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We have this 'thing' where we greet each other with a big smile, hug and kiss at the door when we come home from work (he works M-F, I work Sat). Makes me feel like he missed me and vice versa.

If one of us is up to get a drink, we always ask the other if they would like one. If he shovels the walk, I make him coffee for when he comes in. If I'm trying to sew, he makes sure to occupy the kids so they don't bother me (although it would be ok if they came in my sewing room, I don't mind).

To me it's the little things that show that you are appreciated, not the big showy things like flowers or gifts (although those are cool, too lol).
 

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Well, he's out of the country now, so I can't.


But when he is home:
I always get up in the morning with him, so I can send him off to work with a hug and "I love you".

The kids and I greet him at the door with a smile when he comes home, and I have a warm or cold drink (depending on the season) ready for him.

I tell him a lot specifically what things I appreciate.
 

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I tell him a lot specifically what things I appreciate.

Yeah. I tell him. I am having trouble doing much these days, so I take his face in my hands, gaze lovingly into his eyes and say "I really appreciate it when you xxxxxxx....." SMOOCH!
 

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I give him back rubs when he's worked a long day. I tell him specifically how great he is and how much I appreciate what he does for our family. When he's too tired to do certain tasks we've agreed he'll do (like he wakes up with the baby 2 days out of the week so I can sleep in a bit), I do them with a smile and never make him feel bad for needing extra rest sometimes. I text him through out the day, telling him little things our son is doing, or letting him now how much I love him or appreciate something specific he's done for me (like if he did the dishes that morning or woke up with the baby, I text him so he knows I appreciate it). And really, the main thing I do is try to be happy as much as possible. I greet him with a smile when he gets home. I try to be pretty upbeat and loving (not to the point of being fake, but I make a very distinct effort to be more positive than negative). There were many years in our relationship where I was extremely depressed and never happy, and I think him seeing me happy now makes him happy.
 

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Um, sometimes I make breakfast



Seriously, I need to be better about this. I DO often point out specific stuff that he's done and I've noticed just to let him know how it's impacted me. He's a WAHD so often, I bring him lunch or coffee or something. But I really don't feel like I do enough on this front and lately, it's really bugging me.

So...
 

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I tell him for starters. I do appreciate the work he does so I can sah. I do other things concrete, like make dinner every night, make/pack his lunch for him, and sometimes make his breakfast. I take care of the house/finances as my way of contributing as well. It is a balance, but I know his work is stressful so I do what I can to ease the stress at home. We'll see how this works out when I return to work in two years though....
 

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i am sahp but i been living on my savings for past 2 yrs as hubby was retrenched.just b4 that, i was working and contributing 80% of the expenses. he just found a job and said will give me monies but it wld just cover diapers, milk expenses. i duno how to make it balance. he wants me to show him appreciation by back rubs, breakfast. but I am just too mad - i do the chores and stay up nites to finish up when i cant do all in the day. he doesnt show that he appreciates me. mostly out at work or trying to scout for biz or some errands I dunno wat which means i am mostly alone at home. i realise this is not a healthy arrangment. whever he asks for backrubs 0 its at times when i am tired or still have something to do. i told him abt me, why dont we give each back rubs. he just brushes it aside.

he thinks he's done his part as i am a sahp. I think hello i am still contributing $ to everything so i am still paying for it, isnt it

so i dunno how to show appreciation when i feel this way. it might make him feel better but i'm worried that he'd just expect it as a daily routine and still not helping me out much when i need it.
 

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Each and Every morning after waking up, he brings me coffee. We drink it quietly together until 7am when he showers. I shower right after and the kids wake up. He does breakfast for them.

I make his lunch everyday (even if leftovers from the night before)

I make dinner most evenings unless he cooks which is about once a weekend and once a week at least.

We both like doing little things to help the other. Such as a pp has said, having somehting for him after shoveling the walk, if he is having a tough week, I will make his favorite meal or a special dessert he loves. etc.
 

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I write him notes that tell him specifically what I appreciate: I appreciate that you remember to take out the trash every week and not have to be reminded. I really liked the healthy, delicious dinner you made us last night. I love it when you IM me just to tell me hello during the day.
 

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If one of us is up to get a drink, we always ask the other if they would like one. If he shovels the walk, I make him coffee for when he comes in. If I'm trying to sew, he makes sure to occupy the kids so they don't bother me (although it would be ok if they came in my sewing room, I don't mind).

To me it's the little things that show that you are appreciated, not the big showy things like flowers or gifts (although those are cool, too lol).
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My DH is not a flowers and dates kind of guy. Which is fine, since we're usually broke anyway.
My Valentine's Day gift was that he did two weeks' worth of grocery shopping, took one child with him (double points), and brought me home some chocolate (triple points).


I show him appreciation by keeping the kids out of his way when he's trying to complete a task, making him some extra coffee when I know he's tired, remembering to buy him meat at the store even though I rarely eat it myself.

But really, in our relationship, he's definitely the more considerate one.
 

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I make a point to tell him I appreciate what he does and the hard work I know it is. I get up with him in the morning to iron his clothes and say goodbye.
 

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"I get up with him in the morning to iron his clothes and say goodbye. "

Red Pajama - You are officially a much better wife than I will ever be!

Seriously, though, I try and compliment my hubby on the little things "Thanks for putting toilet paper in the bathroom!", the medium things "The dishes look lovely" and the really, really big things "You are the best father in the entire world. I am so proud of you!".

I also think a nice pat on the butt does wonders.
 

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I like this post!

I'll leave a note in his lunch..."Thanks for working hard for us, we appreiciate it!" and draw a silly picture of me and our cat.

I try to make sure his work clothes are in a packet and lay them on the bed before he leaves.

I try to remember to switch up the morning coffee with fresh oj for a treat.

I plan on having our kiddo tell them "I appreiciate how hard you work for us Dad"

I don't talk about my bad day until he's gotten out of his work clothes, had a beverage, and has been able to relax a few.

I try to remember that he needs sex more than I do.

Biggest of all..... I ACT like I appreiciate him. Like I like him.
 

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Iron his clothes, when he asks, make his coffee, cream n sugar it. Make breakfast at least 4-5 times a wk. Give back massages when he asks. Take care of the children 99% of the time. The other 1% is his. The children are with me ALL the time. I take them everywhere, even when he's home. I've tried to stay in a upbeat happy mode, but i cant anymore! When you dont get a thank you or an i love you...it gets very difficult to keep up the happiness.
I think my appreciation goes un-noticed, sorry im in a funk these days.
 

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Dang, there is a lot of ironing going on in this thread. Kudos to you all, I can't stand ironing and can honestly say the last time I did it was before our last child was born.

But I show my appreciation in other ways; I take the kids with me on errands when I know he needs time to work on something, I clean the entire house with the kids while he's out (we generally do this together on the weekend because we both work), I write him little emails and texts through the day telling him how much I appreciate him, I always thank him for things he does, I get his favorite things at the grocery, I make him coffee, I let him sleep in every now and again and get up with our kiddos even though I work late.
 

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I just do my best to be warm and loving in small everyday actions. I do my best to cuddle him at night (he is super cuddly and I tend to want to just sleep on my stomach,) I try to give him time to do his art and write because I know at this point in our lives we are really busy and he sacrifices alot in order for me to pursue my passions. I just try not to take him for granted and show him how much I adore him everyday, and try to see the qualities in him that initially drew me to him. Some days I am better at it than others, but I think I do pretty good mostly.
 
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