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How does your dh/dp feel about breastfeeding beyond infancy?

  • Is and has always been completely supportive and happy!

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  • Was reluctant at first, but now completely supportive and happy!

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  • Pretty neutral, he doesn't think much of it.

    Votes: 36 20.6%
  • Not thrilled about it and wants me to stop soon.

    Votes: 13 7.4%
  • Completely disgusted and wanted me to stop a long time ago.

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So, I know many mothers here will say that their nursing relationship is between them and their dc. However, how does your dh/dp feel about your breastfeeding beyond infancy relationship?<br><br>
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I'm the "other." DH is okay with my goal of 2 years. When I told him that I want to do CLW and that DD could still be nursing at 4 or 5, he told me that was too old. So he's okay with it to a point. And actually, I plan to do a combination of CLW and PLW (gently help her drop to nursing morning and before bed and let her decide when to stop entirely). She's a very independent baby now, so I don't think she'll be nursing at 5 anyway. We still have another year to go to get up to 2, so you'll have to ask me again then.
 

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It really happened a day at a time... I think if I had asked DH when dd was born "how do you feel about me nursing her when she's 3?" he might have felt it "odd." However, when it's a day by day thing... it just sort of happened, and it was never an issue.<br><br>
We nursed until 3 and 2 months, when I decided *I* was done. DH wouldn't have minded if we kept going...<br><br>
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Totally supportive.
 

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1st DH- I wouldn't exactly call him supportive, because his lack of emotional support was a huge factor in our breakup. But he certainly had no problem with anything I did- homebirth, ebf, cosleep, eat natural foods, etc. Come to think of it, he's the kind of guy who goes along with everything, has few opinions of his own, and will eat practically anything you put in front of him.<br><br>
So I voted "supportive" because it's the closest answer- he never had a problem with anything I did and was happy that I was doing something for the girls.<br><br>
2nd DH was just an abusive, controlling UA violation who gave lip service to AP ideals but wanted to be in control of everything.
 

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He's pretty neutral about it, doesn't really say anything about it one way or the other. It's just a fact of parenthood, they'll wean when they are ready. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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DH is pro bfing. He thinks it is good to go beyond a year old. He thinks it gets a little weird going beyond 2.5-3 years, though. But I don't feel he would ever try to stop me from doing it if I still wanted to.<br><br>
BTW, DD could not bf, and dh was very supportive of me EPing 18 months for her, and was also upset when my milk dried up due to our current pregnancy.
 

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At first dh wasn't so sure about the atleast 2yrs old thing and the as long as she wanted(CLW) but now that she is a year old he said he can't see her NOT nursing LOL he said it is just how it is LOL my breasts to him are just milk jugs LMBO he says that all the time
 

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Absolutely, completely supportive. In fact, before we even got married and we'd talk about kids, HE was the one who talked about extended BF'ing.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It really happened a day at a time... I think if I had asked DH when dd was born "how do you feel about me nursing her when she's 3?" he might have felt it "odd." However, when it's a day by day thing... it just sort of happened, and it was never an issue.<br><br>
We nursed until 3 and 2 months, when I decided *I* was done. DH wouldn't have minded if we kept going...<br><br>
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Pretty much how it is here. I voted "reluctant at first, but now supportive" only because I think if I had told dh at first that I wanted to nurse until 3 years he would have thought "what???". He probably would have been supportive but maybe a little unsure. When I first started nursing I had no idea we would go so long so if you had asked me I would have been reluctant too. It just happened day by day and dh supported us the whole time. Now I'm nursing dd (who is going on 2) and dh has been supportive from the beginning.
 

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Very supportive...<br><br>
I'm currently on my second 5.5 year old nursling...been nursing over 11 years straight!<br><br>
Mary<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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My husband has very fond memories of extended breastfeeding so he is very supportive and encourages it. I really credit him for the great breastfeeding relationship I have now with our son. At about week or 6 of cracked, bleeding nipples, continued engorgment and crazy forceful letdown I remember an instance while sobbing in the middle of the night during a feeding (happened a lot in those first painful weeks) and saying I couldn't do it anymore. He rubbed my back and told me I am the strongest woman he has ever met and I would get through it. He said just think how happy you will be in 2 years because you persevered. 9 months later he is right so far!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat">
 

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He's a grownup. He knows what my breasts are for. And he's really, really happy that we can still break out the magic boob for the 3 year, 3 month old. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I voted other, because dp was totally supportive of the idea of bf'ing until 2yo or a little after. The only times he suggested weaning, was when he saw that *I* was getting frustrated with the constant nursing.<br>
Now that ds is almost 3, I think that dp is more along the lines of wanting me to wean, but he never says anything unless I'm feeling really frustrated with nursing.<br><br>
If I didn't get frustrated by ds's constant nursing (actually, I shouldn't say that. It's getting better), I think dp would be supportive of clw. I think it's fair to say that HIS issue with it is the tension involved when ds *needs* to nurse and I just really would rather pull my hair out one by one. lol.
 

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Mine's completely happy about it and always has been. Although he doesn't think she "needs" to breastfeed past 2, but we'll see what he says when we come to that point. I have a feeling, he'll agree that it's best to continue to nurse her until she's completely weaned <i>herself</i>.
 

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With DH it's a mixed bag. He was definitely supportive until Ford was born, probably because Alexander was nursing so little while I was pg, but he's kind of wary of it now and tries to discourage Alexander at times.
 

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Totally supportive. Afterall, his mom was a LLL leader and nursed his younger brother until he was 5! He was very opposed to formula feeding any of our children (breast is best!), but he could care less for how long. I didn't think twice about that until my neighbor said her husband thought bf was gross and disgusting <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> (and that was just about nursing an infant!)
 

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I think at the beginning neither one of us thought about going past a year. Actually, my goal was a year. As time went on, it seemed natural to go past a year, she wanted it, and I wasn't ready to let go either. I think for a while DH said "2 is OK, but not past that". Now he makes jokes about how I will probably end up tandem nursing and that she will wean on prom night.
 
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