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My DS nurses several times a day still, at 23 months.

I don't mind it - in fact I like it, usually


I just figured he wouldn't nurse as much when he got this age.

Adding to that fact, I barely have ANY supply - the most I've ever produced was around 8 oz a day, and since I'm weaning myself off of domperidone I know it's much lower than that.

But he still nurses like a newborn.

Sometimes I wonder if I use nursing as a bit of a crutch... do you ever worry about that? If he's upset or I want him to go to sleep, or if I just want to distract him for a few minutes (i.e. the muffins are still baking and he's about to have a meltdown because he wants muffins NOW).

Does anyone else worry about that?

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usualy dd nurses about 10 times in 24 hours, lol
today she has only nursed 3 times since we got up. she's been very busy playing today.
 

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Dd is 21 months and actually nurses more now as a toddler than when she was an infant, because then she nursed mainly for food and she was quick. Now, it is a different story. She loves hanging at the breast when she is bored, tired, sleepy or just because she needs it. We still nurse a lot during a day, probably every hour or so if we are not out, and 2 to 3 times in a night (if she is sick or is teething she basically stays latched all night).
 

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My ds sounds the same and he is 2.5 and yes I do worry that I depend on it too much sometimes.

If it is just he and I ( and it often is - he nurses a lot) but if my mom comes up to play with him then he will nurse less ..so sometimes I wonder if I am just boring or not playing with him enough.

But I think that it is impossible to be as cool as grandma all day when you are the mom and balancing messes, grimy floors, potty learning, clothing struggles, figuring out dinner etc...you get the picture.

I too thought he would nurse less at this age and I think a month or two ago he was nursing less but everything seems to have changed this month and I suppose it will again.

It is the only time he is even remotely still so...I don't mind much either.

 

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At 23-24 months both of my kids were nursing every 1-2 hours during the night and very frequently during the day.

We night weaned DS for 4-5 hours a night at 25 months and she cut back a lot during my pg with DS (she was 31 months when he was born).
 

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My DS is at the later end of 2 (he'll be 3 in December) and he's gotten to the point where he nurses in the morning, at nap time (if that happens), at bedtime, and then a few times throughout the night.

I used to worry that I used it as a pacifier like other posters have mentioned...but if DS didn't want to / enjoy nursing, he wouldn't do it! So I figure there's nothing wrong with offering the boob if one or the other of the nursing pair just needs a break.
 

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My ds is nearly three also, and just after turning 2 he was still nursing several times a day, he'd just nightweaned so was probably making up for some of the lost nursings... now he is nursing at bedtime, and now and then during the day once or twice. Daytime nursings are always for stress reduction on one or both our parts, or if he crashes and gets an "owie" or is having a hard time with mouth pain because of a cold sore... or, since he gave up naps, he'll sometimes need a refresher in the late afternoon. Normally these daytime nursing sessions only last a few minutes. I'm glad we still have this most effective tool for the two of us to use, it's still the best comfort/calming activity in his life even if he only needs it for a second before he's refueled and ready to go about his business again. If he wasn't able to access mama's milk for that purpose, he'd be using... well, a pacifier, lol, and I'd way rather have him get the real thing.
 

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My dd is almost 2, and she nurses during "down times", i.e., during nap, before sleep, sometimes at night. (some nights she sleeps through, other nights it's a lot.) She is too busy playing during the day to bother to nurse, unless she is sick or teething.
 

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My girls just turned 2. I refuse to try to count how many times they nurse because it brings back SUCH awful memories of the detailed journal I had to keep during the preemie months. AAAAAARRRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! However I will say that they nurse frequently day and night. I am surprised if we go an hour without someone nursing. I hate that I, too, worry about being a pacifier when in fact the pacifier is a replacement for mother and I am doing exactly what I should be doing when I nurse them as often as they need it. I really really hate that I worry about that. It doesn't stop me from nursing them lots and lots and lots though.
I will NOT let the formula companies win!!!!!
 

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My ds would probably nurse all day long with only a few small breaks if I let him
I am also nursing a 15 week old, so I have to limit him a bit. He doesn't always nurse for long periods of time, but he will have a quick snack atleast twice an hour during the day. He sleeps pretty well at night and sometimes doesn't nurse at all, but some nights he nurses more than the baby.
 

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She's nursing right now, actually. Hehehe
She nurses to sleep...and...all sorts of times in between...

When she needs to...after scrapes and bumps...after scares. When she's not feeling up to par...or when she's just sad. I don't really think it's a crutch so much as...she just needs to. For whatever reasons...those reasons are hers. And I'm happy, as her mom, to oblige.


That's not to say, of course, that I don't get irritated at times.


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DS is 26 months now and I can't keep track of how many times he nurses, its a lot though. He always nursed more than the average child of his age group. I especially see it now that I have my younger son who nurses an average amount, I struggle not feeling like I'm starving him even though he doesn't want more.

ANyways back to DS1 he nurses a lot, I tried distraction, I tried redirecting and offering other things and none of it works, I'd say its about once an hour or so that he nurses, he also eats a lot in solids again more than your average two year old, so its possible he hs a larger appetite, although at this point I don't think nursing is about hunger for him but about comfort. I'm doing my best to be okay with it and deal with my emotions but am struggling since I'm tandeming and am feeling burnt out..
 

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I'm a WOHM so during the weekdays he nurses about every 2-3 hours at night, when he wakes in the morning, when I get home from work, and to sleep at night. On the weekends he nurses down for his nap, and nurses fairly often throughout the day (every 3 hours or so). The only time I feel like limiting his nursing is at night, I really wish he slept better and did not expect to get the boob every time he wakes.
 

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My dd is 29 months and she nurses about 6 times during the day and 3 times during the night. I am trying to limit night nursing, but it is so hard! My ds nursed until WAY past his 3rd birthday and my dd seems to be on a similar routine to ds at each age.
 

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my ds is 26 months and is still nursing. During the day he keeps busy and doesn't nurse too much, mostly first thing in the morning and than again maybe mid-day, unless I am on the phone in that case he nurses for most of my conversation. He still does at night, but somenights much more than others. I feel that our nursing relationship is just fine right now, I too nurse him sometimes just because it is easier, but I figure hey if I use breastfeeding to help myself out every now and then that is fine, it is better than alot of the alternatives. I am planning on getting pregnant next year and am not sure of my ability to nurse through a pregnancy, but I will cross that bridge when I get to it.
 

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I give a lot of credit to all you mamas who are still nursing their 2 year olds more than a few times a day. DD nurses just twice a day - and though I believe in CLW, I encouraged this twice a day routine once baby #2 arrived when dd was 22 mo. She wanted to nurse whenver the baby did, and I had to just set some limits because it wasn't physically possible for me to nurse both. I tried tandeming at the same time, and it was overstimulation for me. Plus, I realized it might be better for me anyway to only nurse her a few times a day - so she took some adjusting to it, and now very very occasionally she will nurse during the day if she's really tired/cranky. But when she does nurse in the morning, it's a nice long time and I can tell she's getting a lot of volume. So that's what is working for us.
 
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