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I hate to sound stupid...but I am all for co-sleeping...it's just that I've never really seen how it's done before! I currently share a bed with my 8 week old. I lay him on the bed in a sleep positioner and I sleep about 2 feet away from him. I'm just wondering how most people do it. Are you touching your infant? Is it the contact that is beneficial or is it just being near enough to respond to their needs? I am not able to breastfeed...I guess that is why I don't feel the need to be super close to the baby. Just looking for other's experiences!
 

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I am snuggling DD in the crook of my arm, head on my shoulder/pit as she nurses to sleep. She sleeps best like this. Occasionally she nestles down onto the mattress, but typically catches about 6 hours on my arm. I can't sleep as well when she's not there.<br><br>
I suppose you could do the same with bottle feeding. But, if you are comfy how you're doing it, that's fine, too. What is your comfort level? Ar eyou using the cosleeper/positioner for reflux, sleeping problems? Or, worried about rolling? Really, for me it just took *practice* (read: months of getting used to it with my first little one). I believe our mama instincts keep us from rolling on babes. I sleep very soundly now, didn't at first though.<br><br>
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When my babes were littler, I'd hold them in the crook of my arm while they were going to sleep. Later in the night (when my arm was going to sleep!) I would lay them up in between DH and my pillows (we'd pull our pillows halfway off the bed though).
 

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I sleep w/ my ds nestled under my armpit and latched on, for pretty much the whole night!! Which is a recipe for disaster for the first part of the night when he first goes down cause I'm not with him so he doesn't sleep as well...but thats okay!!! I think its great that your co-sleeping even though your not nursing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> It'll get easier the more you do it!! It wasn't so easy at first w/ my first ds but it did get easier..and now with my 2nd it was really easy right from the start!!!
 

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I usually lie facing ds, sometimes with a couple inches between us, sometimes with him snuggled right up to me. When I get too sore, I'll roll to my back and keep a hand on/right next to ds. With ds1, I faced away from him when he wasn't nursing because I couldn't lie on my back and I was in agony from my cesarean scar and just couldn't stay on one side all night. I've also slept with a baby on my chest or my arm.
 

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When dd was an infant, we would sleep with her on my chest or in the crook of my arm, like the other mamas said. As she got bigger, I would pull away a little more, because she starts getting her feet going and it isnt fun for anybody to be kicked in the stomach all night! Now she is 2 and i still face her mostly, but when I do turn over occasionaly, I usually find her tugging at my back, looking for her "boo boo", so I flip over and it starts all over again!<br><br>
No, I havent slept all night since she was born, but the few times I put her in her bed (right next to me) even just for a few hours, I am more restless than when she is right next to me...so its totally worth it and I dont see it changing anytime soon <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
You too will find your groove <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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When DD was younger she also slept in the crook of my arm. I admit, it wasn't very comfortable for me because I like to move around a lot. Now that she is 18months old, I LOVE LOVE snuggling with her. She's so snuggly. She likes to sleep touching me, so she's either on my arm or I'm "spooning" with her, or if I'm facing away she's right up against my back. Lately she's also really into sleeping right next to my tummy, though, since she really loves to be close to the baby in there. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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He sleeps in the middle of us. I can't sleep comfortably unless I'm on my stomach. I fall asleep while nursing, but it feels like I'm really half asleep. At night he will usually fall asleep in his crib and I will put him to bed with us when he starts waking in the middle of the night. I have noticed that he seems to sleep less soundly (maybe because we move around?) in our bed.
 

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With DS1 who would wake up if I moved, I slept soundly, but uncomfortably for a long time holding him as others described. DS2 who is 4 1/2 mo, sleeps fine just next to me w/ a little bit of distance between us (though he will move closer & closer to me throughout the night until I'm falling off the bed) and lately it's more comfortable for me to turn away from him. Whatever works for you & babe is what's right! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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my DD always liked to be up close to me for the first half of the night. usually touching me or latched on. for the second half of the night she often rolled away and seemed to prefer sleeping on her own - I always thought that this happened once she had gone into 'deep sleep'.
 

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First month: Couldn't figure out how to nurse lying down. Baby would fall asleep in my lap after nursing; then we'd swaddle him and lay him about 12" from the edge of the bed on my side and keep our covers off him. Usually I slept on my side facing him w/my hand on or near him and EnviroDaddy spooned behind me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
Since then: EnviroDaddy started sleeping in another room most of the time. Baby nurses to sleep lying down. Once he's asleep, I can get up if necessary; if I'm staying in bed, I put my arm down (to avoid muscle cramps) and usually sleep on my side facing him. When he wakes in the night, either I hold him against my chest and roll over to nurse on the other side, or I sit up and move him to the other side and lie down again.<br><br>
One side of the bed is against the wall. I put 2 pillows along the other side to stop baby from rolling off and also to provide something behind me when I'm facing the wall. (I don't like to have empty space behind me. Lingering fear of monsters sneaking up on me, I think!) Oddly, when baby's asleep, if he rolls against a pillow he rolls away, whereas when he's awake he regards the pillows as climbing equipment and tends to tip over them and fall off the bed! He's never fallen off in his sleep except when the pillows weren't there.
 
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