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Hi - just wondering what everyone's experience has been in terms of months spent TTC. DH and I have only been TTC since Feb (2WW now), but I'm getting all anxious! I know I shouldn't be. My mom always told me to "be careful" because everyone in our family gets pregnant at the drop of a hat, so I guess I thought it would happen right away.<br><br>
Anyway, just wanted to start a little poll. Partly for fun, partly to calm my crazy self down! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut">
 

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Boy I know how you feel- everyone in my family gets pregnant (and stays pregnant) soooo easily!! It makes me feel like such an outsider...that is, if I were to ever feel comfortable letting them know that it hasn't been easy for me.<br><br>
Anyway, We have 1 DD and it took us 1.5 years to conceive her, and we had 2 miscarriages before her, too. Now we've been "TTC" since she was born, except I've only been ovulating for the past 5 months (and only O'd twice since then anyway). So this time, although we've been "hoping" to conceive for nearly 14 months, we've actually only had 2 chances in the past 5 months, and it obviously hasn't happened yet.
 

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My son was conceived on the first "try". I had been charting to avoid for years, so we just did the opposite of what we did to avoid once we decided we wanted to have a baby <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">. Good luck to you!
 

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Well my first 2 I was not even trying and "oops" 2 surprises I would never change. Never had issues now and funny how we are trying now and it seems it will never happen. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: But I know my body a lot better than I did before. I just wish I knew what was going on with it now.
 

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3 months with our second. We lost him, and decided to try again for 4 months. Nothing happened. We are starting to try AGAIN, and hopefully the misery ends soon.
 

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We got pregnant without "trying" and had a miscarriage. Then it took a year almost exactly to conceive our ds. We have not, not been trying since he was born but I have only had a cycle for about 10 months so I guess 10 months and countng now. Oh, and I had an early m/c in Jan. of this year. (I have progesterone issues) I have been charting for 6 months. It sometimes takes time...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I think the average time it takes for couples is 3-6 months when nothing is wrong at all. It can even take up to a year with no "issues".
 

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Well, to express what most people have said, it took us 16 months. There were no m/c's (thankfully) we just couldn't get pregnant. I wished somebody had told me that it could take that long when we started. I expected it to happen within a couple of months... until it didn't. Hopefully it doesn't take you quite that long.
 

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I agree with ChristyM26. I come from a family where there have been oopsies gallore so when I went into ttc with DH, I thought that this would be cake and we'd get pregnant in say 3 months. Well it's been 9 months and still no baby. We'll be going into our 10th month in May if we haven't conceived this month. I realized that just because it happens one way for one person, doesn't mean that it will happen that way for another even though they're in the same family. DH and I are totally normal, it's just taking us a bit longer to get pregnant. I do hope that things are different for you and that you get pregnant right away. TTC can become very frustrating over a long period of time. What I'm trying to say is that we're all individuals and everybody is different. Good luck!!
 

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It took me 5 mos. to conceive ds. We have been ttc actively for 3 mos. now, I'm in the 2ww (shhhh...don't tell <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ) right now. It's so hard, you want to be pregnant RIGHT NOW. I know the feeling well. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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It took us 5, almost 6 months. But the first several months weren't completely 'trying'-- we weren't really making a concerted effort to hit the right days and so forth, we were just going without birth control to see what might happen. After that didn't work so well I really made sure to grab the DP and drag him to bed on and around the O-days. Two months counting from when I started that.<br><br>
Now, since we lost that pg, I'm scared about how long it might take to get another one...
 

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4 months (m/c that pg), 2 weeks after that m/c we conceived dd, and we've been trying for number 2 since ppaf returned when dd was 9 months... so that's 11 months and 9 cycles. Oh, I did get a BFP last week, but had an early m/c. Hopefully we'll get pg again soon!
 

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First try<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Dh and I really really wanted to have a baby. Two days prior I was told by my doc that it would be difficult for me to get pregnant because my cervix we "overted" or something like that. Never the less we woke up that morning. September 27th (our 2 year anniversary too)and both had the same idea, let's get pregnant today, and we did<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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11 months: started ttc in may, got bfp the following april. Don't give up hope! We got <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/pos.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="positive"> the month we stopped "trying" so hard and just had fun with one another.<br><br>
(also, i figured out that i had a mild hypothyroid problem, so i started meds and six weeks later, voila...bfp!)
 

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Thank you all so much for being so candid and thoughtful. I never realized exactly how much this process can make you feel like you don't know what the heck is going on with your own body...I can't tell my mom we're TTC because she expects it to happen on the "first try" (like her) and I know she'd be on my case. I'm pretty prone to stress anyway, so that's the LAST thing I need.<br><br>
Lots and lots of baby dust to you all! Thanks for the well wishes too - I know it's still very early on.
 

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Almost exactly one year to the date. Also, the month we got pregnant, I was sick and we only had sex ONE time and I was sure it was not when I was ovulating. Go figure. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/2whistle.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="2whistle">:<br><br>
Also, FWIW, I know tons of women who have undergone fertility or decided to stop trying (like us- I was done- I said if it didn't happen after 1 yr I was done trying and wondering and adamant that I would not undergo fertility things!) and<br>
then, BOOM when you stop trying, you get pregnant. I think it's because you relax, actually. You let go of something deeper (expectations?) somehow...<br><br>
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It technically took us four months. We started ttc in Oct 2006. It took me 3 months to get with the program and start charting. The first month I charted is the month we got pg. I had been missing my O date by about 1 week!! I am early O'er and so we would bd too late every time!
 

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From July 2004 to November 2004, so 5 months with DD. No AF the entire time of TTC, and I got pregnant before AF returned. After DD got my ppaf at 3 months pp. Started TTC again when DD turned 1 year, and have been TTC 8 cycles now. It seems I might be going back to amenorrhea again, long cycle, or I got a false BFN this month. Who knows? Anyway, it should be TTC Cycle 9 right now, but Cycle 8 hasn't ended on time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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5 months.<br><br>
I started charting the last 2, and happened the first "real" month of charting!
 

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Inspired007, just wanted to say I clicked the pics in your sig and you and your dh are a VERY handsome couple. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb"> Wow.
 

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3 1/2yrs, male infertility, a failed IVF attempt, exploratory lap for me, endo, Lupron- to get DD. We thought she was it.<br>
This time- it was 10 mos, go figure!
 
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