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I am wondering about how much rhythm you all have in your days? I feel myself resisting the term schedule but I guess you could look at it like that. I have a 9 month old and a 2 1/2 year old and am struggling to find some rhythm that works. A really rigid day would not work for us but how much regularity do our children need? We have regular nap and bedtimes, and our meals are pretty regular. Is that enough? My days feel like they need a little more structure. Could some of you that have (or have had) kids of simliar ages let me know what a typical day looks like. (like an hour by hour run down...)
 

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Hour by hour is tough, because each day is different for us. As you said, we have regular nap times, regular meal times and regular bed times, but everything else varies. Having said that, our day to day varies, but our week to week is pretty similar.<br><br>
I have 2 children ages 3 1/2 and 9 months, so similar to yours. Our daily "routine" goes as such:<br><br>
7:30 - baby (DD2) wakes, nurses, plays<br><br>
8:30 - DD1 wakes, plays with DD2 while I make breakfast, we eat<br><br>
9:00 - DD2 naps, DD1 and I play together while DD1 naps (this is usually when I throw in some laundry also...DD1 likes to "help" with that)<br><br>
10:30 - DD2 wakes, nurses and DD1 has a snack, then we all play until lunch time<br><br>
12:00 - kids play alone while I fix lunch then we eat.<br><br>
1:30 - DD2 nurses and goes down for a nap, DD1 plays<br><br>
2:00 - DD1 down for a nap, I catch up on the dishes and cleaning up from breakfast and lunch, then I usually do some yoga and I WAH, so if there's time left I sit down at the computer and do wome work<br><br>
4:30 - Kids start waking up, have snacks and play until DH gets home, when DH gets home I start dinner while he plays with kids, then we eat, play do our bedtime routine and get the kids in bed. Our bedtime is 8:30 for DD2, 9:00 for DD1<br><br>
So.....That's a typical day. On Tuesday and Thursday DD2 goes to preschool from 8:45-11:15, so we have to wake her earlier and do breakfast earlier. We get home from dropping her off in time for DD2's nap, and while she naps and DD1 is at school I clean (Tuesdays the upstairs, Thursdays the downstairs, and on Wednesday I clean the basement while the kids are playing in their toy room down there).<br><br>
Now, what varies are the activities that we do between nap times. If the weather is nice we do outdoor things, if the weather is bad we will either stay in and play or visit some indoor play places (there are several near us, as well as the museum which has an area specifically for toddlers/preschoolers). We also, when the weather is nice, will head to the park quite often (DD2 takes her nap there while I hold her in the sling, and DD1 plays), we'll stay until we've eaten our lunch and then head home for naps.
 

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I also can't really give an hour by hour. Same here with regular meal, snack and bed times. But generally it's our outside activities preschool, story times, play dates etc. that provide the structure to our days but we just added a new baby 6 weeks ago so we're still in the process of regrouping our schedule.
 

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Morning:<br><br>
Nurse 8 month old, giggle and play, 20 month old wakes up. Get everyone dressed for the day. Pop a bagel in the toaster for toddler and myself, or banana or something easy like that. Poke around on MDC for awhile <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:<br><br>
Between wake up and lunchtime I might do some laundry, pick up clutter, clean whatever needs cleaned, or do nothing at all. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Afternoon:<br><br>
Eat lunch, play, go outside if its nice, put the boys down for their naps, continue housework, or take a nap myself. Or poke around on MDC <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:<br><br>
Early evening:<br><br>
Make dinner, DH comes home, whatever hasn't been accomplished will wait until the next day. We go for lots of walks if its nice, play outside some more.<br><br>
7:45-8pm Bath and bedtime for toddler, 8 month old will go to bed by 9pm at the latest. The rest of the evening is ours to do whatever. Often I will do grocery shopping late so i can go be an autonomous human being for a few hours!<br><br>
But that's about it for us.
 

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THANK YOU!! It looks like I am one of the few who struggle with this. I think I will always wonder if I am doing enough...(sigh). Or perhaps too much! I do have days where I feel like I'm "riding the wave", on top of the inevitabe struggles, mountains of laundry, hungery bellies....and other days that I don't. Actually last night I had a dream (a real, lying in my bed asleep dream) that I was drowing in a sea of laundry! At this moment right now though, the 2 little loves of my life are asleep, I have a bed with CLEAN sheets to hop into and the hope of 6 hours uninterrupted sleep! Goodnight ladies, sweet dreams...
 

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We follow a pretty strict schedule, child directed when possible, but we have obligations like preschool, classes at the Y, CSA work, etc. I much prefer to know what to expect about my day, and my children do better with a schedule too. Of course we're flexible and enjoy impromptu activities. But mealtimes, bedtimes and the baby's naptime are pretty set within half an hour.<br><br>
My husband travels a lot and is currently away for 10 days, but all the boys slept from 7:30-6:30, the baby waking after 8 hours to come to bed with me. And today we're cancelling our plans at the Y to go spend the day playing with their cousins 45 minutes away.
 
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