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okay I might be totaly insane..maybe not...<br><br><br>
I'm a FTM..... and I've heard labor usually takes longer with a FTM...<br><br>
So say I leave right when I start feeling like I'm in labor...is a four hour drive still a really insane amount of time to get to a hospital? I mean, if the hospital I want to birth at is that far away... That's probably a bad idea right?
 

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not sure if i can help, but...<br>
what kind of childbirth prep are you doing? do you plan natural childbirth? are you taking any classes? i ask b/c i did bradley and they really taught me and most importantly, my dh how to read the signs and know when to go. for me, my contractions started on a tuesday morning, but i worked all day through them and slept until 1:30 am on wednesday when my water broke. i labored at home until i said, "we're gonna have to do this here" at 4:42 am. my dh rushed me to the car and we made the 30 minute trip to the hospital. i was 9.5 cm at that point, so i think i transitioned in the car (i had to push!). my ds was born one hour later.<br>
this time, i've moved but i'm going back to the same hospital which is now 1.5 hours away. i figure i'll just go earlier and if i have to get a hotel, that's what i'll do.<br>
follow your instincts, but i will say that the way i felt before, i could have made a 4 hour trip when my water broke, but obviously, i couldn't have done it when i actually decided to leave the house b/c it would have been too late.<br>
how comfortable are you and the person accompanying you with roadside baby delivery? something to think about for everyone - even those 5 minutes from a hospital!<br>
good luck with your decision. i know how important the right hospital is (for those who choose hospital birth).
 

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You could not PAY me enough to be in a car for 4 hours in labor. Seriously. I'd birth in a desert first.<br><br>
But I can't imagine being in a car in labor at all.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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i agree with the above post! both my girls were born in the hospital (attached birthing rooms) but i wanted to labor at home for as long as humanly possible, which i did. i'm pregnant again (and we've recently moved) & none of the hospitals in my area are appealing to me so we've chosen a homebirth. i understand that hb isn't for everyone, but a four hour car drive in labor may put you over the edge.
 

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I knew it was a insane idea, thanks everyone haha<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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my Mom was in labor for 2 hours and 55 minutes before she had me (I was her first), and 4 hours for my brother (her 2nd and last). her water broke the day before, but she didn't have any contractions at all, so she stayed home until the contractions started and went in immediately. I personally wouldn't risk a 4 hour drive. I'm scared to risk an hour drive, that will likely be an hour (or more) longer with Chicago traffic.
 

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plus, it just really, really sucks to be in a car when you are in labor. you cant get comfortable and the bumps and stuff are horrible. 30 minutes was TERRIBLE for me. that being said, you could get a hotel near the hospital when you feel like you are in very early labor. maybe if you research hospitals along the way, just in case. for a FTM its very common to be in early labor for a loooooooong time. but there are no guarantees in this business! i think a car ride in early labor wouldnt be as bad.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">You could not PAY me enough to be in a car for 4 hours in labor. Seriously. I'd birth in a desert first.<br><br>
But I can't imagine being in a car in labor at all.<br><br>
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I was in the car for 8 minutes and it was hell on earth - but I hate being in a car anyway (don't drive) so maybe that was a factor...
 

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I have a friend that lives in a very remote area and she has a 2+ hour drive to the hospital. With both her births, they have left very early on and checked into a hotel. She labored in the hotel until it was much closer to time and only THEN went to the hospital. She doesn't have a choice thought, because she lives in the boonies. I have a 30min. drive, which is about all I am comfortable with the winter in Michigan!
 

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Ummm...well, this is coming from a mama who's stubbornly picked a place an hour away to give birth (for the second time...that's how great my experience was there the first time)...<br><br>
Four hours in a car will probably kill you.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> ...unless you happen to go so early in labor that by the time you get there, you're in active labor...and the chances of that happening I would think are slim, since it's so hard to really know for most first-timers when it's the real thing. I know several women who had more than one episode of early (false) labor (including myself) and false alarms like that could potentially screw with your mind, ya know?<br><br>
If you decide to do it anyway, it might be beneficial to have your care provider check your cervix for progress starting at 38 or so weeks, just so you know where you're starting at. BUT I'm told that dialation can reverse itself, and if you're totally closed up and thick, that can change in a matter of hours...<br><br>
Four hours is a really really long time...
 

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Four hours IS a really long time.<br><br>
I drove about an hour to the hospital. Luckily, I went into labor at night, without traffic, and we made it to the hospital in about 35 minutes. I had to go back to the office to get staples out at 5 days postpartum, nad the drive home took 1.5 hours. 4 hours with contractions in traffic might have killed me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
That said, with the next baby, if we still live here, I'll either go back to the same hospital or another one about 1 hour away (but never any traffic). (and I live about 4 miles from a hospital, just wouldn't go there. There's something funny aobut us MDC types. LOL)
 

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It's not insane if you want to move to the town the hospital is located in, for the week before you due date and potentially the week or two after. That's the only condition on which I would elect to give birth at a hospital four hours away. I had 4 minutes in the car while I was in labour (time enough for two contractions), and that was bad enough.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">okay I might be totaly insane..maybe not...<br><br><br>
I'm a FTM..... and I've heard labor usually takes longer with a FTM...<br><br>
So say I leave right when I start feeling like I'm in labor...is a four hour drive still a really insane amount of time to get to a hospital? I mean, if the hospital I want to birth at is that far away... That's probably a bad idea right?</div>
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Four hour drive? WOW!! My labor start to finish was 2hrs 45mins. Ok so that was my 4th. Labor with my 1st was 16 hours BUT I can't imagine spending four hours of labor in the car. Personally I wouldn't do it.
 

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Some people acctually have no choice but to drive 4hrs to get to a hospital.<br><br>
The village I lived in when I was a teen, was acctually an island in the middle of the Bay of Fundy. To get to the nearest hospital that was allowed to catch babies (and still is the nearest hospital that is allowed to catch babies) One had to take an hour and a half ferry ride, then drive another hour and a half to two hours (depending on city traffic) to get to the hospital. Now, the ferry only runs at certain times, if the wind is blowing more than 40 knots it doesn't run at all..<br><br>
So you either rent a hotel once you hit 37 weeks there (Not very many people there can afford that option, it's a fishing village) Hope you have a relitive with an open room when you hit 37 weeks (not many people have that option either) or, you get induced at 37 weeks on the button. (the most common option)<br><br>
Spontanious labours are flown off island via medilift. the Doctors will *NOT* catch at all...they refuse to. UC is not even thought of, hell I was looked at like some sort of freak for having a homebirth with DD!<br><br>
So just a little FYI, not everyone has the option of having a hospital near by <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
OP, I wouldn't wanna drive that far...hope it's a good hospital, or the only baby catching hospital near by....If that's the case, I'd at least try a UC...
 
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