[mom2littlebean]

Ok...This is a vent session for me.

I am six weeks with my 3rd and sick as a dog

...nausea like crazy! Just getting over the flu ,have a UTI and am of course exausted. I am feeling really vulnerable emotionally and really needing re-assurance from DH. I am not asking him to wipe my brow as I am wretching up every meal ...(would be nice though). He has just become really bitchy and annoyed by my illness and when I tell him that I am feeling vulnerable and need some re assurance I get lectured on how I am too needy

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I know that men don't get it because they don't get pregnant. But really... are anyone elses DH being like this?

gotta go craving burrito's and jalapeno peppers

Peace out Sistas

 

[erth mama]

I had a really hard time in the beginning of my pregnancy. My relationship was struggling, I was super sick and I felt really discouraged. Things really evened out though at the end of my first trimester, I see now that even though the pregnancy was planned, we both needed time to get adjusted. Him to being caring in a new way and me to getting used to the hormonal roller coaster ride. Best of luck and lots of hugs.
P.S. My favorite burritos in Squamish are at Pepe & ******'s ( I'm a burrito monster/connoisseur). With Love from the Sunshine Coast

 

[caligirl]

I guess since this is my second DD isn't "babying" me like last time.
Last time he cooked great meals for me every night and did just about whatever I needed.

This time he still helps out, but I find that he let's me do a lot of things I didn't do with preg #1. For example heavy lifting (while claening out the office to make the nursery and during the yard sale we just had) If I ask him to mop the floor or carry the laundry up he says "yes", but eventually leaves it there for me to do anyway even though my back has been killing me.

My morning sickness wasn't that bad but one time he went to work and I just could not function and when I called him to come home he did without hesitation, so I know if it was seriouse he would pitch in.

But yes, I do get the over all feeling that tis time it's not such a big deal to him, wich kind of sucks since we have a 2 year old and I could use more help, but he is more involved with DD, taking her places and such, so that's good I guess..........

 

[mom2littlebean]

Thanks for the replies. I am thankfull that he takes care of things around the house and is a good caring father to my daughters. He gives me lots of time to nap and stuff.

Guess I was just feeling unappreciated....he probably was too.

Anyways thanks for your comments. Good to know I am not alone.

BTW...Erth Mama ,Pepe's and ******'s is my friends Restauraunt and yes very good. We also like to get burrito's from Taco Del Mar down by the IGA. Good prices and not bad food. You should try it next time you are in town.

Blessings to all,
Steph

 

[MrsMoe]

Your man is being a jerk. Too needy?

My husband is WONDERFUL in every way. Not trying to rub it in or brag, but this is my second marriage, and there is no comparision of the two men.

I am a firm believer in treating others with respect, and even more so if you are in a committed relationship. If people cannot respect or support me, I would rather be on my own. The fact that I am with a person who treats me like I am actually a "part of him" is very rewarding.

 

[~Megan~]

He is good but I have to let him know what I need. He doesn't anticipate very well.

He is very supportive of my daily naps even though they are often 2 hours long! And helps whenever I ask for things like dishes and laundry.
I do notice that if I do house cleaning when he is home in the evening he often notices and helps me instead of just vegging. So that's nice that I get the help I want and then during the day I can rest and focus on dd.

 

[BensMom]

My husband was not a fan of the first trimester. :LOL When I was sick and tired and nauseous, he would just sorta stand there and ask "how long is this going to last?" I think he was worried that I felt so bad, but it sure didnt come off that way! He also got irritated when I was falling asleep by 9pm because we barely had any time together ater DS was in bed.

Now that I am feeling better, he seems to be doing much better as well. But still gets that really worried look when my hip starts acting up. So I don't think he is a jerk, he just feels like there isnt anything he can do to "help" me with my various pregnancy aches and pains. (Oy, we will need to work on that for labor.)

But overall, he does a lot around the house, helps me carry laundry baskets, continues to clean the catboxes (I haven't really done that job in 5 years now!) and does his fair share of the cooking, childcare, shopping, etc. That's how he supports me. He's not a massage my feet/bring me tea/light some candles kinda guy.

 

[henhao]

My guy makes me dinner, massages my feet if I watch a movie (a trade-off), and even handles and forgives me for my occasional nervous homorone-induced breakdown insanity. He also supports me by supporting my choice to hypnobirth. He cleans the cat boxes and takes the laundry from the basment to the 2nd floor if I leave it at the bottom of the stairs as a reminder.

Drawbacks? Sure I have some. He would never practice hypnobirthing if I didn't mention it and even schedule times for us to do it. He might never read a birthing book if I didn't keep asking him to do so.

Last night, I gave HIM a footrub and brought him some of his fave food from the grocery. Any time I feel good, I try and do something nice for him because there are plenty of times I don't feel so hot and really need his help.

--hh

 

[Czen:)]

my DH is great but he does need to be told "exactly" what I need or is needed for the house/kids. In fact, I actually wrote out a list of what he needed to agree to before I even got pregnant again. He really wanted this last baby and I was ready to be done. He agreed to everything (even though he needed some reminders to complete the tasks along the way!).

By the way, Squamish is my DH's dream place to live. He's a climber side tracked by soon to be 4 kids. We honeymooned climbing and hicking there! Never had the burritos. Must try them next time we visit. May have to wait till the little ones all fit in harnesses though!