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I can't remember. I know there's a good handful of us. I keep getting asked if it bothers us we don't know-umm, if it did I would have found out. Oh, and how do we prepare for the baby if we don't know. What?
 

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I don't know the gender of this baby. I don't feel like there's really any gender specific preparation to do. Newborns really only wear onesies and sleepers at our house. Regular outfits come later.
 

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We don't know either. We have had 2 boys and 2 girls already, and I have saved all of their lttle outfits that I loved.....plus lots of little gowns, sleepers, and onsies. The baby always sleeps with us so there is no nursery to decorate. I don't feel unprepared at all.
 

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I agree that about the gender stuff. But when someone asks me that it's like they're saying they would have no idea what to buy then for the baby. There are other things besides blue and pink <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I don't know either. I iwll have to have a sono around 36 weeks and I am hoping I can hold out and not want a quick peek!
 

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We don't know. We didn't for our first but I have to say it's harder this time (for me) for some reason. With our first, my dh was the one who struggled but he's fine with not knowing this go around.
 

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We do not know the sex we didn't with number one either. I have tons of strpies and yellow and green newborn stuff that is all brand spankin' new. Elliot was 24 inches and 10 pounds and went straight into 0-3 and 3-6 stuff. I am hoping I get to use the little newborn things this time around! As far as the diaper bad and other stuff I just got prints ands colors that I liked! My diaper bag is pink I carry it around not the baby!
 

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We decided we didn't want to know. The ultrasound tech at our hospital is sort of famous for slipping and telling people, so we figured if we found out it was okay, but we weren't going to pursue it.<br>
It's amazing how annoyed other people get when they find out you aren't finding out.<br>
Since the baby has a July due date and we live in South Dakota, we figure it isn't going to need much clothing to start with. We also will have the baby in our room, so there's no need to decorate a nursery. The insurance company sent us a diaper bag- in stylish black. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br>
Rummage sale season starts here in full force on Saturday, and I'm curious to see what I can find that isn't so gender specific.
 

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We haven't ever found out and we aren't with this one either. My instinct has always been right, but I'm not sure with this one. I think I'm leaning more towards boy, but it changes often!<br><br>
I've had a couple ladies ask me if I know and when I told them no, they said oh that's great, we never used to be able to find out...I thought that was kinda cool...but then there's the, well, are you going to be prepared...what is the baby going to where? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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Count me in. I really had to push dh to agree on this, but he hasn't mentioned it once since about 13 weeks! Not even when we did the names.
 

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anevans-that's going to be tough at 36wks to hold out. Make sure you don't look if they're anywhere near where you can tell. There's more os us than I thought. I think it's fun this time around not knowing.
 

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There would be NO way for us to find out the gender since I have very strong beliefs against ultrasound. I do get very annoyed with people asking and also saying "doesn't it bother you not knowing?" I do take it as an oppurtunity to educate about ultrasounds. I get upset that this is such a normal occurance in out society that people are shocked when you aren't getting one.<br>
We have 4 girls and we would love a boy but we would also love a girl! We focus our energy on a healthy baby! Either way babe will be born in mid July and it is hot hot here so clothes won't be an issue. We also don't have a name for either gender yet!
 

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No ultrasounds here so no finding out. We did the same with ds so I have gender neutral newborn stuff. If I could find out without an ultrasound somehow, I still don't think I would. Though I agree with racecar it is more tempting this time around. I think we'll be kind of shocked if this babe is not a girl. DS has insisted it is a girl the whole time, and we and everyone close to us, including my mom, has girl feelings.
 

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we are only having ONE ultrasound, and its to check the placement of my placenta, to make sure its not on my c-sec scar. its for my own piece of mind i am worried about adhesions and trouble seperating after the birth..<br>
i dont know if we will even end up looking at the baby at all.<br>
maybe. maybe not.<br>
we arent really in the NEED to know. tho DH would like to know.<br>
i have NO strong desire to know the gender.
 

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My husband and kids want to know so I am betting we will take a peek. I am kinda hoping things will be very cramped and we can't get a clear view.
 

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We're pretty old fashioned, and like to do things the old way. Gramma's understand not knowing. Most everyone else begs to know. We were both raised without gender bias. Girls worked on tractors, boys sewed, and vice-versa. There's no pink and blue here. We like green!
 

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We aren't planning on having an ultrasound and definitely didn't have an amnio so it would be a little difficult to find out before birth <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> Everyone's more fine with us not finding out than with us not having an ultrasound <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> In fact, people don't comment at all about us not finding out gender once they find out about not having an ultrasound at all. I guess that shock overrides the shock of us not finding out.<br><br>
We didn't find out with dd either so we have plenty of gender-neutral newborn clothing. I have plenty of girl clothes and I have a few boy clothes because we want a large family and will most likely eventually have a boy even if this one isn't. I'm also getting boy vibes so I have gotten some more boy clothing at yard/rummage sales... but there are perks with either gender! We get to pick two names, which is always fun also <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: We'll be happy no matter what <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
love and peace. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Ugh, I'm actually not looking forward to picking out two names... but I lost my chance to find out the gender, anyways.<br><br>
Dh wanted to find out the first time and he was so excited about it I was fine, but this time he doesnt' feel so strongly, so I didn't find out the gender.<br><br>
His family has at least 80 years of all boys (and lots of them) so the assumption is that the baby will be a boy.<br><br>
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Hi,<br>
I didn't have an ultrasound so I have not found out. We did not find out last time either b/c we didn't have an u/s w/that pregnancy as well. We found out w/our first and I really enjoyed finding out and w/the second it was hard not to know but then, having the surprise was actually really fun and I look forward to being surprised again. If I was somehow given the opportunity to know the sex ahead of time, I am not sure if I would take advantage of it or not. I do get eager to know what the baby is sometimes but it's not a big deal. I have lots of gender neutral gowns, sleepers and onesies. I just bought a shiny pinky purple diaper bag b/c it's MY accessory, not the kids'. As far as the room decor for the baby I am waiting until after the baby is born to buy that b/c I couldn't find anything gender neutral that I liked and the baby will be sleeping w/us for a few months anyways so it's not a necessity. It was also easy for us to pick out 2 names. We still liked our girl name from our last pregnancy and I had been thinking about boys' names long before I got pregnant again.
 
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