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My 4 3/4-year-old DD1 is not getting it, and she wants to. She's getting frustrated over it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Outside of showing her repeatedly, I have no idea how to help her! Is there some trick to teaching it, or is it just something that clicks eventually?<br><br>
Also, is she the only kid this age who has no interest in riding her bike? She has a very cool, girly, just-her-style bike with training wheels, and she won't set one butt cheek on the thing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> She's generally not a very physical kid, and said that even if I get my own bike, she won't ride with me. Do I push on this? She definitely needs more exercise, but I know she can get that other ways, obviously!<br><br>
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Ok..I'm 40 yrs old and can't skip.<br><br>
My 4 yr old was riding a 2 wheeler but he was always "ahead" of the curve in physical things. His older sister was closer to 8 before she was riding. I wasn't rding a 2 wheeler <span style="text-decoration:underline;">confidentally</span> until 3rd grade or so.
 

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Lots of kids cannot skip at that age and even ones that can really don't do a true skip. DO other things with her hopping in two feet together walking using little VS big steps walking on toes VS flat footed just make it fun these will all help to strengten the muscles and practice the balance and corination she'll need to 'skip" and even ride her bycycle latter. Some never learn and unless shes having serious delays on ALL of this I wouldn't sweat it.
 

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I remember in grade school (maybe 2nd grade?) having a note sent home to my parents because I couldn't skip. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: They wanted my parents to "work" with me on that. I was traumatized, and thought I was in trouble.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> But, my parents were sweet about it and reassured me that there would be no trouble for not knowing how to skip. I am happy to report that I have, since learned to skip just fine.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I would just focus on physical activities that she likes and is interested in.
 

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My sons tumbling class teacher asked me to teach him how to skip. He wasnt getting it. I thought how funny to have to teach a kid to skip, I thought it came naturally- obviously not!<br><br>
So we practiced all day. I demonstrated over and over. The hop- step thing. Hop on the foot you step out on, next foot- well you know.<br><br>
He was frustrated but finally got it.<br><br>
I felt like a bad mom cause I never taught my son to ride a bike. But he taught himself over at the neighbors house. I was impressed.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I remember in grade school (maybe 2nd grade?) having a note sent home to my parents because I couldn't skip. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: They wanted my parents to "work" with me on that.</div>
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ME TOO! Only it was Kindy or 1st grade. My parents still bring it up and laugh about it! I remember my mom trying to demonstrate skipping around the house. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I second the idea of looking for other physical activities to enjoy with her.
 

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DD finally taught her self to ride a 2 wheeler right before her tenth birthday. Prior to that she tried (for YEARS) and would flip out in panic and hysterics. At Christmas we got DS a 2 wheele that is lower to the ground than DD. She felt safer and boom-rides it now. DS has no interest in it tho. Go figure! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I wouldn't push anything she is not interested in. I think there are enough fun active things for kids to do that they will eventually (maybe with a bit of hellp) find something htey like.<br><br>
As for skipping, the way to teach it (I used to be a ballet dancer and teacher) is as follows:<br><br>
]Have the kid practice hopping on one leg a few times and then the other. Let them know that hopping is jumping up and down on *one* leg (not switching legs).<br><br>
Explain and demonstrate - "skipping is 'step on the leg; hop on the leg' - that's how we skip. Then you show them - step on the leg, hop on the leg, step on the leg, hop on the leg -demonstrating and doing it very slowly. MIght have to remind them that hopping does not switch legs - just up and down on one leg.<br><br>
Then they do it with your help -very slowly at first - explain that you have to learn it slowly b4 doing it fast. Touch the right leg and tell them to step on the leg, then tell them now hop on it. THen "Now it's the other leg's turn - step on the leg, hop on the leg. First leg's turn - step on it, hop on it. Etc. Usually most kids will be skipping pretty good after a few practice sessions.<br><br>
Again, you will have to remind them that it has to be learned slowly, and that hopping does not change legs. Also, it is very helpful to actually physically touch the leg that is doing the work.<br><br>
HTH :)
 

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My dd learned to skip in ballet class. She started class just after she turned three. NONE of the girls could skip on the first day. There were 12 little girls, all doing weird gallopy-things around the room during skipping time. The other moms and I were cracking up. Now, eight months later, every single one of the girls can skip well.<br><br>
So... ballet helps! Not that it's the only place she can learn, but a physically-oriented class that she enjoys might be a good idea. My dd is not, by nature, physically inclined either, and taking ballet has helped her coordination <i>so much</i> that I'm amazed. She really wants to take gymnastics too, and I think we'll sign her up this summer and see how that goes.<br><br>
Are there any dance or gymnastics classes near you? Or sports that she might enjoy? Not that life and learning is all about classes, but sometimes kids (or mine, at least!) get frustrated trying to learn things from me but not when an "official" teacher is showing them.<br><br>
About the bike... don't worry about it. She'll do it when she wants to. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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No idea how to teach how to skip. The alternating thing got me too for the longest time. I'd suggest redirecting her to 'galloping' - it's easier.<br><br>
As for the bike - under 5 is very young, IMO. I didn't ride a two wheeler until I was 7, and the average age around our neighborhood is about 6. There is one family with incredibly physically adept boys who all learned about 3-4, and there's my ds, who's 6 and in no danger of riding a bike without training wheels any time soon!
 

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My DD will be 5 in 2 weeks and refuses to ride a bike. She likes us to push her but she won't pedal. I gave up...but now she sees all her friends riding without training wheels and she wants to learn now. BUT her old bike is too small and I don't want to buy a new one if she is going to decide she has no interest again.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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Funny my mom and I were just talking about this the other day. DS has been able to skip forever, and I mentioned it to my mom (he is almost 4). My mom said she had to teach me how to skip when I was 7! I think it must be one of those things that's pretty individual... nobody does it right at the same time.
 

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You are a family, and I think you should give yourself permission to push the bike riding if you want. No doubt she will enjoy it once she learns or at the worst it will just be another way to get to the library or park. It's up to you whether you want to be able to bike there together. You might do a tandem if you have the money.<br><br>
I just watched the pedalmagic.com video (you have to pay), and think it is fabulous.
 

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The very best way to learn to skip is holding the hand of somebody who loves you and already knows how! (as an aside, I think 5 or 6ish is an age where kids can usually do it rather than 4)<br><br>
As for the bike, four is pretty early to ride a bike without help. My oldest did it, but I think 5 or 6 is more common.<br><br>
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my dd just got the knack of both earlier this year and she's 7. (she had been on a bike w/ training wheels for a year or so before though)
 

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If you are worried about her not getting enough activity, try to find other things she enjoys doing. My 4yo love running around, playing softball, kickball, tag, hide and seek, etc.
 

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I think some things will just *click* when they are ready.My dd was this way with certain things.No matter how much I showed her she could not do it,and then one day she was doing it. DD got a bike when she was 4-5,but never really used it.Liked her scooter instead.It took her one day this spring(she is 8 now) to learn how to ride it.She just took off on it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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you might plan a bike-riding playdate if you're wanting her to learn. if she sees her friends riding -- well y'know peer pressure and all that.<br><br>
on the skipping thing, i don't know if mty dd1 can skip or not. she certainly has some personal "moves", but i'm not sure if skipping is in the repetoire. she takes dance at a great low pressure studio and i don't think they've mentioned skipping!
 

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Maybe she would like a scooter better than a bike. My ds prefers a bike. I think he likes being able to sit. He is very active but hates walking. People just have their preferences. My niece who is the same age as my ds has had a pretty bike that she likes, but she really is just starting to actually use it, possibly because ds wants to borrow it all the time when he visits. I expect he will use training wheels for at least another year (he's 5 3/4) if not two. He doesn't maintain a fast enough pace yet but the bike is also a touch too big and on the heavy side.
 

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My dd is 7 and can ride a 2-wheeler a little a bit and she will only ride it in the grass. Once she hits the pavement it's over. Right now she is pretty busy with other activities for us to consistently keep trying.<br>
I never taught her how to skip either, but I think she learned from ballet lessons. I don't quite remember to be honest.
 
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