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I'm really struggling lately with being able to get anything done around here!! My 23 month old is into everything and it seems there are very few things that I can accomplish while she is around. So that leaves me with naptime and usually I am so pooped that I try to maybe get a few little things out of the way (tidying, dishwasher, laundry) before taking a short nap or just relaxing with Oprah :LOL Then dd stays up until about 10pm and dh and I spend about an hour together after that then I get up to go to bed and look aorund and realize how much I didn't get done. So then it takes me another hour to try and get a least a little bit done so that I start my day in a good place the next morning. I'm sure that being 6 weeks from due with my next baby is making me extra tired/lazy, etc but I can't help but think that my house is going to be totally neglected with 2 kids to look after.<br><br>
So how do you manage it? Is part of the secret just lowering expectations??
 

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for me, yes. i also find that having some sort of routine helps. there are things I can clean while DS is up, and things I would never bother to, because they would be in as bad or worse shape as soon as I was done. I tend to get a lot of the big stuff done on the wekends, or in a power clean one night, and then try and just maintain on the other days. Dh usually helps me do the quick pickup, and we are done in 20-30 min. I will then sit with a load of laundry and fold it while we watch something<br>
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It took me a while but I had to learn to lower my expectations. I mean I love clean and uncluttered homes. I yearn for one but I have come to a point that realistically it's not meant to be right now and that I can't beat myself up over it.<br><br>
I could list tips and tricks but I don't know if you're talking about clutter, dirty dishes, toys everywhere or if you're just a neat freak and can't wash the windows and baseboards like you used to.<br><br>
I don't remember if it's a saying or if it's just something I've heard but it's something about how when you have kids and a super clean, organized house you know who's getting more of the attention. Having two kids I know there is truth in that statement, whatever it is.
 

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Phyllis Diller said<br><br>
"Cleaning the house before the children stop growing<br>
is like shoveling the walk before it stops snowing."<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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Its hard for me to keep up with the cleaning and take care of the kids too. I've resolved that I can't keep everything spotless but I try to keep it at least presentable. I do a kind of modified FlyLady <a href="http://www.flylady.net/" target="_blank">http://www.flylady.net/</a> thing. Her whole "routine" thing is too much for me to keep up with right now, I just do things in a different order than she says to. But, I clean in 15 minute bursts. Seriously, I know it sounds stupid but you can get so much cleaning done in 15 minutes. Plus, the dc can usually occupy themselves during this time. What I do is spend time with them, feed them, play with them, etc. Ds1 is at the age now (18 months) where he'll play by himself for a little bit so when he does that I'll set the timer and clean. Nap time is vital for me, cleaning wise. And honestly, most days I'm not able to get a whole 15 minutes at a time so I just do 10 or 5. When I really need to do some heavy cleaning I stay up later after the dc are asleep (I am not a morning person but if you are, I'd say get up a little earlier). It is so not fun to spend my downtime cleaning though so I try to include the dc in the cleaning. I put ds2 in the Snugli and ds1 follows me around. We "race" from room to room while I put things away and he'll sometimes help me put up his toys though more often than not, he's just dumping out the ones I've put up.<br><br>
ETA: If you join FlyLady online, I recommend getting a seperate email address for it as the sheer number of emails are exhausting. I don't read hardly any of them anymore (just the daily missions) because it was taking too much time.
 

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As long as we have clean dishes, clean clothes, and food to eat dh and I are happy.<br><br>
When the kids are older we'll have a clean tidy house.<br><br>
A gal I know who has 11 kids said years age she learned the first thing to keep tidy is the living room that way if you have company your ready. Second is the kitchen the rest of the house who cares close the doors. Her house is so inviting, because its tidy. The living room is sparceto keep clutter down, things on the walls but not so much on the floor for ease of picking up and cleaning.<br><br>
Once we get our bedroom done so were not sleeping in the living room I think I will do her trick.<br><br>
Our girls are 5 1/2, 3 and 6 3/4 months
 

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<b>How much housework do you get done during the day?</b><br><br>
Very, very little.<br><br>
I have two under 2 (3.5 months and 21 months). IF I manage to get them both to nap at the same time AND I don't need a nap myself, THEN I might get a little bit of housework done during the day. This rarely happens though.<br><br>
At a minimum, I do try to keep the kitchen clean since we spend the most time in there. I also try to get a nutritional meal on the table every night since that is one thing that I consider totally my "job." DH would be willing to cook but, um, he sucks at it and I don't want to eat mac n cheese every night <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
Other things wait until the evenings after DH gets home or weekends so he can help.<br><br>
ETA: My ERGO should arrive today so I'm hoping that being able to put the little one in a back carry will help! I don't have high expectations though :LOL
 

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i get exactly one video's worth of housework done a day. for me that is one load of laundery, the dishes, and a quick living room straightening.<br><br>
i am hoping that after this baby is born i will eventualy have the energy to clean while the kdis are napping...right now i nap whileds is napping :LOL
 

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melissa<br><br>
sounds like you do a lot!!! what kind of things is your dd getting into..could you babyproof more or maybe we could brainstorm somethings to preoccupy her? will she "help" you? really tidying, dishes, and laundry is all i need to get done in a day plus maybe cooking. what other stuff are you trying to do?
 

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Housework?? What is THAT?! :LOL<br><br>
Seriously, DS is kind of a tornado, and what I pick up tends to get pulled right back out. It's as if it is suddenly interesting again because I am "paying attention" to it (by putting whatever it is back where it goes).<br><br>
I just figure as long as the house is clean enough that CPS won't think we're neglectful and we don't have swarms of insects roaming around, it's fine.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
My upstairs neighbor, who has 3 kids - 11, 5, and 3 I think -- has a SPOTLESS house apparently. She vacuums at LEAST *FOUR* times a day (I can hear it), and my DH has been up there to fix their computer and he says it's like a museum in there. Her own DH even says she is OCD about it. Maybe I should ask her to come down here :LOL I guess having 3 kids makes it a little easier to keep them occupied during cleaning? Who knows... I would personally hate being a kid living in an OVERLY clean house.
 

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Um, like none here too!<br><br>
I agree with the previous posters, as long as it's clean enough to be safe, it's fine! It's especially tough to get anything done because our daughter (16 months) won't sleep, naps included, without being in my arms, usually latched on. My husband helps as much as he can, but he takes care of our outside stuff (we live on a tree farm) after working his full-time job. So he is swamped with a lot of work. What time is left, I'd rather have him spend with us having fun as a family rather than cleaning!
 

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:LOL <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/happytears.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="happytears">: is this a trick question? I only clean the house when I know people are coming over or when I have a class. or really I and on the computer cause I DON"T want to go do the dishes and dd is sleeeeeping
 

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Phewf!! This makes me feel so much better!! I know that a super sweet, loving elderly lady at my church told her granddaughter that her biggest regret in life is spending too much time cooking and cleaning instead of investing that time in the people around her. Guess I have to remember that.<br><br>
I think right now I am trying to get spring cleaning done and it just isn't happening. We are in the process of finishing the basement so that is eating up all of dh's time and leaving me with everything else. I am also "nesting" with the babe on the way and want everything to be all orderly, organized and clean before she arrives because I expect chaos for a little while afterwards! :LOL<br><br>
I too find it hard to clean anytime that dd is around because as soon as I leave the room she has to follow me, even if she had previously been occupying herself with something, and as soon as I pay attention to something to clean it up it becomes very interesting to her as well. I have learned a lot of patience standing over the washing machine (front loading) as she attempts to "help" me by pulling each piece out and putting it in the dryer.<br><br>
So, lowered expectations it is!! That happens to be very difficult for me because I tend to be perfectionistic and imagine that everyone who sees my house is seeing everything that I haven't done. Not to mention that I have a mother and MIL who keep very clean house. Anyway, thanks for the encouragement, I'm so glad that I'm not alone on this one!! I will keep focusing on the "important" things on life and try not to stress about cleaning <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I try to just multitask where possible, or do a quick clean up when dh gets home and can occupy ds for awhile....<br>
For example, I'll give ds a bath and while he's in the bath I'll clean the rest of the bathroom (I only use baking soda and vinegar so I'm not worried bout chemical ingalation)...<br><br>
Or I get him to help with laundry (emptying the dryer...etc) ...but mostly, it's just neglected.
 

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Our house gets clean then too--sometimes I am so happy people are coming over so our house gets clean :LOL . We also clean when the house gets so dirty I worry about CPS coming to visit and seeing our home or when we get ants <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> DH and I tend to do a lot of cleaning on the weekend when we can tag team the kids--unless it is a nice weekend, then it is hard to stay in the house to clean when we have been home all week--KWIM?
 

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Yeah we try the evening/weekend cleaning thing too so that we can tag team but I often find that I just want to spend time together as a family and not be running in opposite directions all night.
 

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housework.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao"> seriously it depends on my day. Somedays i look in amazed delight at how much i've accomplished. other days well i'm lucky to have my diapers washed. I like a CLEAN house, meaning well kept hygenically. But the messes & laundry etc., lets face it we have alot to do & take care of our kids. If i spent all my time cleaning my kids would never spend time with me, hubby & i would never have sex & well my legs would never get shaved!!! hence no sex!!!! LMAO...<br><br>
i try to schedule cleaning times around my day for like 10-15 mins slots while it is peaceful in my home. I can get in & scrub my entire bathroom includung hand washing the floor & tub etc in less then 15 min. So i just tacler a area at a time & hope to get some done threw out the day.<br><br>
Laundry never ends so why stress over it. Cooking yea well i cook & i also do a great take out phonecall to!!!! As long as my house is clean when people come over i'm happy. I just hate for people to see my house filthy. So i never let it get that way. Messy, well leave if you don't like the thong hanging from the dining room chandelreer!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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