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I'm talking the first stretch.<br><br>
My ds sleeps 6 hours and then he's up every 40 minutes after that. Goes to bed at 9 and then sure enough, 3 o'clock rolls around and he's up off and on until 7:00 am. When are the 10 hour stretches going to start??<br><br>
I'm so tired!
 

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ONe of my 17 month olds does that too, while his twin brother sleeps thru the night. I am at a loss here. I give him something to drink, fetch his binkie, lie down with him, etc, nothing works
 

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uggh. It brings back bad memories. My son (now 2 1/2) woke up about 8 times an average night when he was 17 months. He never slept more than 2 hours at a time. On "bad" nights, he woke up every hour, all night. It continued until 22 months when I night weaned him. We are just starting to feel recovered.
 

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I am only dreaming of ten hour stretches here. Boo goes to bed at 7pm and gets up anywhere from 1-4 times until 6am. This is totally normal for her. No illness, no teething. She's not hungry. Sometimes she wants a drink of water, sometimes nursing is the only way to get her back down. Luckily dh gets her much of the time or else I'd be certifiable right now. Once in awhile we'll get a 9pm or 10pm to 5am or 6am stretch, but I think she does that just to psyche me out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> It never happens more than one night in a row, once every couple of weeks.
 

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Ronan is a candidate for the Worst Sleepers Hall of Fame. The longest he has ever gone is six hours. Once. And as much as I hate to admit it, transitioning him mostly to his crib at 13 months has helped a lot. My DH helps with the wakings, thankfully! May we all experience peaceful sleep someday soon!<br>
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DS (almost 16 months) just in the past week and a half (I'm scared to jinx this by saying it, but here goes) started only waking up once to nurse. So, one of the stretches is about 7 hours. The other is three or four. DS sleeps in his own crib, though, in his own room. I know for sure if he still slept with us he'd wake up more because he loves nursies so much. That's just what worked for us.<br><br>
I think their sleep habits are so often connected to their temperaments, so what you get is what you get. (Don't tell the CIO people, though. That blows their whole industry!) I know this is not useful, but I would say be patient. At some point, your DS will start sleeping longer stretches, and someday, though it's hard to believe, he'll sleep through the night. He has to, right?
 

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Yes! My pediatrician, who I love, said, "You're just not one of the lucky ones." (Referring only to sleep, of course!)
 

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Our dd will not go to sleep at the same time every night... we just can't talk her into it, I guess...<br>
Once she DOES pass out from pure exhaustion, she sleeps hard for about 2-3 hours, and then the rest of the night depends on her nap situation..... if she naps for less than an hour all day she's fitful & wakes up every 30 minutes or so to nurse, as soon as I can break away & roll over she wakes up again. When she gets adequate naps she's up every 1 1/2 - 2 hours during the night.<br>
My back is killing me from all the nighttime nursies!<br>
From the sound of things, I don't think I'll get my hopes up for ten hour stretches until her teen years.<br>
She did sleep through one time & I remember waking up in a panic to make sure she was breathing!
 

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My ds (17mo.s)has never been a great sleeper, either.<br>
He has gone through brief periods where he slept for 5-7 hrs for the first stretch then nurse a few minutes then 2-3 hr stretch nurse a few minutes, then up every 40 minutes or so nurse for about total of 11 hrs or so. Those were good nights, a distant memory now, since the molars have been bugging him . He has had a bad time with teething (hence my other "help!" thread the other day when I was totally at wits end--- the past week or two, mostly he wakes up every half hour to nurse for a while- have not have much sleep at all! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shake.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shake"> )<br>
SO, I am no help here, just commiserating! but I agree, they are how they are... and someday they will sleep through the night... I hope <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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beemama,<br>
I just read your message. seems identical to my situation.. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
my ds will not submit to a regular bedtime, sometimes 9 sometimes 10 or 11, etc... and I found the same thing, often he sleeps better at night with two naps, but then he often doesnt go down til midnite, which is okay for me since I am SAHM but hard on dh who gets up at 5:30 to get ready for work.... but def. a short nap is trouble for night sleeping, but so hard to get them to take a good nap if they don't want too!<br>
I also am not fooling myself about ten hr stretches. I feel amazingly lucky when I get a 5 hr stretch....
 

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On "good nights", DD goes to bed at around 8:30, wakes up almost on the DOT at 12:30am, around 2:30, then once more before waking up for good between 7 and 8am.<br><br>
Lately she's been up 6 or so times a night, and then STAYS awake starting at around 2 or 3am, it's really exhausting. However, I don't feel the need to punish her for doing this by suddenly transitioning her to her own bedroom and/or nightweaning.<br>
she's slept in a mattress pushed up against our bed since she was eight months old, so it probably wouldn't be difficult to get her into her "own bed" should I feel I need to. I don't mind waking at night to nurse her, so long as she goes back to sleep!!
 

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I'm one of the lucky ones who had a baby sleeping through the night within the first few weeks (although I was co-sleeping, so for all I know she could have woken to nurse...but it didn't wake me.)<br><br>
My 17 month old has been sleeping from 7 or 8 pm until 6:30am every night, since she was about 13 months old. Prior to that, she'd go to bed with us around 11 or 12 at night, and sleep until we woke up.<br><br>
Of course, the next one will probably have colic and won't sleep through the night until she's a teenager...just to make up for my luck. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">beemama,<br>
I just read your message. seems identical to my situation.. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
my ds will not submit to a regular bedtime, sometimes 9 sometimes 10 or 11, etc... and I found the same thing, often he sleeps better at night with two naps, but then he often doesnt go down til midnite, which is okay for me since I am SAHM but hard on dh who gets up at 5:30 to get ready for work.... but def. a short nap is trouble for night sleeping, but so hard to get them to take a good nap if they don't want too!<br>
I also am not fooling myself about ten hr stretches. I feel amazingly lucky when I get a 5 hr stretch....</div>
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Your son sounds identical to my daughter. IDENTICAL! And they were born on the same day... Maybe it has something to do with that day.
 

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we're still up every three hours or so all night long<br><br>
he goes to sleep at 8:30pm or thereabouts every night with an awesome bedtime routine. He sleeps 1 1/2hrs - 1hr45minutes every afternoon.<br><br>
he wakes at around 11:30 or 12 and sometimes nurses back down sometimes back pats back down til around 3am. then again around 6am and then for the day at 7am<br><br>
i'm tired...
 

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DS usually sleeps through from 8pm to 6am, that's 10 hours. Unless he is teething or sick. He is getting teeth right now and so he woke up 4 times between 4:30 and 5:30 a.m., which I consider mild after reading how many times some of you get up on a regular basis! I was able to settle him with a cup of milk at 5am (after checking on him earlier and then realizing he probably wasn't going to go back to sleep...)and a book and went back to bed myself, not really sleeping but at least resting...we both took long naps today!<br><br>
He has been in his own crib since 6 weeks of age and has always slept really well. He began sleeping about 5-6 hour stretches and increased them to sleeping through the night by about 6 mos. of age. After that point he only wanted to eat once per night, usually, and now he is never hungry at night and as I said, rarely wakes.<br><br>
I have to say after reading the number of posts on this and on other threads from co-sleepers I really begin to wonder why so many babies don't seem to sleep through the night in the family bed? Is it because they get used to waking up to eat? Or are they awakened by having someone else in bed with them? I always liked the idea of co-sleeping but DS really didn't take to it...he tossed and turned a lot, fussed, slept much better in his own space. To this day he won't even take a nap with me, but will konk out readily in his crib for two hours every afternoon.<br><br>
We keep the monitor on and I hear every peep, so I know he is not waking up (at least not to where he lets me know about it!). I awake to his every call, so it's not as though he is crying and I don't hear it.<br><br>
I hope this next baby sleeps as well! I am really scared about that! I imagine we'll co-sleep the first few weeks and transition to crib gradually, hopefully he or she will take to it like DS! I really, REALLY need my sleep (I know we all do) but I had major problems with PPD and sleep deprivation, and plus I just don't like the idea of functioning on low sleep and being all bitchy with everyone the next day. To me that is not quality family life! Good luck to you all! I hope your babes start sleeping better soon!
 

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We have always let her go by her own internal scedual and never pushed any kind of bedtime, but I hope someday soon she sleeps a little better.
 

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<b>be11ydancer</b>, maybe it was that week. My DD (born 6-29-03) has sleep issues, too. Goes to sleep everynight between 7:30 and 8:30, usually goes about 2 hours the first stretch, then wakes every hour after that, till about 7:30 in the morning. :yawning:<br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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I think this is sometimes the case, but I'm still personally wavering between "this is just the way she is" and "something external is causing this." I'm sure I'm not alone here in trying A LOT of different "solutions" to get DC to sleep better. Nothing has worked so far, but that doesn't mean that nothing ever will. Right now we're trying a dairy free diet, and though it hasn't been a magic bullet, she did sleep 3 hours straight last night, which she hadn't done in months. Here's hoping it gets even better! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<b>Mariah101</b>, I think that in many cases, people chose to co-sleep because the child wakes so often, rather than the co-sleeping causing the wakings. If you need to nurse or comfort your child to sleep 10 times a night, would you rather have to get up to do it, or be able to just roll over? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> My DD sleeps equally poorly in her own bed as she does with me. We started out co-sleeping, tried her on her own when her wakings became more frequent, but since that didn't help at all, I went back to sleeping with her since <i>I</i> get so much more rest that way.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have to say after reading the number of posts on this and on other threads from co-sleepers I really begin to wonder why so many babies don't seem to sleep through the night in the family bed? Is it because they get used to waking up to eat? Or are they awakened by having someone else in bed with them? I always liked the idea of co-sleeping but DS really didn't take to it...he tossed and turned a lot, fussed, slept much better in his own space. To this day he won't even take a nap with me, but will konk out readily in his crib for two hours every afternoon.</div>
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There's a couple of things you have to keep in mind. First, what is normal infant sleep? Is it an adult sleep pattern? (Is the "Adult sleep pattern" of a 7 or 8 hour stretch even normal?? Don't most people wake up a few times to toss, turn, go to the bathroom, etc?)<br>
Some babies sleep like this naturally, but most don't. Some are forced into it through harsh routines that involve CIO, isolation... unfortunately that's very common, and often the norm. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Also, like someone else said, most people co-sleep BECAUSE their babies wake frequently. She said it best, would you rather get up and walk across your room/house, pick up the baby, rock them and then put them back in the crib 10x a night or just roll over and go back to sleep?<br>
My DD was born with terrible colic, it lasted months, I was exhausted. We had a lot of problems. I can't tell you how happy I am to have had co-sleeping. I just put her in the crook of my arm and I was out. I'd wake a few times a night, yes - but only for a few moments unless she was very upset.<br>
Even with the extreme colic, she eventually started to "sleep through" the night, barely waking up to latch on. Eventually, I started waking mere seconds before she would stir, and latch her on - you get that Mother's sixth sense.<br>
Unfortunately, this didn't last! As she got older, and more mobile, she started getting excited about waking up. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> However, this is still ten times easier then it would be if she was in her own room, or a babycage.
 

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my dd slept 8 to 10 hours from the time she was 9 months. lucky me. my ds sleeps 6 hours, and then he stirs and wiggles a little, I shove a boob in his mouth and its back to sleep for another 4 or so. This is the usual deal, tho lately, hes been sleeping clear through the night about 2 to 3 times a week. We co-sleep until the kids decide to have their own room and bed. (dd was 3 when she wanted her own bed, ds is only 15 months.)
 

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Rowan goes down any time between 8 and 10...he starts out in his crib so we have some "alone time" (we started this a few months ago, before he was on my lap all evening) and he'll usually wake up about 45 minutes after he goes down and is settled back to sleep either back in his crib or on my lap until we go to bed at around 11, when i change him and put him in our bed. he usually stays asleep until around 5 or so when he nurses and then is back asleep until about 7 or 7:30. of course there are good days and bad days, but that's average.
 
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