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Originally Posted by nataliachick7 
i cant even imagine where i would meet men let alone men that would want to date a mom with a child
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Me too. Right now, I'd have to meet a guy at the grocery store or the park (and I think I'd be a little freaked out by a guy I don't know being all chatty with me in those places) or have him somehow fall through the ceiling of my house. I go to work, I come home, I make supper, I go to sleep, and then get up the next day and do it all over again. I don't have time, energy, resources, or childcare to do much more than that. No classes or groups or other socialization here. To be honest though, even though I very much miss having someone around and miss the whole snuggle-on-the-couch thing, I think I'm still nursing some burn wounds and I do know that my trust in general is pretty non-existent. Not just that I don't trust this guy or that one but that I really don't trust ANYONE not to cause hurt. And I know hurt is a part of life and it's going to happen but I'm not yet at a place where I'm willing to be intentionally vulnerable to it. But then again, I'm probably hurting myself by being closed off, right?
Sorry if that was a hijack. It wasn't meant to be.
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I personally feel that it is NOT best to jump into a new relationship right away. You're (general "you") hurting too much and have too many things to figure out initially and I feel that you need that time to yourself, no matter how hard it is. Also, you may be looking for something other than what you should be. ie: he fills an immediate need (companionship and comfort) but once you start to get stable again in yourself, those may be the ONLY things you have going for the two of you and you find yourself in another broken relationship. Not saying that is the way it WILL go but just that I'd be too cautious to jump right in.
