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DD loves our cat. She loves all animals, I think. Anyhow, she lets the cat lick her face - her mouth, her eye-lids. It kinda freaks me out (esp. the connection with schizophrenia) and I wish she wouldn't do that, but DP doesn't feel it's a problem.<br><br>
Also, DD's arms get scratched up from time to time from playing with the cat. Sometimes these welt up and have been leaving thin, shiny scars. Should I be treating these with something post-scratch to clean them up? DP claims to have had cat-scratch-fever once. Is this a real possibility?<br><br>
I didn't grow up with/around cats, so my apologies if these seem like strange questions.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">DD loves our cat. She loves all animals, I think. Anyhow, she lets the cat lick her face - her mouth, her eye-lids. It kinda freaks me out (esp. the connection with schizophrenia) and I wish she wouldn't do that, but DP doesn't feel it's a problem.<br><br>
Also, DD's arms get scratched up from time to time from playing with the cat. Sometimes these welt up and have been leaving thin, shiny scars. Should I be treating these with something post-scratch to clean them up? DP claims to have had cat-scratch-fever once. Is this a real possibility?<br><br>
I didn't grow up with/around cats, so my apologies if these seem like strange questions.</div>
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You lost me at schizophrenia. I have no idea what ties there are between the kid that loves their pet and a brain disease. I let my childhood cat suck my earlobes and I'm just fine. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Cat scratch fever is really pretty rare and can be treated easily with antibiotics. I'd just clean the scratches like any other scratch...soap and water. The scars can be minimized with some vit. E rubbed on them once the scab falls off.<br><br>
No worries about DD and the cat. The cat is being normal and so is DD.
 

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my friend's dd loves cats. she had a cat that was very attached to her. she commented to her dd once about how much Oscar loved her and her dd said "well mom i lick her like his mom did" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
her dd is a fine well adjusted healthy 12 year old. i wouldn't worry too much. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I forgot to mention, DD also *licks the cat*! Not habitually or anything, but I guess it's her way of trying to express herself on the cat's terms. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: I've asked her if it bothers her to get that fur in her mouth and she says, "What fur?" She's going to end up with a giant hairball.<br><br>
The schizophrenia <a href="http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2006/01/060125082853.htm" target="_blank">link</a> has something to do with a toxoplasmosis in their feces. If you had a cat as a child you are somehow at 53% greater risk for developing schizophrenia. I guess the jury's still out on it, but still....<br><br>
I have a hard time stomaching my daughter getting a full facial scrub, lips and all, from the cat. Are you both saying you'd be okay with this?
 

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I'd be okay with it. When I was four, we brought home the cat that was my best friend until he died when I was 9. Apparently, I turned out okay.
 

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You know, if you're not OK with it then I would try to change her behavior.<br><br>
I don't know how your cat plays, but it bothers me that your DD is getting scratched up. I have never had to deal with my kiddos getting scratched here (I have three kiddos 5 and under).<br><br>
If she's getting scratched it seems to me that she may be "playing" in a way with the cats that evoke a sense of fear/wanting to escape. Is she hugging them, picking them up, squeezing them? All of those things done to a cat by a small child can make a cat uneasy and make them prone to extend their claws (which generally stay retracted so you can't get scratched). In reality a young child shouldn't really be able to be scratched as they should have limited supervised access to a cat.<br><br>
We're generally immune to our own household germs as we're continuously exposed to the same ones over and over again. So, in a way I'm not so worried about the licking. I'm more concerned about the cat and it's ability to scratch/hurt the child. That honestly should not be happening.<br><br>
I handle my cats all the time (including showing one of them recently, and them getting weekly baths for conditioning), and maybe I've been inadvertently scratched 4 or 5 times in the last several years. I did have one infected scratch, but the irony was, it wasn't from my cat <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:. It was from someone else's cat who jumped on my legs...didn't aim very well and landed on the edge AND extended their claws and slid off my leg OUCH. Yeah, their owner's didn't cut their nails frequently enough either--I might not have been scratched like that if they weren't sharp! I washed it well, used hydrogen peroxide. Within a couple of days it was bright red, hot and painful. I happened to have a pediatrician's visit (and was wearing shorts) she noticed during my DD's well check, noted that it was infected. I told her I had begun treating it topically with antibiotics several times a day...she said that may work, but if it got redder to go in and get a systemic antibiotic. I did NOT want to do that, I must have applied the antibiotic ointment more like 4-5 times a day and it finally did heal up. Looked awful for several months, but now a couple of years later I can't even see it.<br><br>
(too much morning coffee and I am a fast typist, dangerous combination I know...sorry about the novel LOL).<br><br>
So, I'd work on this two fold. Supervise her interactions with the cats. Teach her what is/is not acceptable in touching them. Trim kitty's nails regularly (I do once a week here) and have a nice scratching post to use in the house to wear them down so they aren't as sharp. Cat's generally keep their claws retracted, so as long as you do these things there shouldn't be any *inadvertent* scratching.<br><br>
As for kitty love, I admit I kiss my cats and snuggle with them. They will occasionally lick my hand/or my head (that's just one of them who likes to groom me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. But I wouldn't feel secure with a young child doing that. Kids move sort of clumsily, and are less predictable than adults behavior wise. I wouldn't want to risk the cats getting spooked, scratching them or worse!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'd be okay with it. When I was four, we brought home the cat that was my best friend until he died when I was 9. Apparently, I turned out okay.</div>
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You're not OK with her DD getting scratched...right? I'm assuming that you're talking about the licking. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">my friend's dd loves cats. she had a cat that was very attached to her. she commented to her dd once about how much Oscar loved her and her dd said "well mom i lick her like his mom did" :</div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I forgot to mention, DD also *licks the cat*! Not habitually or anything, but I guess it's her way of trying to express herself on the cat's terms. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: I've asked her if it bothers her to get that fur in her mouth and she says, "What fur?" She's going to end up with a giant hairball.<br><br>
The schizophrenia <a href="http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2006/01/060125082853.htm" target="_blank">link</a> has something to do with a toxoplasmosis in their feces. If you had a cat as a child you are somehow at 53% greater risk for developing schizophrenia. I guess the jury's still out on it, but still....<br><br>
I have a hard time stomaching my daughter getting a full facial scrub, lips and all, from the cat. Are you both saying you'd be okay with this?</div>
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Not only would I be okay with it, I might just have to take shameless pictures as it's occuring becaise it is so silly.<br><br><br>
Be thankful you don't have a lactating dog she wants to nurse on. I knew a neighbor that nursed his dog as a kid.. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Our cat licks both DH and myself. Our faces, hands, eyelids, heck, he licked my lips once when I wasn't paying attention <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> So far we are both okay.<br><br>
I play with my cats but never get scratched, that is because if they do get their claws involved I immediatly stop playing with them. So they know now that if they get too rough, I wont play anymore. It was something they had to learn.<br><br>
My DH says that when we have a human child, Cornflake will groom it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I also ate dog food as a child <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> My Mom would watch me give a bite to the dog, and a bite for me. I think I turned out okay, but that might be debatable <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I don't see the problem. Your dd sounds like me. I had no less than 4 cats growing up (and 4 now). I was the crazy cat kid and now the Crazy Cat Lady. I urge my cats to lick me. I find it sweet and I think it's great. I have one cat that will only lick my lips, so I tuck them in and let her lick around my mouth b/c I don't want her slobbers in my mouth. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I get cat scratches all the time. Always have. I play with my cats. I get scratches from having them chase strings and miss, etc. No big deal. Just wash the cut. But I've always been a tomboy, so scars are so common on me, I don't usually notice.<br><br>
Cats were pretty much my only family & friends growing up, and I've always felt like I am part of their group more than with people. So maybe I have a different perspective than most people? Either way, I think this is normal.<br><br>
I have also licked my cats. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: Not a great idea. Your mouth gets covered in hair. But I have caught myself licking their noses if they were dry. Dh caught me once and I had never even thought about it before or noticed that I do it. I usually lick my finger and wet their nose. They don't seem to care. I don't do this now that I realized it, though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
Jaime, I also ate pet food. I think I have an oral fixation...but I've eaten cat food, dog food, horse treats...I haven't died yet! It's not good eats, though. :puke
 

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Wow. I've missed a few posts here. Ever notice how sometimes subscribed threads fall through the cracks? MDC's own Twilight Zone for threads...<br><br>
Anyhow.<br><br>
DD is 4.5 and doesn't seek out the scratches, for sure. If she notices the cat feeling fiesty she's pretty quick to get a cat toy to get the cat's attention onto something else. She's gentle with the cat - I'm not worried about that. She's only getting scratched when the cat suddenly decides she's not happy anymore - kwim? Usually it's about the cat presenting its belly and DD rubbing it and hanging out just a moment too long. One time the cat was in DD's lap curled up and went to sleep and got turned around - ending up on her back with DD's arm along her belly - dangerous spot! When cat woke - well. It doesn't happen often and DD's okay with it. Like I said I'm just worried about infections. We don't play rough with the cat. We know that's not cool. She's a very loving and sweet cat and we don't want to encourage rough play. She does love being scooted along the floor in the laundry basket, though. She hops in and DD gives her rides. Something about the floor passing under the basket I think. She'd do it all day.<br><br>
We trim her claws about once a week. And we do have posts up.<br><br>
The licking thing just skeeves me out, though. I mean, on the mouth?! The other day cat was cleaning herself and I pointed out to DD exactly what she was cleaning but it didn't seem to bother her. In fact DD went up and demonstrated how okay she was with it by getting a lick herself. Shudder. I think the whole idea of sanitation is kind of hard for her to groc. I think the poop=dirty equation is there. But the poop=dirty, things that touch poop=dirty things part is still kind of weak.
 

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I saw a Discovery Channel special about people who were rescuing big cats, and they taught their animals to automatically retract their claws at the sound of the word "no!"<br><br>
They would press on the animals paw so the claws would be out, then let go while saying "no!" so the claws would automatically retract. The retraction is paired with a treat. After so many trials, the cats automatically retract their claws at the sound of the word "no"<br><br>
I'm going to try this with our new kitten who is very scratchy. My kids & I aren't rough with him, but he has long claws that like to grab onto whatever happens to be nearby.<br><br>
The protiens on the cat's claws cause the raised, itchy scratches. Washing with soap & water helps. This time of year I would also recommend using a lot of lotion and/or ointment to keep scratches moist because the dry weather contributes to scarring.
 

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I have 2 cats, and a 11-mo DS who loves them. They are (thankfully) tolerant. But DS just wants to bury his face in their fur all the time. He scoots over to them on the bed, opens his mouth and buries his face in their side. Thanks to his drool, he sits up with cat hair stuck all to his face. Ugh. It's gross. I try to stop it, but he (and the cats) have their thing. He loves it, and it doesn't seem to cause him any problem.<br><br>
Cat scratches aren't too bad--just get some Neosporin so they don't get infected.<br><br>
However, cat bites can be VERY nasty--so watch out that that never happens.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">You're not OK with her DD getting scratched...right? I'm assuming that you're talking about the licking. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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Oh, right. I was talking about the licking. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
That said, I don't think cat scratches are a huge deal if they're cleaned well. I was the kid who was always fishing the feral kittens out from the woodpiles and I've had my share of them.<br><br>
If they bother your kid though, you need to teach her how to interact with cats so they don't feel like they need to defend themselves, and probably to steer clear of kittens altogether.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh, right. I was talking about the licking. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br></div>
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See, we agree...I'm all about the lovin. I kiss the cats all the time...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">.<br><br>
Chance in particular, he's my little snuggler and love muffin. He must be my karmic payback (in a GOOD way of course) for all the bad stuff I've dealt with in the last 7 years or so.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> I don't know if it is possible for me to love a cat more...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">The schizophrenia <a href="http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2006/01/060125082853.htm" target="_blank">link</a> has something to do with a toxoplasmosis in their feces. If you had a cat as a child you are somehow at 53% greater risk for developing schizophrenia. I guess the jury's still out on it, but still....</div>
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Interesting....I've always thought schizophrenic people smelled slightly of cat pee when they sweat <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:
 

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Sometimes you just get scratches from the cat climbing on you, and sliding around, nothing that the cat does on purpose. My kitty Socks looooves to lay on my lap at the computer, aparently I'm her warm, cuddly bed. Anyway, she'll put her paws on my chest and nuzzle my face, etc. but if I move wrong she starts to slide and the claws automatically start to catch her - not that she's doing anything wrong, but I occasionally get light scratches on the arms/legs. I think some scratches are part of life with cats.
 
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