I need some advise.
Background...My DS is now 8 months (he was 6-weeks early). My DH has a job in DC which starts June 2 and we are moving in early May. I am/was trying to write my thesis for an MS/PhD in Chemistry.
My DH is current working 2-jobs (postdoc and tutoring) so he is gone from 7am to 6am Mon, Thur and Fri and gone from 7am to 8pm on Tues and Wed. I am home with the baby after the first 3 things were fine.
Well in Dec, I wanted to take a leave of absence from graduate school but my adviser did not allow me to. Instead she suggested I write an MS instead. At first I was ok with the idea until she gave me only 1-semester (a whopping 4 months) to write a 5-6 chapter thesis 180+ pages and in addition revisions to a paper she already has, another paper and communication. My adviser has had my paper for 8-months now and still has not read it and tells me it is not in the queue (along with thesis outline)
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Anyhow, when I started to write my thesis, my son has had some problems that he hasn't had before. He wants to be held all the time and this includes nap time. He is cranky after his first nap and does not smile at his mommy. At least once a day, he has a crying breakdown (cries for 30 or more minutes) In the evening, he refuses to go to bed and cries like he is hurt. My DH and I have to either take a very long walk or car drive to get him to go to sleep. We have not had to this for a very long time.
My DH suggest I take a break from writing my thesis. So for the past 4-days I have not worked on it. My son is back to his happy self. No problems with excess crankiness or crying breakdowns. He plays in the evening and goes to bed with no fussiness. My DH says the home feels calmer and happier.
Is my stress affected my son? Any suggestions?
We can not afford a babysitter. My adviser is a 52 year old woman - never been married and no children. She gave up everything for the name of science so she will not understand nor would she give me an extension (if she did it would only be until mid-Aug).
My thought is to leave with an MA (which means I will not be able to get an MS) and take at least 6-months off. After 6-months, possibly try to write my PhD but there is a problem. I still have to complete 1-more chapter worth of data to make some sort of conclusion for my thesis.
: I will be in DC not AZ. I don't even know if I will ever be in the queue! Another words, I will give up 6 years of hard work for an MA. Any advise would be great?
Background...My DS is now 8 months (he was 6-weeks early). My DH has a job in DC which starts June 2 and we are moving in early May. I am/was trying to write my thesis for an MS/PhD in Chemistry.
My DH is current working 2-jobs (postdoc and tutoring) so he is gone from 7am to 6am Mon, Thur and Fri and gone from 7am to 8pm on Tues and Wed. I am home with the baby after the first 3 things were fine.
Well in Dec, I wanted to take a leave of absence from graduate school but my adviser did not allow me to. Instead she suggested I write an MS instead. At first I was ok with the idea until she gave me only 1-semester (a whopping 4 months) to write a 5-6 chapter thesis 180+ pages and in addition revisions to a paper she already has, another paper and communication. My adviser has had my paper for 8-months now and still has not read it and tells me it is not in the queue (along with thesis outline)
Anyhow, when I started to write my thesis, my son has had some problems that he hasn't had before. He wants to be held all the time and this includes nap time. He is cranky after his first nap and does not smile at his mommy. At least once a day, he has a crying breakdown (cries for 30 or more minutes) In the evening, he refuses to go to bed and cries like he is hurt. My DH and I have to either take a very long walk or car drive to get him to go to sleep. We have not had to this for a very long time.
My DH suggest I take a break from writing my thesis. So for the past 4-days I have not worked on it. My son is back to his happy self. No problems with excess crankiness or crying breakdowns. He plays in the evening and goes to bed with no fussiness. My DH says the home feels calmer and happier.
Is my stress affected my son? Any suggestions?
We can not afford a babysitter. My adviser is a 52 year old woman - never been married and no children. She gave up everything for the name of science so she will not understand nor would she give me an extension (if she did it would only be until mid-Aug).
My thought is to leave with an MA (which means I will not be able to get an MS) and take at least 6-months off. After 6-months, possibly try to write my PhD but there is a problem. I still have to complete 1-more chapter worth of data to make some sort of conclusion for my thesis.