I just tell people we don't like those gendered terms - because for us the objection is largely to the gendered termonology (as well as the other issues) and people largely respect that. I just try to be upfront with people.
Originally Posted by maya44
While I think it is a problem when parents use this phrase, I don't think it is at ALL a big deal when others do.
IMHO, there is no reason to respond, unless its someone who is around your child ennough to really be a factor in how they grow and develop.
To say "we dont say this..." I would think (to myself) if I was just a friend child saw once in awhile ("well I DO!")