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Guys, I have to know. Do all men take a book when they do number 2 and then spend at least half an hour in there or just my dh? It's really bugging me. He always has to "do some reading" right before he puts dd1 to bed, which adds at least half an hour to her going to bed.
 

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My partner does this too, and with similarly bad timing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

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I saw the title of this thread and had to read it...now I have to respond!<br><br>
My DH does this ALL the time! He doesn't go into the bathroom without something to read. We've had many discussions about it. IME (and from our conversations), women go when they need to go, they do what they need to do, and they get out. Men think, "Oh, I haven't done that in awhile, I'd better go do it." So they take some entertainment and they sit and wait. Correct me if I'm wrong, fellas, but that's how it works at our house.<br><br>
Here's a funny about that... Our basement isn't finished, but we have a toilet and a shower head in the middle of the wall (future 3/4 bath!). Whenever DH (or one of his brothers, if they are over :LOL ) needs to #2, they take their reading material downstairs, to the cold, cement-floored basement. Why? So they don't stink up the main bathroom--very considerate! Well, one time, DH decided to use the main bathroom, and of course, I really needed to go. So I had to go downstairs, and my feet nearly froze off from the cold cement! So last Christmas DH and I had his bro over, and I gave them a present (addressed to them both): a toilet seat cover and matching contour rug! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao">
 

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My DH isn't like that at all. He never takes his books into the bathroom unless he's taking a bath, in which case he finds a non-valuable book (we only have a few of those...) He usually does his "stuff" in about 1 minute before he gets in the shower. The only reason I know this is because we have a very small cottage with the "if it's mellow..." rule, so I can hear the toilet flush.
 

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This is sooo.... my dh!!! He's always saying, "just a minute, I have to go to the bathroom first..." And out he comes a half hour later, or whenever I go to the bathroom and say, "You've had enough alone time, you need to quit reading and get out here and help me." I think he just gets lost in his books. I'm so glad it's not just my guy that does this. :LOL
 

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My first post..what a subject to start it out on...<br><br>
Okay..this is definately a guy thing. Guys need to have some time to just do guy stuff. Reading a book or a magazine with our pants around our ankles is about as close to "guy stuff" as we can get if there is kiddo's around the house.<br><br>
Women like to have their bubble bath's and all that. We just want 30 or 40 mins to sit and listen to nothing and do nothing. I'm a 40 min. man myself. It happens, you lose track of time. It's only once every one or two days, I'm sure the ladies can live with that.
 

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Not my DH. It's more like 2-3 times a day! Sometimes more and can last up to an hour if I don't put a stop to it. But, he will usually keep it between 15 and 30 minutes. But after work, he will come home, sit on the toilet forever, and then take one of those 30 minute long relaxing "let the shower streams hit your shoulders" kind of shower. He definitely gets more personal time than I do.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Not my DH. It's more like 2-3 times a day! Sometimes more and can last up to an hour if I don't put a stop to it. But, he will usually keep it between 15 and 30 minutes. But after work, he will come home, sit on the toilet forever, and then take one of those 30 minute long relaxing "let the shower streams hit your shoulders" kind of shower. He definitely gets more personal time than I do.</div>
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See..that's a problem. 2 or 3 times a day? Might want to check for a medical problem <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Oh, I don't think it's a medical problem. Just his way of coping with life. I don't think he's really having a bm during all of those times. He just gets distracted with a good book and forgets to get out of there. KWIM? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I think guys that have been in the military tend to spend more time in the bathroom since its a place they can get away from the sergent and not get yelled at for wasting time.<br>
My DH told me this and he was in the army and yes he will spend 30 + minutes in there sometimes.
 

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Good evening!<br><br>
Well from a guys perspective, being that I am one :) Taking a book into the bathroom, i guess, a way to cope with the down time involved with the whole procedure but also once you're into the book why move? It's fairly comfy and no distractions, so it's a pretty sweet deal! Anyway, it's a pretty simple chemistry fact, things.. or people in motion tend to stay in motion while people at rest want to stay at rest, a book just sweetens the deal!<br><br>
D3monix (Dreamlette's DH)
 

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Hm. 10 replies, 2 guys? Anyway, my dh isn't just reading. He's doing math. Calculus. He enjoys it. I asked him once if he's actually "reading" that whole time or just reading. He said that it actually takes him that long to "read." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">
 

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I have not kept any statistics, but I suspect the wireless networked portable computers we use in our house has roughly doubled the amount of time we spend on the pot. I want to avoid any firm numbers lest I admit to this actually being an issue, but it seems the red marks on skin at contact points (elbows to thighs, butt to seat) are much redder and last much longer than ever before.<br><br>
Hmmm, food for thought.
 

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Sounds like an escape issue; bathroom is the only place that I have to get away as well. Is he really spending too much time in there? If he puts in his share of work, 30 minutes a day seems reasonable self-time. If not, you can always take off the lock and toddlers eager for play will solve the problem for you.
 

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Sorry to go against theory, but I'm the one with the books and magazines in the bathroom. DH, being a past military man, is the one who is in and out of the bathroom in no time. I've grown up doing this and can't tell you how many books that I've gotten through. I've been known to spend two hours reading in the bathroom (sorry if this is TMI) for no other reason than to get some privacy, quiet time, and re-claim my sanity. It's the one place that I can go and get some time to myself.
 

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I keep chess magazines artfully hidden around the bathroom for "down time", but goodness, I don't read them for half an hour. Seems like more than 10 minutes would get uncomfortable.
 

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Hey its 2004, instead of a book how about a wireless laptop to browse motheringdotcom <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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One of the symptoms of IBS is a feeling that you are not finished... so you sit longer! When I got pregnant w/my first I would bleed every time I had a BM because I would go in, rush through it and hurry out (girl poop!), the last thing you want when you're living in close quarters with a new boyfriend, your best friend, her boyfriend and her daughter is for long bathroom time for everyone to comment on! lol So I'd rush through it and have problems. Told dbf about it and he told me to stop trying to go in and have the discreet 'girl poops', grab a book and go like a man. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> I haven't looked back... defintely less discomfort and now with the IBS issue, there are times when I couldn't get out of there quick if my house was on fire. LOL TMI- sorry! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
So it's not just a guy thing! But I swear, I'm 'in action' the whole time and not just reading. I don't personally find the toilet a relaxing, comfortable place to sit and read, although not having to get up to pee is convenient. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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julie128, I wish I could sympathize... I'm very judicious about when I go... I try to time things for when everyone else has gone off to do other things; the only time the bathroom gets free anyway (every a.m. after school carpool and the post carpool latte). I'm a 10 minute man. But I still bring the powerbook (yup, we're wrieless too) or a magazine, etc. to continue whatever it was I was doing prior to needing to go. I like to be efficient and not waste any time. In general, if I can double up on activities, I do it, commode time included.<br><br>
DW has never complained about my habits. DD (7 yo) on the other hand, the commode queen, gets annoyed she has to yield the throne....
 
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