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If you weaned your little one, about how long did that process take? I know it varies from pair to pair, but I'm trying to decide when to initiate this process in a schedule of other upcoming events, so I wanted to hear a few stories from all of you.<br><br>
DS is 22 months and nurses about 5 times a day, sometimes less often, sometimes more often. He hasn't nursed overnight since 17 months of age.<br><br>
I was thinking of easing into weaning around his second birthday, partly because we'll be taking a plane trip a month before that, around the 4th of July, and BFing is such a comfort there. However, it turns out we'll be moving, probably in August, so that I can start a new job. It will be more difficult for us to nurse as often with my new schedule, and I wonder if having weaning somewhat "settled" by that time would dissolve any associations he would have about the separation causing less nursing. Is that a harsh time frame? I have no idea if this will take days, weeks, or months. Maybe I should start the process sooner rather than later...any thoughts?<br><br>
Can you recommend any sources beyond "don't ask, don't refuse"?<br><br>
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My recommendation would be to work on simply reducing the number of nursings per day over the summer, but not to wean completely until he's closer to 2 1/2. A move is a huge upheaval for a toddler, no matter what. If by August you can be down to just a morning and evening nursing session, those special times at the start and end of the day could be just the thing your toddler needs to cope with the changes of a new house, new care providers, etc. Then once he's settled into his new home and routine, and is a good 6 months (or more) older, eliminating those last couple of nursings should be much easier.<br><br>
Summer is probably the easiest time to cut back on nursing because it's easier to keep your ds distracted by other fun things. Wear clothing with difficult access, and try to have snacks and fun activities planned for his usual nursing times. Start by eliminating the session he seems to care about the least, then eliminate another every 2 - 3 weeks until you are down to just 1 or 2 per day.<br><br>
I weaned my ds at 3, but I can't imagine having tried it when he was not yet 2. I really don't think it would have worked without going cold-turkey, and he would have been <i>very</i> grieved. Even at 3, he was a little sad, but we were able to talk about it and come up with new ways to feel close. (I had to stop because I was in pretty bad physical pain and was really beginning to resent the nursing -- not a good vibe! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> )
 

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ITA with this. i think the moving and having you working are both things that are going to be hard to adjust to, and the ability to nurse through those events (even if it's only once or twice a day) would be beneficial, i think.<br><br>
i MLW my DD, but i honestly can't say exactly how long it took. i had to cut her sessions back while i was pregnant (she was about 20 months). when the baby came we stayed with the reduced schedule. when she was about 2.5 yo, we started talking about the idea of weaning with DD, and ultimately planned a weaning party for her 3rd birthday, after which she didn't nurse. but that wouldn't really work with a younger child - in fact i don't think it would've worked with a similarly aged child that was less verbal. DD was able to communicate like a much older child and i felt she really understood what was going on.<br><br>
i felt it was important to really slowly work on it. i wanted it to be as close to CLW as possible as far as a gradual progression towards less nursing. i didn't want it to be quick or harsh and cause bad feelings for her or me.
 

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well since you never answered my question on why you felt the need to wean right now....i'll just give you my opinion.<br><br><br>
I think it would be bad to wean before the move and all these changes. he will need the comfort and familiarity of nursing to help him through it.
 
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