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DD2 loves to be worn and HATES to go down for naps. Unlike DD1 who loved and craved quiet time in the rocking chair before each nap and bedtime, DD2 is a TOTAL extrovert who deplores having to sleep (I think she's afraid she's missing out on something). If I try to rock and hold her to sleep, she <i>screams</i>. If I put her on my back in the Ergo, she is usually asleep within 20 minutes.<br><br>
So these days, she is on my back around the house for anywhere from an hour to an hour and a half (total). If we are out running errands, she is usally in my MT on the front (facing in). That could be anywhere from 20 minutes to over an hour.<br><br>
Is this too much time with her legs being spread apart like that each day? I have a RS and pouch, but she is SUCH a grabber and leaner, it's not very helpful to put her in either of those.<br><br>
Thanks for any input!
 

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at that age my DS spend waaaaay more time in a carrier each day than that, as he napped usually 2x a day on me (which was at least an hour each time, usually twice that) and often was just happier up there next to me while i cleaned or took a walk or went grocery shopping or whatever. there's nothing wrong with keeping their legs spread like that - in fact kids who have hip dysplasia are purposely placed in that position for correction, and it increases their flexibility. DS is now a 2.5 yo who is constantly on the move and pretty much never worn unless we're going on a hike, and he's got perfect posture, and is actually more flexible in his hips than his 4.5 yo sister, who didn't get worn quite as much (since i was able to just sit around with her a lot more i didn't feel the need so much as i did with him).<br><br>
i wouldn't worry about it at all.
 

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oh good! That makes me feel much better. It works so wonderfully for us, I was going to be very sad if I needed to change!!
 

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As long as it's working for you don't change it!! IMO, at this age if her legs were uncomfortable she'd let you know and wouldn't be happy to be carried often. Developmentally I wouldn't worry as long as she's comfortable. Sometime in the future, what you might want to consider is gradually getting her used to sleeping in other places. You probably don't want to get to the point where you end up with a 20lb baby on you who won't sleep elsewhere and it's starting to hurt or impact what you can get done. But that does't mean you have to start now.
 

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I don't think you can wear a six month old baby "too much" as long as you are both enjoying it and your daughter is not hanging from her crotch (Bjorn style).
 

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With DD1 she took all her naps while being worn or on my lap. She was worn average of 10hrs or more a day until 8mo same with DD2 only she NEVER slept in a carrier so she took naps in her crib or in bed with me.
 

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Thanks, mamas! I should have clarified in my OP - I just wear her until she goes to sleep. Once she is asleep, I slide her off my back into the crib or our bed for her nap. She does okay sleeping elsewhere for naps - it's just GETTING her to sleep that is difficult. Unless she's on my back in the Ergo. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
Thanks again for the feedback. Very reassuring!
 

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I don't think it's possible to carry them too much at that age. (Unless they're hanging by the crotch in a Bjorn, like someone said above.) Babies are very flexible, so having their legs spread apart is not a big deal to them at all. As long as their weight is supported evenly across the bum, they are fine being worn pretty much forever.
 

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I'm jealous that you can transfer her so easily! Since she started crawling 2 wks ago, my dd won't nap anywhere but on my back in the ergo. She spends easily 6 hrs a day awake and asleep in the ergo, the rest crawling after brother. I think it gives her a sense of security to know she CAN be close when she needs it, that I'm not limiting her on it. I wouldn't worry.
 

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DD was always napping in the wrap at 6 months, do not worry <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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my 7mo takes every nap being worn...won't allow me to put her down onto the bed, no matter how gently i can entangle her down...and she takes 3 naps a day...each nap approx 45-1hr long...and she can sleep up to 2 hrs a nap if the house is nice and quiet <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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In some cultures, children are worn pretty much constantly until they are over 9 months - I wouldn't worry about wearing a 6 month old too much. My dd loved to napp in her ERGO until she was like 18 months and probably longer if my back had allowed.
 

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I have a 20 lb 6.5 month old and I wear him for 3-5 hours a day, if not more. You get used to the weight and I can do almost anything. I, however, almost never carry him on my front. He will rarely go down for a nap in the bed. I try sometimes and he will stay awake and fuss for 30-60 minutes before he sleeps. Then I have to stay in bed with him or he will be up again. It's just much less trouble to have him nap on my back.
 

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here's my question-- what about things like rolling and crawling and playing? i feel like i hold dd so much during the day (she's 5 months) that maybe i don't give her enough opportunity to do those things? ds crawled kinda on the late side anyhow and i didn't wear him quite as much, though still a bunch. i don't need to worry right? when she's superready to be given the opportunities she'll let me know? how much "down" time do you give your babe? thanks!
 

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The desire to roll and crawl and be on the ground is born in your baby. When they are ready they will LET YOU KNOW! My LO loves the floor, he rolls and plays a lot. If I put him in a carrier when he'd rather be playing he has a conniption fit. Your DC's will tell you when their bodies want them to go. In the meantime, wearing is the same as "tummy time" and increases their torso strength and balance.
 

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IMO, DD will let you know when she wants to get down and play- I'd say make sure to give her the opportunity at least 1x per day, but don't force it if she's not ready. My dd is 6 mos. and I used to have the same worries- she spent almost no time on her tummy b/c she hated it. And I wore her at least 5-6 hours/day the first 4 mos. or so. Now she likes floor time, but when I put her on her tummy she rolls right over b/c she still hates being on her tummy. It's taking some getting used to for me that dd wants to spend time on the floor now. Your dd will let you know when she's ready!
 

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Oh heavens yes - like pp said, when AJ doesn't want to be worn, she does not HESITATE to let me know. Most of the time, if her big sister is awake and playing, she doesn't want to be worn unless she is getting sleepy. She's seven months now and loves to be on the floor - rolling, scooting, and just interacting with her sister and mom and dad if we are in the room. Mostly sister though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Anyway, life changes SO much once they get mobile. I am not in a super big hurry for her to start crawling!!
 

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as far as I know, my brother and I were worn by our mom until we were well into our toddler years. like pp said, that's just cultural. and we don't have any leg / hip problems as a result of that.<br><br>
you're very lucky the baby will stay asleep while you transfer her to the bed.<br><br>
my ds was a napper only in carriers for over a year.
 
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