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hi experienced ecers! we started ec about 3 weeks ago with our 7 mo ds. i try to have no expectations other than opening up communication and maybe keeping him a bit more comfy (i do regret, for the environment's sake, that we are washing even more diapers now that i'm paying more attention, but oh well...)
i think things are going well, i'm open to feedback on this. we go by timing and intuition usually, i can't detect signals. he seems to be getting my 'psh' signals at least. we always catch the morning pee, usually a poop then too. lately we've had great night success too, and on days i leave him bare at home we get about 50% of poos and pees. missed ones are usually when he is on his tummy.
anyway...my question: how long should i let him sit on the toilet/sink edge? i've read of letting them play or reading books until they go, but isn't this confusing the message? usually i make my cue a few times and wait a few seconds, and half the time he goes then. if he crys or arches i take him off immediately of course. if he starts playing with the toilet seat etc i usually assume he doesn't need to go. sometimes he then goes on the floor within minutes.
sorry so long for a simple question and thanks for any input, philosophical or practical!
 

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If I'm pretty sure that Nadia *needs* to go, I'll take her off for a few seconds (walk to the window in the living room or peek in on brother & sister, for example), then we'll go back to the sink/potty chair. That usually does the trick. If not, I just change her diaper when it's wet.

Yesterday, she seemed to need to go pee when we were getting ready to go out, but she wouldn't go. I tried the sink and the potty, but nothing happened. So, we got in the car and drove 20+ min (plus filling the car with gas), and she was still dry when we got there! She had been fussy the last 3 min in the car, and I think that's why - she was getting uncomfortable holding it in! Anyway, the car next to us was just pulling out, so when I took her diaper off (expecting it to be wet), I delayed in holding her out over the ground. She didn't delay in letting it go, though. :LOL

So, that's what I do.
 

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My DDs are a little older, but have been able to sit on the potty unassisted for a couple of months now. I put both of them on their potties and let them sit there for a few minutes. Since they are happy playing with toys, it is not a hardship for them. (See, however, my previous post about "potty hockey."
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I think if I had one babe, I might do more like Ulrike, but oftentimes I suspect they both may need to go at the same time. I would go nuts trying to finesse each baby into going.

If I hear crying from a baby on her potty, it means she is done sitting there -- either she already went and I didn't notice yet, or she has nothing to contribute.


BTW, I know exactly what you mean about the extra diapers due to EC (that is, EC when you don't have a super catch record). Funny, ain't it!
 

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Larisa, what I do depends on Nadia's mood and how much of a hurry I'm in. There are times when she just sits on her potty for quite a while and plays with a toy. Of course, right now, she's CRAWLING, so she doesn't want to sit on the potty if she can see anything of interest in the room.
 

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My little guy (2.5 months) takes quite a while to poop even tho he's clearly signalling & wants to go. He often fusses when I take him *away* from the potty (usually a bowl held b/t my legs). He also usually nurses lightly or sucks his fingers to get the poo out. So I actually hold him in a "ready" position & nurse when he signals poop. It can take several minutes before it comes out.

Sorry, this isn't answering your question, but I also wonder what some of the more experienced ec'ers think about this ... sometimes I wonder if it is ec or just letting him poo whenever the fancy strikes.

- Denise
 
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