I figured this was the best place to post this question, although it might pertain to new parents more. So how long was it before you had sex again with dh after your babies were born? Ds is 3 mo and still we haven't and it is because of disinterest on my part. I'm still a little nervous about it being painful, but really don't have any sex drive. We could find time, but I don't because I don't have any interest. Dh is being very patient, but I don't think he or that we should wait much longer. I try to show affection elsewhere in hugs, kisses, and dinners for dh, but I know our romantic relationship is lacking. What should we expect from eachother and ourselves as new parents?