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I grew up in a mostly quiet family. There were occasional raised voices, but it was VERY rare, and only when people were angry. I tend to be quiet myself. I like silence or maybe very understated music in the background. DH is fairly quiet, and while he does like loud music at times- he restricts it to the car or somewhere away from me.

My children- are less quiet. One of them is very quiet, but the other two seem to think that making noise is a necessary part of every activity. Because DS 1 has a speech delay, I've had to make it a point to narrate things more, and to talk more, and I do although it feels very unnatural to me. (He's my quiet guy. After over a year of multiple therapies, he's doing better with language development, but he still is, and probably always be, a quiet person.)

My oldest child- insists on talking all. the. time. Constantly talking, and her voice modulation gets away from her. Or maybe I am just too sensitive. I tend to speak in a fail low and quiet voice unless I need to speak to a crowd. She tends to speak at a much higher volume all the time. Not necessarily yelling, just- loud. I ask her to be quiet a lot.

My youngest is just a lively toddler. He isn't terribly loud, but has his moments. I can deal with that though as it's getting much better as he's getting more words.

I go to other people's homes and am often struck by the sheer volume. Our house is often silent, as was the house I grew up in. This feels normal and natural to me. What is your house like in terms of noise level?
 

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I've been told that our house is quiet.

It is pretty quiet right now. All I hear right now is the fan.

When I cook or clean I turn on the radio.

The tv isn't on much. Dd and I watched something together earlier- loud enough to hear in the room but not upstairs or other parts of the house.

Dd is quiet when she isn't mad or excited about something. She has periods when she is talkative and periods when she does not talk much.

There are a few people who just have loud houses. I'm not sure if it is the fact that they are used to talking over the tv that is always on or what.
 

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We have a loud house. I think you can hear us from down the street. My extended family is loud, DH's extended family is loud, my kids come by it naturally.
 

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My husband is very quiet, my older dd and i are chatty - my voice is loud but hers varies, and the little one is pretty darn quiet like her dad. I guess our house is medium, but there is variation depending on the mood of the intense and dramatic older daughter.
 

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My boys are 4 and 6. I don't understand how a house can be quiet! I wish ours was, a lot of the time, but here it's two kids constantly talking, to each other or more likely to me, telling me everything they're doing, asking every possible question, singing some song, giggling with each other, screaming or yelling because someone grabbed something, stomping and running around, playing some pretend game that only they understand, etc. etc.!!! Add ME shouting over that to try to get their attention to either tell the grabber not to grab, or say dinner is ready or whatever.... this place is pretty loud. I put on the tv for them so I get some quiet. DH doesn't like all the noise, it seems pretty normal to me at this point, but I sure do cherish the quiet times, which usually come in bursts of 5 or 10 minutes when they both happen to be absorbed in books.
 

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We have a very loud house. There's no TV on, the radio is usually only on when I'm working in the kitchen, my kids are just loud. It's usually only quiet after they go to bed, that's when I enjoy some quiet reading time with my Kindle. I also grew up in a quiet house and do miss the quiet quite often, but that's just not where we are right now.
 

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Silence is what happens when we go away for the weekend... lol
 

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we are LOUD. lol. very loud. tvs on/ music on/ video games on. when we are all outside music is playing outside. we like loud. i actually find silence very uncomfortable and need a radio or tv on low to be able to sleep. we live LOUD. lol
 

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We are loud. I have a 7 yo DS who can't always remember to talk in an inside voice. A 3 1/2 yo diva and a very happy 1 yo. Plus a dog.... I love the silence of bed time!
 

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We are quiet, but there are low, happy noises in the house when we're home. We're not loud talkers, listen to a lot of loud music or watch a lot of loud TV. Dh and I may have a heated discussion at times, but yelling doesn't really happen. Dh will whistle or hum at times. Dd likes to pretend play with her dolls and she'll chatter. We occasionally listen to classical, baroque, jazz, or world music that is very low background music. There's nothing loud in our lives, though. If I'm in the kitchen, I'm banging around a bit, I will often turn on some TV. The TV is almost always muted, though, or I can only barely hear it. It's not on for noise, but something for me to look at when I'm doing something like chopping a lot of veg or doing other cooking prep. (And it's usually on the Cooking Channel for ironic redundancy.) During the school year, when dd is gone all day and dh is at the office, the house is almost zen-like. We REALLY enjoy our peace and quiet. I absolutely could not live with daily noise inside the house. It is like a refuge to us.

Nighttime may actually be our loudest time of the day inside the house because we need some noise to sleep. We use white noise (fans and the ocean setting on the relaxation noise maker). During the day, we hear nature (we have a lot of birds), yard work, and traffic, etc. and that's all the noise I need. Occasionally the neighbors across the street give us some drama for extra noise and I usually have to close the windows when their 13 yo son/step-son shows up with his skateboard. Beyond that, any more noise and I'd probably be a basket case. LOL!!
 

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We have a very loud house. There's no TV on, the radio is usually only on when I'm working in the kitchen, my kids are just loud. It's usually only quiet after they go to bed, that's when I enjoy some quiet reading time with my Kindle. I also grew up in a quiet house and do miss the quiet quite often, but that's just not where we are right now.
Same here. My older two are so noisy, my toddler is very quiet, but can get to running around yelling if the girls are doing it too. We are certainly the loudest house on the block!
 

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Freaking loud today. The TV is on but that is the least of our problems; it's my kids that apparently have lost their voice modulation abilities. Today they can't just say something, they have to yell it. It is making me
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Our house is pretty quiet. We have one dd, age 5. "TV" is only on the computer and only for an hour a day, so the volume is pretty low and it's not on that much. Dd is a great independent player--she can draw or play with Playmobils or legos by herself for hours. She's also not an especially rough-and-tumble kid--she doesn't jump on the furniture or bang around too much. She is a chatterer--she talks/narrates pretty much non-stop. :lol But she's not very noisy about it and she rarely yells. Right now, for instance, I can hear just some very low talking as she chats with herself while playing with some Littlest Pet Shop guys--other than that and my typing, the house is completely silent. Family time when we're at home usually involves stuff like reading, card/board games, art projects, baking, etc. When dd is playing by herself, dh and I are usually reading, working at the computer, or doing chores around the house. We do a decent amount of talking, but none of us are especially loud talkers.

I'm a true introvert (i.e., not "shy," but I find socializing or being around a lot of people completely drains my energy) and I get incredibly stressed out when I'm around a lot of noisy, chaotic kids. I feel very lucky that dd has a temperment that suits mine so well!

ETA: We live in a TINY house (and soon we'll be moving to an even tinier apartment) so we never have to yell to make sure we're heard. I find that makes a big difference in overall noise levels.
 

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My house is LOUD!!! (and I Loooove it!!) Especially during the week when there's me, two 17 y/o's an 8 y/o, two 7 y/o's, two 3 y/o's, two 2 y/o's and a wee 6 m/o babe. Oh and a dog and two noisy birds fighting to be heard over the racket. It's when it's quiet that I get scared, bad things happen when they all get quiet : )
 

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My house is loud and it makes my brain hurt. I love the time after everyone is in bed and it is completely quiet.
 

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This is a great thread. I call us The Loud Family. Though relative to my inlaws we're quiet as the proverbial church mice. I do insist the TV be off, or the volume down if it's on, whereas the inlaws tend to have the TV on all the time, and up LOUD.

But 12 y.o. ds has very poor volume control and he's so chatty! He's always set to eleven, and we're always asking him to lower the volume. And when the four of us are arguing, or even just talking animatedly, look out! It gets loud! I can't help but compare us to the family across the street with the shy teen daughters who never say a word. We must sound like nut balls, affectionately arguing loudly with each other in the front yard, hollering at the dog to get out of the street. I have noticed that of the neighbors immediately around us, none of them are out in their yards doing anything or interacting with each other like we are.

So Saturday morning dh and I both watched this curvy, pretty blonde gal on FoodTV make peanut butter fudge brownies. Dh was basically in love (chocolate, peanut butter, busty gal -what's not to love?) so while we were both doing yard work in the front yard he jokingly wondered if she's married. To which I loudly responded 'You're still married to me, Dude. Doesn't matter what state in the union we live in, you still can't marry your peanut butter fudge bint unless you divorce ME first!' And Dear Husband pointed out the poor woman jogging by at that very moment who probably heard me affectionately threatening my husband with divorce, and we about fell over each other laughing.
 

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I am very quiet. Grew up in a quiet house. Pre-kids we were a very quiet couple. That changed the minute DS was out - he started wailing and didn't stop for the first year and a half. The hospital staff told us that kids who cried as much as him were hotlisted in their pediatrician files as potential abuse victims because it was so stressful on the parents. He screamed full-on for a good 12-16 hours a day minimum from newborn onwards - typically more like 18 hours. I lost hearing partially because of always pacing around with him screaming in my arms.

Now 4, DS is still a screamer. Except he doesn't cry much or anything - just that everything he says comes out in a scream. We basically had to move out of our apartment because he was too loud. (We weren't forced out but my social anxiety just was too much and the neighbors were always complaining about us and why we don't try to "control" our kids... When all day we did try to.) He has SPD and needs everything to be loud and intense. He and his sister scream all day, every day. Pretty much every day ends with me in tears over how loud they are. When we're in public I try to grin and bear it (well, with constant reminders that they tune out by now to hush) but everyone always comments on how much they talk. They literally never stop. They even talk in their sleep. I timed how long it was quiet in our house even after I specifically told them we have to be quiet now - it was 30 seconds max. We suspect DS has ADHD - his EI therapists said as much but he was too young then to diagnose. Even when he tries to whisper it comes out as a scream. We tried to go to an exhibit at the zoo that asked for quiet - there were like two dozen kids his age there, being quiet - I explained to him why we had to be quiet, the monkeys were sleeping, etc. He screams, monkeys scatter, moms and kids glare at us for frightening them away. Rinse repeat at like every other exhibit practically.

They also run instead of walk. No matter how much we tell them not to. Jump on furniture. Jump just any time. Roll around the room for no reason. Cartwheel. Tumble. They'd swing from the ceiling fans if I let them. On the plus side they get tons of exercise. They're physical. Both learned how to swim within three days of being around my mom's pool. But on the downside there is no controlling them physically. You can't get them to walk. Not even if you give them reasons. Consequences don't make a darn difference. I just gave up a while ago. They won't sit in the bathtub, they won't walk around the poolside, they won't follow basic safety instructions. I feel like a failure but it's really, no matter HOW many times I tell them, quietly, loudly, with a "if you don't sit down you can't play" or whatever... they won't comply. Or they will for 30 seconds and then not. When DD is by herself she's fine, but she copies him, and he really doesn't seem to be able to control himself in any way. I'm pretty darn sure that it's ADHD. It has to be. Diet doesn't make a change, by the way.

My voice is now harsh and shrill from having to scream over them all day. It's demoralizing. If I talk in a normal volume they don't hear me. If I try the "whisper to them" trick - it doesn't work. They are always screaming, screaming, screaming. And then DH screams at me to stop screaming at them all day and then the kids cry because daddy is screaming, and it's just a nuthouse half the time. I'm so glad we're moving to the country cos there maybe they can be as loud as they want to.

I'm an introvert too and it's just so draining to me. I specifically deprive myself of sleep just so I can have an hour or two at night to recharge when everyone is sleeping, just so I get my quiet time. I need it. I need quiet time like I need water. Seriously.
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I'm an introvert too and it's just so draining to me. I specifically deprive myself of sleep just so I can have an hour or two at night to recharge when everyone is sleeping, just so I get my quiet time. I need it. I need quiet time like I need water. Seriously.
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This is me, as well. The lack of sleep is catching up with me, but I just can't stand the constant noise. I need to start getting out for evening walks again, I think. DD1 and ds2 are loud, rambuntious kids, and dd1 has taken to practicing the piano for brief periods about 15 times a day. DD2 is just starting to really talk, and yells "no", "help me [random family member]", "let me out", "get me down" and odd little sayings (my favourite is "you are a duckie...you are a cow" in a funny little singsong rhythm) all the time. So, the evenings are the only quiet time I can carve out....unless ds1 gets home, and recharges his highly extraverted batteries by draining my introverted ones. *sigh*
 
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