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seriously. how did you do it??<br><br>
DD is 1 year old and we've been cosleeping since day 1. cosleeping's been a journey for us, but we're at a point now where i can lay her down for a nap, but i have to lay next to her for at least a little bit, otherwise she wakes up and cries. we've tried to get her to sleep in her own crib but had no success yet. i've tried rocking her to sleep, then slowly walking to her crib, then hold her over the crib, then remove my arms. once i get my arms free is when she wakes up, realizes where she is and stands right up. i've tried putting the mattress on the floor, laying with her and then leaving. that worked once until i stood up and she woke right up. sometimes she wakes up screaming, sometimes she just wakes up.<br><br>
i know she just has to learn to sleep somewhere new. at daycare she sleeps JUST FINE and has NO problem when them placing her in a crib. after a week of next to no naps she learned how to do it. it's just difficult to have her cry and wake up and for me to start the whole process over again.<br><br>
so, again, HOW in the WORLD did you get your cosleeper to sleep in their own bed? i SO want her to sleep in her own crib!!!!
 

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We could never use our crib with DS for exactly the reasons you described. We would put him down, he'd wake right up and cry. We did have some success putting him down if I layed him on his tummy and them patted his back if he woke up. But that only lasted about a month from 4-5 months or so.<br><br>
We've had great success with laying on the bed, nursing and then rolling away slooowly and carefully once he is asleep. Using blackout curtains and white noise really help. I also place a pillow where I was so that he still feels snuggled. DH puts DS to bed now, he just sits on the bed and holds him until he is asleep and then he slowly lays him down and rolls away. We recently moved him to his own bed (and nightweaned before the transition), and he is sleeping SO much better. He is a bit older than your DD though, at 12 months this would not have been easy for us. You could try putting the crib mattress on the floor and laying with her until she is asleep and then rolling away.
 

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You may have tried this already but it is what worked for us...<br><br>
First, we put the crib sidecar to our bed and kept it that way for about 2 months until DD was sleeping in the crib consistently and without any protest.<br><br>
Second, we moved the crib perpendicular to the head of our bed for about a month.<br><br>
Third, moved the crib to the wall across from our bed (about 5 feet)...you can see where I am going with this.<br><br>
The final step was to move DD to her own room. We made a big deal about her big girl room and made it fun for her. I had a futon set up in there just in case I needed it but I never did. She took right to it.<br><br>
HTH!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">seriously. how did you do it??<br><br>
DD is 1 year old and we've been cosleeping since day 1. cosleeping's been a journey for us, but we're at a point now where i can lay her down for a nap, but i have to lay next to her for at least a little bit, otherwise she wakes up and cries. we've tried to get her to sleep in her own crib but had no success yet. i've tried rocking her to sleep, then slowly walking to her crib, then hold her over the crib, then remove my arms. once i get my arms free is when she wakes up, realizes where she is and stands right up. i've tried putting the mattress on the floor, laying with her and then leaving. that worked once until i stood up and she woke right up. sometimes she wakes up screaming, sometimes she just wakes up.<br><br>
i know she just has to learn to sleep somewhere new. at daycare she sleeps JUST FINE and has NO problem when them placing her in a crib. after a week of next to no naps she learned how to do it. it's just difficult to have her cry and wake up and for me to start the whole process over again.<br><br>
so, again, HOW in the WORLD did you get your cosleeper to sleep in their own bed? i SO want her to sleep in her own crib!!!!</div>
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First we got DD a bed she really liked. My MIL got her a couple of cool pillows including one that's a blue horse. Then we got her a couple of night lites including a princess with wings (angel or fairy, not sure) that changes colors. She played in the bed and her room for abit over a year and then decided she didn't want to sleep anywhere else. It happened right after she turned 4. She had already been sleeping without any nightwaking for awhile and had weaned herself a couple of months before.
 

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I was excited about what you said until I read this! Yikes! I gotta wait 3 more years? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I think you just have to be extra consistent. I'm still nursing DD to sleep for both naps and bed, and don't mind it. I would LOVE to have her sleep in her own bed for at least 1/2 the night, but every time I get motivated and start doing it, all of our sleep suffers and I slowly give up. It's so much easier and we all STTN when DD is in our bed. Well, mostly. More than not.<br><br>
OP - I've NEVER been able to just put my DD down awake. Never. and believe me I tried. I couldn't even put her down asleep b/c she'd wake up.<br><br>
Now, at 1.5 yo, I still nurse her down, and then lay down w/her and scootch away. She'll take a good 2 hr nap this way. I'm waiting for the day that I can just lay down w/her and she'll drop off. I hope it's before she's 4! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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my ds doesnt sleep in his own bed yet (we side car) but something we did that might help you is before nap time even begins, i get my heavy robe ready where i usually lay down, and so after i pat him and he goes to sleep, i sloooooowly roll over, and reposition the robe and the robe arms exactly how i was. then i hang out for a few min to make sure he wont wake up. i found this worked wonders! we did that for maybe a week, and only here and there when he is sick. i guess its my scent and the weight of the robe that tricks him into thinking im there
 

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We transitioned DS1 to his own double bed at age 2 and I slept in it with him for about 6 months (till I was too pregnant to want to anymore) and then one night I decided that I was done going back into his room when he called out to us, and after a few nights he was fine with it, and STTN (heavenly!) His room is directly off of ours and when he woke we would just talk to him and explain things. It was amazing that it worked because till then he was a horrible sleeper, very demanding of us.<br><br>
Now I have another year before I can blissfully sleep on my own again!! I think DS2 will be a lot easier transition. Different personality!
 

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I waited until she was 3-4 and could be reasoned with.<br><br>
Actually, that's not quite true, we moved her to her own crib when she was about 18 months. We got her there by staying with her and rubbing her back/singing her to sleep. Then she'd wake up and we'd bring her into our bed in the middle of the night. At 2, she moved to a toddler bed and in with her brother, and we'd stay in the room with them until they fell asleep. When she woke in the night, she'd get up and come in and crawl over me into the bed and nurse back to sleep.<br><br>
At 3, I night weaned her, and she could come in to nurse when it was light. At that time, dh would take her back to bed and help her fall asleep if she woke up in the middle of the night. At 4, I weaned her completely and she stopped coming in.<br><br>
At 5, nearly 6, she comes into our room (but not our bed) about once a week when she has nightmares. She sleeps right next to our bed. Our ds (9) does the same thing, just a little less frequently (though he was in our room nightly for about 6 months when he was 7).<br><br>
And any time dh is out of town (about 2x a year) both kids are back cosleeping! I have to say, co-sleeping with a lanky 9 year old and a sturdy 6 year old isn't all that restful.
 

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About 11 months I gave up on the crib altogether. It was just so stressful trying to get him down without waking him multiple times a night. We decided at that point to resign ourselves to having him in our bed until he slept through the night. We switched him to his own bed/room a month ago when he started sleeping pretty much through the night. Now I can nurse him down on his bed & sneak out when he's asleep - without having to move him it's so much easier than doing the whole crib thing.
 

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I made the transition really, really slowly from 11-13 months. so that's 8 weeks and each week I'd make one more step.<br><br>
1- Start: Sidecar crib<br>
2- I started by putting up the 4th side of the crib and putting him in there asleep,<br>
3- then awake but almost asleep and rubbing his back,<br>
4- then more awake and rubbing, (during this time I'd bring him into bed after the midnight wakeup though),<br>
5- then I started putting him in the crib but not rubbing him but sitting right there with my head leaned over and laying him back down with a kiss every time he got up,<br>
6- then putting him in the crib and going to the other side of the bed and reading still laying him back down every time he got up,<br>
7- then now I finally transitioned into leaving the room after laying him down and coming back immediately for any cries.<br><br>
Each of these stages was done for a week or so. Bed time is SO easy now and when combined with gradual nightweaning (Dr Jay Gordon method) at 12 months, he now sleeps 14 hours straight (7PM to 9AM) with no help on my part, except for a 5-6AM nursing and co-sleeping with daddy after I leave for work after that. Score!<br><br>
There wasn't any real crying in any of this. It's just so easy now it feels criminal. We go into nurse on my bed, then he eventually finishes that and asks for the pacifier, then we cuddle and I sing him "stay awake" from Mary Poppins, then he lunges for the crib and I kiss him and leave him and I leave the room and 9 times out of 10 that's it! If he cries at all I go right back in and kiss him and lay him back down and that's it.<br><br>
This is coming from a boy who previously nursed HOURLY the entire first year of his life. The keys for us were involving Daddy a lot at night (esp when nightweaning, I slept on the couch if he wouldn't settle for me), and making sure that ALL of this felt non-threatening and stress-less to my baby or else I'd pull back and go back to more intensive supports that night (which I think helped him trust the whole process). He had SUCH INTENSE NEEDS at night that have now transferred into just being easily able to wake up and fall back asleep on his own that I think a part of it was that I was enabling a lot more support at night than he needed. However, I don't regret co-sleeping and night nursing completely the first year. All that sleep deprivation was a gift to him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 
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