[honey-lilac]

I am now going on would-be 13 weeks. Apparently I have a blighted ovum. I found out by U/S on Sunday. I took some labor starter herbs and I had light spotting on Tuesday night and Weds morning - then nothing. No cramps, no bleeding, nothing out of the ordinary. I def. don't feel pregnant anymore - symptoms have been decreasing these last two weeks and I felt 100% myself yesterday and today.<br><br>
The mw is pressuring me to consider a D&C if things haven't started moving by sometime next week. I guess I am pretty far along but I really don't want a D&C. I've been thinking positive and trying to do all kinds of things to get "labor" going. It's not working.<br><br>
The pressure is also on because H and I have a pseudo-honeymoon planned and booked and reserved for next month, around the 14th we're supposed to leave. We never had a honeymoon and this was supposed to be a babymoon and honeymoon in one. But, I don't want to cancel. I want to have this miscarriage over with in time to enjoy the trip. (Sorry if that sounds insensitive; I definitely cried my eyes out when I found out there was no baby.) So realistically, should I get my mind on track for a D&C? Next week I'll be going on 14 weeks. Apparently this has been happening for a looong time because there's no baby at all to be seen, just a gestational sack. That's all that has to come out. (Or is it *possible* that it can just be reabsorbed??)<br><br>
Any thoughts?

 

[~adorkable~]

DDCC to give hugs <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s<br><br>
and to ponder with you, if it is just a sack it seems like things can be aloud to happen on their own, have you had your hcg tested? is that dropping or do you know with a b.o. will it naturally? it seems to me, and i have no medical info here, just common sense that if it is dropping naturally once it got down pretty low you would stop producing the progesterone that is holding on to this lining and sac, in that case you could just let it happen and it would seem to be ok. if the HCG is not dropping or is still very very high or if they dont expect it to drop naturally, then i think i D&C might be your best bet, since it seems like it would not come on itself without a lot of intervention from you.<br><br>
the question about he HCG and progesterone levels might give you a lot of info<br><br><br>
in the end, remember that folks here are thinking about you and that is it perfectly ok for you to want to clear out your body in whatever way is best for you

 

[Megan73]

I totally get why you'd want to get it over with and enjoy some special time away with your DH <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> You deserve it!<br>
If you want to avoid a D&C - I did, too - have you considered trying misoprostol? You could ask her about that, along with the bloodwork Adorkable suggested.<br>
Hang in there, mama. I hope it's over soon.

 

[born2birth]

Sorry to hear this sweetie. I would personally let it happen on it's own ~ I had a D&C with my first loss & ..... well I just couldn't do it again.

 

[savithny]

First of all, I'm very sorry for your loss. And I'm sorry that you're now stuck in limbo and waiting, which makes things even harder. (hugs)<br><br>
While there's nothing wrong with waiting if that is what you feel is best for you, there is also no larger danger with D&C if that is what you feel is best for you.<br><br>
A few years ago when a friend learned she'd had a missed miscarriage, I did some research. The best summary on the results is this, which was the conclusion of a Cochrane report (summary of research and reccomendations for best practices): Waiting for natural m/c has risks. D&C has risks. The risks are not the same in terms of type, but they *are* the same in terms of personal risk to you or future fertility. It should be left to the mother to decide what the best course of action is for her and her life.<br><br>
I've miscarried both ways - D&C at 12.5 weeks after a 9.5 week fetal demise, and a home miscarriage at 6 weeks. I don't regret either. The D&C was, in the time and place I was at, a big relief and not a horrifying experience. For my mental health, it was best not to wait any longer.<br><br>
(I have read that a planned D&C under controlled conditions tends to be easier and less traumatic than going in to the ER with a miscarriage in progress and winding up with a D&C, so when you read D&C stories and opinions, that's something to keep in mind as well).

 

[WaturMama]

In 2007 I had a pg that stopped at 8.5 weeks, discovered at 11.5 weeks. To make a long story shortish, I tried for a natural m/c another 4 weeks, via acupuncture, homeopath, and waiting/visualizing. I did not take the misoprostol because I was nursing, otherwise I would have. Eventually I chose to do the d&c, but I would not go back and have done it earlier had I known that I'd have to do it in the end. Somehow I think that 4 weeks and doing it when *I* chose it was an important part of my grieving and healing process.<br><br>
So all that is to say, I really support you listen to your intuition as it sounds like you are doing.<br><br>
While I was waiting my midwife told me to watch for signs of infection--tender abdomen, fever, foul smelling discharge. Unless I saw those there was no rush to do a d&c.<br><br>
Also, since your pg symptoms are dropping, maybe it will come soon. I don't think mine went until after the procedure. Maybe that's something to check in with your doctor about or in another post.