys we ended up folding out the futon in the basement where we hang out, putting the baby down there with us until it was time for me to go to bed. That way I was right there to settle them and if it was really a bad restless night for the baby I could just lay there on the futon and nurse constantly as I watched a movie in relative comfort. We kept it dark and semi quiet.<br>
Don't get me wrong, that got old too but it was the best option we could come up with.<br>
Now the boys (2 and 4.5) are in bed asleep in their own room together right now. It's 8pm and I have my "off" time. But i"ll be starting this process over in about six weeks. Craziness!
 

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Just want to clarify- with a baby my son's age (he rolls over now), is it safe and effective to just put pillows around him to prevent him from falling out of bed?<br>
Thanks!
 

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For me, I would say yes. Get a monitor if you're really worried about the pillows (he'd make plenty noise before he suffocated), but I think you're fine.
 

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For us too I would say it is safe. I didn't worry about it until he started crawling...at which point I moved him into his crib for the first part of the night (around 7 months or so). At that age I would just nurse him to sleep on the bed, and then sneak away and have pillows on each side. I also had the monitor right near his head so I could hear the slightest sound.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Just want to clarify- with a baby my son's age (he rolls over now), is it safe and effective to just put pillows around him to prevent him from falling out of bed?<br>
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Definitely if he can roll you have to worry about him rolling out of bed unless you are right there in the same room ready to respond. Even if he's not there yet, eventually you are going to have to come up with a solution so that he doesn't roll out of bed. A few ideas--put him to sleep in the crib and then bring him to bed with you later (this is what we did with my first child. . .then eventually when they are sleeping through the night, they are already in their own bed and you don't have to worry about transitioning them to their bed) OR put your mattress on the floor.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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Before he could move around, the pillows were fine b/c he coudln't get to them.<br><br>
Now that he moves, IMO the pillows are fine b/c if they cause a problem for him he can move away from them.<br><br>
I just don't worry about pillows with a healthy baby of any age, obviously!<br><br><br><br>
We did have our mattress/box spring on the floor, but that was for MY sake in the early days. He fell once or twice off the bed, but it was no big deal. Even if we had our bed up higher it would have been better than what my hubby did at 9 months old, which was climbing out of his high crib. Who knows if he fell, since his mom didn't know he was getting out until she would come to get him up (and not be able to find him).<br><br>
Once DS started moving enough that he could roll out of bed, we had "bed bootcamp" with him. Spent a good long while one day showing him how to get off the bed. He was very very young, but he got it! A month or so later we went to a Westin, where they have VERY high beds. He started scooching towards the side of the bed and we watched. He got to the edge, turned around so he was going feet-first, then slowly let himself down and plunked his dipe-bottom down to the ground! It was so cool. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:
 

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I've never really worried about suffocation by pillows & blankets.<br><br>
I feel that when baby isn't old enough to move around, just put pillows out of immediate reach - pillows & blankets won't move themselves.<br>
When baby is old enough to move around, they are also old enough to get themselves away from a pillow or blanket that they just rolled into.<br><br>
But that's just me.<br><br>
I've always nursed my babies to bed in the middle of our bed, then rolled away until it was time to return for adult bedtime.<br>
I recommend your bed should be all the way on the floor, no boxspring. Room completely baby-proofed, and a monitor on (if you're not within hearing).
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I just nurse baby down in my bed and sneak away after s/he's asleep. Just clear away pillows/blankets etc that might be a problem (though to be honest I don't fuss too much about that either...). At that age I wouldn't worry too much (personally) about falling off the bed, but you could put the pillows on the floor next to the bed in case he did.</div>
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This is what I do too.
 

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With each kid, at any age/stage, crawling or not, I've always done nurse & sneak away, with big mattress on the floor pushed against a wall, and puffy pillows (puffy enough to act as a barrier for a rolling baby) arranged as a border about a foot away from baby. And a video monitor! I've never felt nervous about that arrangement. When they get mobile but not smart enough to get off the bed safely yet <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> I just hurry to the room when I hear/see him stirring.
 

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I nurse DD (11wks) in the middle of our bed, often. At around 10-11pm, I do it with the lights out after a new diaper and she usually falls asleep for the night. If she does fall into a deep sleep I slip away. DH and I go to bed well after midnight so we get at least a couple of hours together each night.<br><br>
This is the routine for naps as well, if she falls into a deep sleep during the day, I leave her on the bed and go about my business. She can't really roll yet, so I don't worry about her falling out. I do make sure pillows are out of reach though.
 
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