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I am just curious about this.<br><br>
This is my ex's 2nd marriage. However, he already has a replacement wife lined up and he wants to get an emergency divorce so that he can marry her, since she's going through a custody battle.<br><br>
Also, when we're divorced, he wants me to sign something so that he doesn't have to wait the obligatory 60 days to remarry, he can do it right away.<br><br>
We've been separated for 7 months, so I think he's known he wife-to-be around 4 or 5 months.<br><br>
It totally boggles my mind how stupid he can be. This will be his third marriage in less than 10 years! He's just totally rushing headlong into this situation with a woman who declared bankruptcy 1 year ago and has two kids and makes very little income.<br><br>
I wouldn't go so far as to say that I'm worried about him... but I am definitely astounded by what appears to be rampant stupidity.<br><br>
Anyone else's ex rushing into another marriage? Any advice on whether I should let him forego the waiting period? I'm not sure if it would be any disadvantage to me in any way .
 

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Wow! Just wow!<br><br>
I don't know if it can come back and effect you in any way, maybe someone else knows...or if not, a call to a lawyer would be in order.<br><br>
If you feel comfortable doing it (for yourself) then I'd say go for it, but if you aren't, be honest about that too.
 

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I don't know, financially, if she bankrupts him he won't be able to pay his child support. I think I wouln't be an enabler, but maybe I'm just a meanie<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I'm not asking for child support. But I do fear maybe he could sue me for custody, arguing that since he works out of the house and is married and all that, that he can offer DS a better environment. Which is laughable, but it could happen.<br><br>
My lawyer didn't say that much about it yet, but we had a lot of other things to talk about when we met.
 

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how many children does she already have? I'm just curious, what a mess. Why rush into another marriage so soon she's sounds like she is still married herself.
 

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I think about a year after our breakup (give or take a couple months). Just a couple months after Alivia was born.<br><br><br>
ETA: He's never had any contact with her, and the only reason I knew they got married is because they were working at the same place as me (I didn't know her, and never had any contact with him because he worked in a different department). And they invited just about EVERYONE in the company (minus me of course <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">), even though they weren't well known.<br><br>
Oh, and their invitations? POSTCARDS! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My ex had to wait 6 months, and no way in he!! would I have waived it. He wanted out, and had to live with the consequences of marriage number 1 getting in the way of marriage number 2 (or in your case, #2 and #3). I don't know exactly when he got married, but probably right after the waiting period. My girls were really sad that they weren't invited/involved, dd1 kept asking me who the flower girl had been <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Now, though, as time has passed, it doesn't bother me, and I'm happy we've both moved on. For the most part, his wife seems to really enjoy the girls, is polite to me, etc. Course, I still wonder if she was doing it all for the citizenship <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief">: guess only time will tell on that one. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh, and their invitations? POSTCARDS! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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hehe, DH and I used postcards for our wedding in March. Cheap, easy, we got them printed with a picture of us all on it...only problem is a bunch of them never made it or took weeks to get to the guests! Oh well. But anyways, I digress...
 

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I think about 5 mos, but we weren't married, just engaged, so there was no waiting period. He had known her for 4 mos and she was 4 mos pregnant. Dd's half brother is 4 mos younger than she is. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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My former spouse moved into his new wife's house. He let our home go into forclosure, and left our dog inside our home, with an open bag of dogfood and the lid to the toilet open.<br><br>
It actually took him 16 months to marry her, as they both had a divorce to finalize. (I dragged my feet a little) She is on marriage number three, and he is on marriage number four.
 

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Honestly, i think you can spin custody/CS and whatever to your advantage if he's so gung ho on getting married again. Whats up with the new g/f wanting to rush into marriage b/c of a custody thing? Wouldn't that make it look worse? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: Heck, i don't know. Me and my ex have never been married to each other or anyone else so i just don't know. It just seems awful unhealthy to rush into marriage b/c the new g/f is going through a custody situation.
 

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Wow, that is crazy! I wouldn't waive the waiting period for him <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief">: My ex was ready to remarry a few weeks after he met his new GF. They had a quickie relationship, they met, he moved her across country to live with him, and she got preg quick. Our divorce took forever, but they married less than 2 weeks after it became final. Ex and I were seperated for about 18 mos when they met.<br><br>
I've always heard that men are quick to remarry again (or jump into quick relationships) without thinking things through. From what I've heard on this forum that is true.
 

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My ex is getting married to his GF this July. They met (and we broke up) in January of '06. Our divorce was final in September. Their baby was born this past December.
 

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Bah, it's guys like those who make my stbx look good to others. Not that he hasn't been trying for six months. It's just that the gals on match don't seem to go for a crazy-looking guy who starts off his ad with a list of psych conditions you shouldn't have if you want to date him, then talks about how smart and modest he is. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I think he's written the anti-ad.
 

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<i>"... a crazy-looking guy who starts off his ad with a list of psych conditions..."</i><br><br>
Wow, what a turn-on! The ladies must be flocking to him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Anyway, to the OP...I may waive the marriage permission thing, but ONLY IF he signs something for YOU, regarding custody/visitation, that gives you peace of mind. This may be a good opportunity for you!
 

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My ex found a replacement for me about a week after we split. We were domestic partners for a few years and he couldn't stand living alone with his mistakes, so he found someone else. Nice. Really classy.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My former spouse moved into his new wife's house. He let our home go into forclosure, and left our dog inside our home, with an open bag of dogfood and the lid to the toilet open.</div>
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Wow.. just <i>wow</i>. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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okay is this too common?<br>
my stbxh always said after being tortured by me he'd never date again..<br>
but he's young (33) thin, handsome..... I am not ready for some sleezy thing around my kids yet....but I guess its going to happen eh?
 

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My x married the woman he was having an affair with 3 years after we divorced.<br><br>
He did it secretly and then when I asked about it he said they did it because they couldn't afford a mortgage if they weren't married. Nice... he always said he'd NEVER get married again.<br><br>
I'm sorry about your situation - I imagine it's really hard with your little one.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My x married the woman he was having an affair with 3 years after we divorced.<br><br>
He did it secretly and then when I asked about it he said they did it because they couldn't afford a mortgage if they weren't married. Nice... he always said he'd NEVER get married again.<br><br>
I'm sorry about your situation - I imagine it's really hard with your little one.</div>
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Mine said the same thing. When we broke up he said that was "it" for him in terms of getting married. Guess he changed his mind pretty fast...
 
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