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Im wondering how your dh's feel about co-sleeping, mine is always saying that our son should start sleeping in his own room, but im not ready and neither is ds.
How does Dh feel about co-sleeping
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by the way, how old is your child (children)??
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I think my DP and are are pretty much on the same page. We love it and think it is the right thing to do, so that's what we do. At the same time we sometimes have uncomfortable nights due to being kicked in the head/back/etc, and while we love having our kids with us, we also miss having the bed to just ourselves.
For us co-sleeping is a give-and-take kind of dance where we do our best to try to get everybody's needs met in the best way we can.
Right now we have a boys room and a girls room. 10mo DD and I sleep in the guest room in a bed together. And 33mo DS and DP sleep in our bed. DS usually starts out the night on a matress on the floor next to "Daddy bed." We are currently talking about trying to get us all back in one room again by having our kids each sleep on a matress on either side of our bed.
For us co-sleeping is a give-and-take kind of dance where we do our best to try to get everybody's needs met in the best way we can.
Right now we have a boys room and a girls room. 10mo DD and I sleep in the guest room in a bed together. And 33mo DS and DP sleep in our bed. DS usually starts out the night on a matress on the floor next to "Daddy bed." We are currently talking about trying to get us all back in one room again by having our kids each sleep on a matress on either side of our bed.
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DH is actually the one who pulled dd out of her arms reach co-sleeper and plopped her into the middle of our bed! Every time I got worried about her being there instead of being in the co-sleeper he would reassure me.
That was more than a year ago and over these last months dh has traded his firm mattress for a larger pillow top, closed the window and turned on the a/c to keep dd happy, and rubbed my back while I nursed dd. He's been amazing and is already talking about how wonderful it will be to welcome another babe into our bed.
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That was more than a year ago and over these last months dh has traded his firm mattress for a larger pillow top, closed the window and turned on the a/c to keep dd happy, and rubbed my back while I nursed dd. He's been amazing and is already talking about how wonderful it will be to welcome another babe into our bed.
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DD is 2.5 and she's never slept in a crib. DH was all for the co-sleeping but now he keeps talking about getting her a bed of her own. In a room of her own!
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Thankfully, it takes him a few years to do something after he starts thinking about it so we've got some time!
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dd didn't sleep well, during the night or day, as an infant so often Dh would escape because he needed some sleep. Once dd was sleeping through the night at 15m things got alot happier for everyone. I think we became a family bed by 9m as dd was only waking once a night and we could latch in the dark, something we couldn't early on and turning on a nightlight and the crying was too much for Dh. Now, dd is near perfect (goes out fast, like 1 minute, and doesn't stir till after Dh leaves for work). So co-sleeping is a piece of cake and nobody feels a need to change things.
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Our child is 2. DH loves co-sleeping. For about 6 months now it's like I'm in my own bed because they sleep like this |dsDH__me|
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ds chose this arrangement on his own.
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DP definitely "tolerated" it at first, but as time went on, cosleeping grew on him! We wouldn't want it any other way. DS (10 months) always wakes up so cheerful and it's such a lovely start to the day!
I slept with my mom and dad until my little sister and I were just too big, but we could always go get in bed with them. I think they would move over for me tonight if I showed up.
My husband was afraid of smushing our first baby. I slept on the couch with her for a week or two. Finaly I tried to put her in a cradel next to us and before I knew it we were both on the edge of the bed listening for her breath. It was an adjustment for him. Now if he's going to take a nap he'll announce it. If no one gets in bed with him he pouts.
We have friends that were big into "let them cry it out". Bed time is something to be dreaded at their house and none of their children have a good attitude about sleep. They don't seem to have the same security that children who co-sleep have. The goal is to meet everyone's needs and get some sleep. We love to wrap up with each other. All of my children can sleep alone, but then we'd be alone. It's important to all of us. Someday we will have the bed to ourselves again, and we'll talk about having the kids in bed with us fondly.
My husband was afraid of smushing our first baby. I slept on the couch with her for a week or two. Finaly I tried to put her in a cradel next to us and before I knew it we were both on the edge of the bed listening for her breath. It was an adjustment for him. Now if he's going to take a nap he'll announce it. If no one gets in bed with him he pouts.
We have friends that were big into "let them cry it out". Bed time is something to be dreaded at their house and none of their children have a good attitude about sleep. They don't seem to have the same security that children who co-sleep have. The goal is to meet everyone's needs and get some sleep. We love to wrap up with each other. All of my children can sleep alone, but then we'd be alone. It's important to all of us. Someday we will have the bed to ourselves again, and we'll talk about having the kids in bed with us fondly.
I have a March 05 baby too...
We JUST moved into our new house and I put the twin mattress/boxsprings down next to our King mattress/boxsprings (neither have a frame, they are on the floor) to give us a little more room. They are butted up to each other - basically it's one HUGE bed.
I voted he tolerates it... but he knows Reid isn't ready for his own room/bed... he still nurses ALL NIGHT LONG and there is NO WAY I'm gonna truck up stairs or heck even across the room to nurse him all night.
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Hubby is SUPER happy just adding some extra footage to our bed. He doesn't feel as squished.
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He wouldn't have it any other way, really. He totally believes a babe needs to be near Mama (and Papa).
Hopefully by the time the next babe arrives Reid will want to use his own bed... and be night weaned. Hopefully!
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We JUST moved into our new house and I put the twin mattress/boxsprings down next to our King mattress/boxsprings (neither have a frame, they are on the floor) to give us a little more room. They are butted up to each other - basically it's one HUGE bed.
I voted he tolerates it... but he knows Reid isn't ready for his own room/bed... he still nurses ALL NIGHT LONG and there is NO WAY I'm gonna truck up stairs or heck even across the room to nurse him all night.
Hopefully by the time the next babe arrives Reid will want to use his own bed... and be night weaned. Hopefully!
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i voted dh is tired of it. we don't do a true family bed all the time b/c he and i are on different sleep schedules. so its only all of us for a few hours at the time. mostly its just me and ds or just dh and ds. ds is 10 months old. i think if we had a bigger bed he'd be less tired of it. ds likes to sleep all flayed out sometimes pluss he wiggles a lot when he's drifting off. dh is really sensitive to movement and touch when he is drifting off. not a great combo. but we're not giving it up anytime soon.
DH is all for it. He was a little heistant in the beginning, we've had a family bed from day one, but quickly came around. It's 3.5 years later and he says that he couldn't imagine not sleeping next to dd every night. #2 is coming soon, and we'll just scoot over, dd was upset when I said the baby couldn't sleep next to her.
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She said that it needed her to hold it while it slept.
My hubby just went upstairs with two out of three kids.
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He voluntarily sleeps with the eldest two, & I sleep with the youngest. (We don't sleep together for his snoring.) The eldest is a bit over four, and I had her sleeping in her own bed for a while, but Rob got tired of her waking him up in the middle of the night by coming in to his room to sleep, so he just put her in bed with him and Linda.
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my boyfriend was super against it when i was pregnant, than tolerated it because i needed it to sleep, and now he loves it when he wakes up getting smacked it the face while dd screams "dada" because she wants to play. she slept in her sidecarred crib last week and neither of us could sleep and we were sad to not wake up to her pretty blue eyes. so all of the above.
Tough one to answer because DH is tired of it but he tolerates it. Most nights now he tends to sleep on the couch because when he tries to come to bed there is no room. We tried to alleviate the problem by buying DD a futon that goes right next to our mattress, but everytime she wakes up during the night she hops in bed with us. I think what we will do when we get the money is buy us all futons (well, maybe a double one for DH and myself) then lay them all together like in a Japanese household. This way we are all still sleeping together, but we also have a little more space to ourselves.
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The other day I suggested that maybe we should offer her a bed of her own, and then she can choose to sleep where she wants. She's almost two and has never slept anywhere but with us. I felt like maybe she's getting to a point where she would like to be independant and sleep alone sometimes. My husband got all worked up over it and pretty much put his foot down on the whole idea for now at least. It was really cute to see, he just loves having her sleep with us. But nightime has always been they're time to cuddle and bond, she sleeps way better for him than she does for me since she stopped nursing at night.
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