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I'm sure this will come out sounding "flakey"...<br><br>
My ds is 4 1/2. He attends preschool. He was born a very high-needs preemie- grew to be a very high needs infant/toddler and now is a wonderfully bright active, if not OVER dramatic little boy.<br><br>
He has always gotten VERY frustrated w/ his natural limitations (ie- he would tantrum as young as 4 months old because he couldn't properly (to his liking) grab/pull something to him. because he couldn't walk... really!). yet, he's never wanted ANY assistance w/ anything. He will tantrum and push us away if we try to help him "learn" something. But, we keep at it. (ie- i ask him to sit w/ me and write letters... and he will NOT even try. he will doodle or draw... whatever. I don't get aggravated outwardly with him... I just do the writing and talking as if he was listening... ). So, he fights learning. He will not try. He does NOT want to be seen failing. Then, when he "gets it", he just does it and never looks back.<br><br>
Another example is that he hasn't wanted to do letters. He says the alphabet. Will NOT write them. ever. he brought home "homework" from preschool last night. The directions were that the parents could write the answers and he could color the page. Simple questions like "what's your favorite color" he colored in the area red. "what's your favorite food" I wrote in mac/cheese. "do you have a brother or a sister or neither" (he doesn't) and there was a line for his name. He grabbed the paper from me and circled that he had a brother and WROTE the word "DOG" next to it and says to me... "i have a brother, he's a dog, so I wrote DOG so my teacher knows that I do have a brother". And then he wrote his name, plain as day, right where he was suppose to. I don't think it's a huge big deal that a 4 year old can spell dog. BUT - it's a huge big deal to us because he has never just done that. He has NEVER practiced writing w/ us or at school. really!<br><br>
He just figures it all out on his own. in his head. then will just do it... like he knew it all along! He didn't say more than a word or two until he was two years old and then, one day, he just started talking in sentences. He refused to color or draw until just this year (he would get so angry that his pictures were not "right" or "good"and that his hand wasn't so steady... and he doesn't get it from us... we think it's fantastic when he does ANYTHING>>>)<br><br>
is this odd? do any of you have experiance w/ a child that behaves this way when it comes to learning things? Any suggestions on how to help him learn to "practice" things, as I'm sure, when he goes to kindergarten, that it will be expected of him to practice and not just "take it in"... kwim?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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soooooo glad to have signed up on this site... this is my 3rd unanswered post.<br><br>
so, no one else has a child that learns this way or knows one that does? My child is a freak. oh well.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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oh don't worry veg n mama... he's totally normal. so glad you're here!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 
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